How do I keep our wedding different than my sisters???

My baby sister and I both got engaged on the same day, which was one of the coolest things in the world, until now all of a sudden our weddings are six weeks apart, done by the same minister, and now she's talking about booking her reception at the same place that my fiance and I have already booked. I love her and I want her wedding special and that she has what she wants, but I'm feeling a strain to keep our weddings seperate. Too many things are starting to look similar. Our colors are slightly different, the bridesmaids dresses are looking similar, the flowers are looking similar, and now the reception being at the same place. I know that most brides struggle to make their weddings unique, but now I'm struggling big time. How do I help make it different so I don't feel like our wedding is a complete copy of hers???

How do I keep our wedding different than my sisters???
You need to start doing some research on decor and colors you would like and make those changes. When you do this don't tell her, keep it to yourself and ask anyone else who is helping you with the planning to not tell anyone else. Seems like she doesn't have any ideas of her own and is letting you do all the planning and using it for her own. You may want to give her a few magazines that have some ideas that are different from the ones you are currently using to help her go into a different direction.
Reply:Fuzzy has a pretty good idea...my mom and dad got married at a double wedding with one of her sisters.





It may save you a load of time/money if you work w/your sis on this and then you can have some extra money to take a killer honeymoon.
Reply:If you step back and look at the options a bride has in designing her wedding, there are only so many variables; all weddings are the same in some basic ways.





Think about it from the guests' points of view-they'll be familiar with the venue and with familiarity comes comfort. Your sister appreciates your taste. That's not a bad thing.





In your planning from this point on, try to keep your decisions going in different directions-perhaps your themes could be very different, the types of favors, and especially the way the reception venue is laid out. That, alone, could make the entire experience feel unique.





Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.
Reply:two weddings only six weeks apart. I dont know. I think if you want to have a wedding of your own move the date to something like 3 months apart from hers. That way people that are being invited dont find things too similar to one another. About the place look for something some were else. You should be just fine. Good Luck and congratulations.
Reply:communication is the most important thing! my sister and i dont talk that much! you're lucky, you have a sister that's really close to you. i love my sister but she's just a bi***. im older than her but it seems like she's older than me (the way she acts, the way she talks to me, etc.). she's now married, and by the way, she's my dad's favorite daughter, so all the favors go to her. but i dont care, i just do my own thing. im getting married this year and my sister and her husband are planning to have their church wedding next year.





anyways, i hope you talk to her - just be honest. i wish i have the same sister as yours. you can have a double wedding if you want.





good luck!
Reply:I would have had a double wedding!
Reply:I understand your dilemma. There are only so many ways to tie a bow or arrange flowers.





This is where your officiant/minister comes in.


Many pastors have a stock ceremony they use, over %26amp; over %26amp; over. And there isn't anything wrong with that, except in your situation.





Experience tells me that those couples who spend a few extra minutes on the "do you take" part find that their time was spent wisely.





See if your minister is willing to write a ceremony just for you. One that reflects Your love %26amp; Your personalities. This, with a few other adjustments, you wedding will feel just that, Your Wedding.
Reply:you sound like you have a good relationship so dont be afraid to talk to her about it..





otherwise you could just plan some exciting things and not tell anyone! hehe i know its a bit bitchy.. but hey you dont want her stealing all your ideas haha..





both of you have lovely DIFFERENT weddings! x
Reply:Wow, that's tough. I would have to say that you need to sit down with your sister and let her know that as much as you love her you're starting to feel like your weddings are a little too close for comfort. Find out what she's thinking for music in the church - if she's having an organist you have a pianist (I had a pianist at mine and it was beautiful), put your flowers at different places in the church, have different pew bows, walk in and out of the ceremony using different aisles if possible. If the church has banners up on the walls ask the minister to switch the banners so that there's different ones up for your wedding. Use different programs. As far as the reception goes, ask for foods that your sister's not planning on having or choose a different caterer and keep the hall. You know what, though? Even if everything was exactly the same it wouldn't really matter. The important thing is not to sweat the small stuff and to remember that as long as you and your fiance say your vows the rest is just icing on the cake. Good luck on your special day.
Reply:There is only one solution...talk to your sister about this. It sounds like the two of you are close and can openly communicate with one another.
Reply:Sit down with her and tell her that the guests might be feeling a little deja vu if you don't make an effort to have distinct events.





Maybe you can compromise on what's the same or similar? Look at what each of you has already booked, and what can be changed. I'm sure you'll both find things that you don't have your hearts set on. Regarding the reception venue, tell her that while you're flattered she loves the same one, that the guests might think it was weird for the two of you to have your receptions at the same place. (And if it has an in-house caterer, the menu)