Alochol at wedding?

My wedding is going to be September 29, 2007, we are getting married outside small wedding. Then inviations were sent out for a reception at 6pm, there we are having a casual bbq dinner, decorations are fall flowers in buckets, that are cute. We also have a band to start around 8, would it look bad if we say byob, my parents do not believe in drinking, but I drink along with my future husband. So I didn't want to serve it because of them. What should we do?

Alochol at wedding?
BYOB is bad for a wedding. you either provide the drinks or you have a dry wedding.
Reply:BYOB is really tacky for a wedding. I'd serve alcohol whether your parents drink or not.
Reply:You can't have BYOB - either provide alcohol for your guests, or have a dry wedding, one or the other.
Reply:No, it's beyond tacky to tell people to bring their own booze to a wedding reception. Either provide it, or don't have any. Ask this question on the boards at www.etiquettehell.com and see what reaction you get. They're experts at wedding etiquette.
Reply:Talk to your parents about it, and let them know that this is a hard decision for you because you really want to respect them, but you want your guests to enjoy themselves. Feel out their response. Your options are: you talk them into paying for alcohol; you pay for it yourselves; or no alcohol. A wedding can not be BYOB.
Reply:BYOB for a wedding is in bad taste. I agree with the first answer. Either take control of your wedding and serve it yourselves or have a dry wedding. What you have to remember is that it is YOUR wedding. Peace and God bless.
Reply:Awful. Do not put that on the invitation. It looks cheap and it's in the poorest taste.





Having a dry wedding is fine, but asking your guest to bring their own alcohol is beyond tacky.





No matter how many times you ask the same question, BYOB is not appropiate for a wedding. If you want to look cheap and tacky, then go ahead.
Reply:You should not ask your guests to provide their own refreshments to your wedding, even if it is casual. And, if yoru family opposes drinking, what is the difference of whether you hand it to them or they bring it themselves?
Reply:since its a bbq, I would just supply beer and tell people if they want anything else then to bring that themselves. that way it doesnt look cheap on your, but you dont need to serve all the expensive alcohols that cost you tons. just stary stocking up on beer whenver you can afford to buy a few cases and before you know it, you'll have enough for the wedding. thats what my husband and I did.
Reply:I think I just answered this question for you -





Even though it's a casual reception, you're still the host of an event (your wedding) and the people who attend are your guests. Do not ask them to provide their own refreshements. It's tacky. Treat them like guests.





If cost is an issue, a dry reception is perfectly acceptable. But this isn't a picnic - BYOB is a no-no.
Reply:It is your wedding day. If you want alochol then you should have it. It is not you parents wedding it is your special day. You do not want to tell people to bring there own alochol, that is very tacky. It is great that your parents don't drink but that doesnt mean that others don't. We were going to have a dry wedding last year and decided at the last minute to have alochol and I am so glad that we did. We had our reception in our back yard. We did soda, a keg of beer and we had a table with a bunch of bottles of alochol and mixers for people to make there own drinks and it worked out well. There were a few on my husbands side that didnt drink but they never said anything bad about it and our day was beautiful. Good luck to you and congratulations.
Reply:If you can't afford drinks at your wedding, have a dry reception. Don't put the blame on your parents. It would look tacky if you have BYOB after stating that your parents are against alcohol,duh.
Reply:I agree, it would be tacky to put something like that on the invite. For my wedding I tossed the idea of alcohol around for a while considering I don't drink and a lot of my friends from church were attending and I wasn't sure how many of them drank. I had a more formal reception, but, what I did is had champagne for the toast, but also had sparkling grape juice for those who wanted it (this worked well because my husbands 4 kids were also there) and then I just had a bottle of white and a bottle of red on each table. that way, if ppl wanted to drink they could, if they didnt, they didnt have to. It is your wedding afterall.....if you think your guests would enjoy a bit of drinking, I would provide some...you don't have to have a lot, but make some available. Its fine that your parents don't believe in drinking, many ppl dont, and until my honeymoon i'd never even had a drink myself my whole life.
Reply:i dont think it would be a good idea
Reply:It would look really bad to your Mom %26amp; Dad if everyone BYOB. If they don't believe in drinking and they are helping to pay for the reception, there should not be any alcohol there.


Can't you just do soft drinks or punch without alcohol?
Reply:You're right, byob doesn't look real good on an invite, but just keep in mind that if you want alcohol there, depsite what your parents may think, you can have it. It's your day... Either need to go w none at all or provide it for them.
Reply:Make it an open bar. Yee Haw!!!!
Reply:Let your guests know that out of respect for your family you are not going to serve alcohol , however if they would like to drink they can bring their own liquor . I am getting married next weekend and I am not serving any liquor being that half of them are coming in from out of town and have to drive back home which can range from 2hrs and up and I do not want anything happenining to them so i told them they can bring their own alcohol but whatever happens its not on me and my husband.
Reply:You need to decide what is more important to you and weigh the consequences. 2 options:





1) You honor your parent's wishes. At the reception you will not have any alcohol to drink, and you may hear some grumbling from guests.


2) You serve alcohol. You will have a few drinks at the reception, as will your guests, some of which will get rowdy. You will certainly hear it from your parents.





It's you day. Which seems like the better scenario to you?
Reply:Well, the best part of growing up and having your own life is that you get to make your own decisions. Firstly, BYOB is straight GHETTO. You don't want to do that to yourself or to your guests. Now, your parents have to accept you for who you are and what you choose to do in life. Of course, they aren't going to agree with every decision you make, but they should be there regardless. How about a compromise...since your parents are anti-liquor and you obviously want there to be some, why not limit it to champagne/wine? This way, your guests will get a "good buzz" and your parents should know that champagne and wine are key factors in any wedding. Other than that, I agree with everyone else. There's no reason not to have a dry wedding. You have to choose one way or the other, like with God, there is no inbetween.





Good Luck
Reply:Open bar for 2 hours when the music starts.
Reply:Serve alcohol or don't. Just because your parents don't believe in drinking doesn't mean you can't serve alcohol. It just means they won't be drinking any of it. If you want you can limit the alcohol by serving a champagne toast, wine, beer %26amp; champagne punch only.(no hard liquor) But whatever you do, never do BYOB. That is beyond horrible %26amp; tacky.
Reply:Having people bring their own will look a lot worse to your parents than if you just served it yourself.
Reply:I just went to a dry wedding and it was lovely. If you want to minimize the alcohol but still have some, you could serve only champagne.
Reply:never say byob! thats tacky.


just have a dry reception. alcohol should never be expected at a wedding.
Reply:I think you should just tell your parents you are having alcohol, since most of your friends occasionally like to have a cocktail, since it is so laid back BBQ you could go with perhaps a keg of beer and some wine. Have fun and good luck.