I found this amazing idea online for my wedding reception but I wanted to get some opinions on it... I found this website called scentevents.com and basically you rent this machine and whatever scents you want (example scents they give on their website can range from baked apple pie, chocolate, popcorn, to flowers, or margaritas) can scent the reception hall for the length of the reception to give it a themed feel. I am planning a fall themed wedding reception and I thought the smell of spiced cider or apple pie would really give our guests the feel of autumn but I'm not sure how people would react to this! What do you all think?!
I need an opinion....?
it sounds neat, but it might be a problem for others....some people have allergies to that kind of thing and others are sensative or just plain dont like certain scents. the apple pie would be a problem for me becuase the smell of cinnamin makes me feel sick. it might also give people headaches to smell it the whole reception. I honestly wouldnt waste the money on it and risk it being a problem for your guests.
Reply:I think that is A great idea!!! People will love it if the scent is not too strong.
Reply:sounds cool , good idea and something different
Reply:I love scents, and think they can make any place feel more beautiful. I love the spicy apple scent you are talking about, and think it would be a lovely addition to your ceremony venue! Best wishes!
Reply:I love the idea. I love smells and I love when smells remind me of something. It would be sweet if the smell of spiced cider always reminded your guests of your special day.
Reply:Why not use a bunch of spiced apple candles and give it a nice glow?? Try to incorporate them into your centerpieces.
Reply:I wouldn't bother. Let the scents of the flowers you will have and the food you will be serving be enough.
Reply:That's a very nice idea :)
Reply:I have never heard of anything like that, but it seems pretty cool. Sounds like it could get expensive though. Why not just use candles?
Reply:I'd advise against it. I have many friends who are allergic . . . and need everything unscented. They would become ill and have to leave the reception early. That wouldn't be any fun. =(
I'm serious. I have some friends one cannot even wear cologne around. If you use a scent and have just one person like that in attendance, things will not be fun.
Reply:As long as the scent is not too overpowering (in case some people don't enjoy that particular scent or have allergies of some sort), I'm sure that it would add a nice touch to the reception.
Reply:that sound wonderful, just make sure the scent isn't overbearing as some people get nauseous and headaches...you know what i mean, when youre stuck at the movies next to the woman with a whole bottle of perfume on?
Reply:This sounds good in theory, but I think it may be a mistake. One reason, obviously, being that many people are allergic or very sensitive to perfumes and scents. Secondly, for the same reason you never put a scented candle on a dining table, you don't want any smells to compete with the meals, it can definitely ruin the dinner.
Reply:that sound so cool. i am get married next month i am going to go check out that website thanks
Reply:I am not sure I would go with a "scented" wedding reception. What about those who may be sensitive to smells or those with allergies. If you do decide to go with it, I would recommend candles, that way it is less invasive and those who are sensitive could possibly steer clear easier.
Reply:very unique idea, I like it.
as long as it is within your budget, and your fiancee agree with it too.
Reply:You might want to find out if people have severe sinus problems first. If they can not use scented candles then they may not be able to take it. Or find out if it is a strong sent or just a hint of smell.
Other then that it sound like a very cool ideal.I know that the sent of spiced cider makes me think of fall.
Good luck and i hope you are able to do it.
Reply:welli think that would be a wonderful idea
Reply:my mother's work would do something similar to what you are saying and it would smell so great. :) as a guest i would love it, i would do it. :)
Reply:I would suggest serving spiced cider and pie. Have the actual natural aromas fill the air. Scent machines typically use artificial chemicals to achieve different scents. If you have any asthmatics coming to your wedding, you might end up with an ambulance at your reception. That would definitely NOT be the ambiance you wanted.
Friday, May 21, 2010
Can I use black bridesmaid dresses without using black in the decor?
I really want to use champagne and ivory for all the decorations, invitations, etc. but this color doesn't look good on my bridesmaids. We're getting married in June of 09 and our wedding is at night. The ceremony is in a church and the reception is outdoors. Our flower colors are ivory and blush pink. Would it be appropriate for me to use black short cocktail dresses for my bridesmaids?
Can I use black bridesmaid dresses without using black in the decor?
Hi and congratulations!
YES, that will look nice! Very pretty, especially with the flower color choice. You certainly do not have to have everything "matchy-matchy." I love the lighter colors for the decorations and flowers (especially at night), and against the black dresses....it will look beautiful.
Good luck and I hope you have a beautiful wedding!
Reply:You can use black bridesmaid's dresses without using black in the decor, but you may want to consider using a few black accents (if only at the reception site) to help tie things together. Or you could figure out how to use champagne or ivory as an accent in your bridesmaids' ensemble.
Have fun and good luck with your wedding planning and congratulations on your upcoming marriage!
Reply:I don't remeber my aunts wedding that much, but I do remeber that the bridemaids wore balck because they wanted to and I don't remeber much black elsewhere. I think it would look fine. These are bridemaids, not more decorations. They could probably wear that again too! I think that would be a nice choice.
Reply:Absolutely. Black will go with anything. Use a little Ivory accents on the bridesmaids dresses or blush pink in their jewellery and that will tie it together and remember it is your day and if that's what makes you happy then go for it.
Reply:I think that could look good. A friend of mine did something similar. Her bridesmaids wore black dresses but all had colorful bouquets. Everything had a splash of color and since the bridesmaids had colorful flowers it looked great.
Reply:I wore a black and white dress in my friends wedding. It was beautiful. We all carried red roses. I honestly don't recall what color the decor was. Don't sweat the small stuff.
Reply:As the bride , you can pick anthing you want.
Reply:Absolutely!. It would look great and you could tie it all in by having the bridesmaids wear pink jewelry.
Reply:I think black always looks good. I agree with you...those lighter colors do not always look good on maids, especially if they are a little bigger like me. It will be pretty, good luck.
Reply:I would think that would look great. Good for you for thinking about what your bridesmaids look good in - I once got stuck in a yellow dress - which makes me turn green!
Reply:Yes, it would look great.
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Can I use black bridesmaid dresses without using black in the decor?
Hi and congratulations!
YES, that will look nice! Very pretty, especially with the flower color choice. You certainly do not have to have everything "matchy-matchy." I love the lighter colors for the decorations and flowers (especially at night), and against the black dresses....it will look beautiful.
Good luck and I hope you have a beautiful wedding!
Reply:You can use black bridesmaid's dresses without using black in the decor, but you may want to consider using a few black accents (if only at the reception site) to help tie things together. Or you could figure out how to use champagne or ivory as an accent in your bridesmaids' ensemble.
Have fun and good luck with your wedding planning and congratulations on your upcoming marriage!
Reply:I don't remeber my aunts wedding that much, but I do remeber that the bridemaids wore balck because they wanted to and I don't remeber much black elsewhere. I think it would look fine. These are bridemaids, not more decorations. They could probably wear that again too! I think that would be a nice choice.
Reply:Absolutely. Black will go with anything. Use a little Ivory accents on the bridesmaids dresses or blush pink in their jewellery and that will tie it together and remember it is your day and if that's what makes you happy then go for it.
Reply:I think that could look good. A friend of mine did something similar. Her bridesmaids wore black dresses but all had colorful bouquets. Everything had a splash of color and since the bridesmaids had colorful flowers it looked great.
Reply:I wore a black and white dress in my friends wedding. It was beautiful. We all carried red roses. I honestly don't recall what color the decor was. Don't sweat the small stuff.
Reply:As the bride , you can pick anthing you want.
Reply:Absolutely!. It would look great and you could tie it all in by having the bridesmaids wear pink jewelry.
Reply:I think black always looks good. I agree with you...those lighter colors do not always look good on maids, especially if they are a little bigger like me. It will be pretty, good luck.
Reply:I would think that would look great. Good for you for thinking about what your bridesmaids look good in - I once got stuck in a yellow dress - which makes me turn green!
Reply:Yes, it would look great.
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Small flower vases?
I need to find several small flower vases, and by several i mean about 48. They don't have to be very pretty or anything expensive, in fact the cheaper the better! Any ideas? Or suggestions for websites or alternatives? I need them for my wedding for the reception tables. They only need to fit about 3 to 4 flowers.
Small flower vases?
I know I've seen vases at Hobby Lobby and you can probably find them at any craft store as well. A florist shop would be a great place to look, but might get expensive. Here are some places online that sell small vases.
http://store.auctionaticstore.com/jobjb4...
http://www.crateandbarrel.com/family.asp...
http://www.discountmugs.com/usa/glasswar...
These cordial glasses would work nicely:
http://www.discountmugs.com/usa/glasswar...
Good Luck
Reply:Most Dollar stores have inexpensive vases. Also you can try a wholesale outlet like Dollardays. I have found some inexpensive items there before.
Also try Oriental Trading
Small flower vases?
I know I've seen vases at Hobby Lobby and you can probably find them at any craft store as well. A florist shop would be a great place to look, but might get expensive. Here are some places online that sell small vases.
http://store.auctionaticstore.com/jobjb4...
http://www.crateandbarrel.com/family.asp...
http://www.discountmugs.com/usa/glasswar...
These cordial glasses would work nicely:
http://www.discountmugs.com/usa/glasswar...
Good Luck
Reply:Most Dollar stores have inexpensive vases. Also you can try a wholesale outlet like Dollardays. I have found some inexpensive items there before.
Also try Oriental Trading
Reception colors?
My wedding is in July in Vermont. Finding vendors has been difficult, especially flowers. After many ideas denied by florist, we have settled on purple/white hydrangeas with a white peonese (sp?).. but mostly purple. The reception is in an all white tent. My concern, which could be completely off, is that it will be too much white if I have white table cloths. I am thinking of an ivory tablecloth with a sheer ivory overlay. Is this too white? Does anyone have other suggestions for tablecloth colors?
Reception colors?
what color will the ribbons for your flowers be? I would use that color, either a white or off white for the table cloths....at least the under cloth that reaches to the floor....there can be a smaller cloth that only hangs down about 10-18 inches from the top...that is a color that coordinates or compliments the colors in your flowers. Don't have all white in an all white tent.
Reply:a cream color would look so pretty with those flowers you described
good luck and congrasts!!
Reply:well I personally dont think a wedding can have TOO much white unless the bride is maybe, like, 80 yrs old or something, but if ur using purple flowers(I think the ones u listed are medium to dark purple, right?)...so how about a lilac coloured tablecloth? Its purple with enough white mixed in so its not like a lavender or something like that. Hope this helps. Congrats!!
also, if it helps, u could scatter petals from ur flowers on the table for a splash of colour.
Reply:why not add more purple and shades of purple as accent colors. make the bridal table as the white and then additional tables in like purple and lavender and lilac and amethyst you could also use grapes as decorations or accents. the leaves with the grapes are actually very pretty that would also be a good idea for centerpieces maybe a pillar candle surrounded by grapes and leaves (do not need to be real) silver is also a good accent color with purple or antique gold or even black
Reception colors?
what color will the ribbons for your flowers be? I would use that color, either a white or off white for the table cloths....at least the under cloth that reaches to the floor....there can be a smaller cloth that only hangs down about 10-18 inches from the top...that is a color that coordinates or compliments the colors in your flowers. Don't have all white in an all white tent.
Reply:a cream color would look so pretty with those flowers you described
good luck and congrasts!!
Reply:well I personally dont think a wedding can have TOO much white unless the bride is maybe, like, 80 yrs old or something, but if ur using purple flowers(I think the ones u listed are medium to dark purple, right?)...so how about a lilac coloured tablecloth? Its purple with enough white mixed in so its not like a lavender or something like that. Hope this helps. Congrats!!
also, if it helps, u could scatter petals from ur flowers on the table for a splash of colour.
Reply:why not add more purple and shades of purple as accent colors. make the bridal table as the white and then additional tables in like purple and lavender and lilac and amethyst you could also use grapes as decorations or accents. the leaves with the grapes are actually very pretty that would also be a good idea for centerpieces maybe a pillar candle surrounded by grapes and leaves (do not need to be real) silver is also a good accent color with purple or antique gold or even black
What is your perfect wedding?
Mine takes place on a sandy beach in Hawaii. All my friends and family are there, I have one of those beautiful, high-fashion wedding dress and a bouquet composed of a medly of flowers. As my father escorts me down the aisle, I see my boyfriend, dressed in white tuxedo, and he's cut his mane of shaggy blond hair and shaved off his sideburns. We stand in front of the minister holding hands. We exchange vows, then we exchange rings, and we are pronounced man and wife. He kisses me tenderly and we run to the stretch limosine which takes us to the reception at a lovely hotel, where the first song we ever dance to as husband and wife is Jimi Hendrix's "Unrealeased Tribute to Stevie Rayvon." Finally, at the end of the day, we get on an ocean liner for our honeymoon.
What is your perfect wedding?
New Year's Eve around 11:30 pm in a warm dim lite Cathedral decorated with beautiful white flowers, candles, clear white Christmas lights. The melody of Cannon playing softly in the background while guests arrive and are seated for the grand event. My father escorts me down the isle at 11:45pm in my breath-taking one of a kind gown. The wedding song "And then came you" is sung duet as I walk down the isle after my wedding party has entered. My fiancee awaits my arrival with the most tender look upon his face. The ceremony is gracefully performed and ends just after midnight with the most passionate kiss between two who have just became one. After the ceremony we will be taken to a lavish hotel suite to spend our first moments together, alone as husband and wife. A huge reception would be planned the evening of New Year's day-- It would be an event our guests will talk about for quite some time! Honeymoon departure on January 2nd-- a romantic 4-5 day cruise to an exotic island.
Reply:The perfect wedding is when 2 people are in love and the wedding part is really no big deal, priceless, for every thing else there is mastercard.
Reply:at a train depot and exiting on the cabose
Reply:I am getting married in summer of 07. And to tell you the truth a perfect wedding for me would be just him waiting for me at the end of the aisle, no matter if its just the two of us or 500 people who show up. Everything else is just secondary and should not be a priority. A lot of people spend thousands even hundreds of thousands of dollars to celebrate something so special but it really is not all that neccesary to exploit your checkbook to do so. And most brides or people that are married would agree. Good luck with your wedding plans.
Reply:I want to get married on the beach maybe in Malibu barefoot wearing my jeans. Then just have barbecue food and beer. Very casual.
Reply:My perfect wedding is the one I had a year ago. Everything went as planned and everyone had a great time.
Reply:wedding is a waste of money. the parents and friends instead should give the money to the newly wed so that they can use it to get on their feet.
go to the court and have a simple wedding.
Reply:Lol I love how you fantasized his hair being 'shaggy blond and shaved off sideburns." How cute!
Your perfect wedding sounds....PERFECT!
What is your perfect wedding?
New Year's Eve around 11:30 pm in a warm dim lite Cathedral decorated with beautiful white flowers, candles, clear white Christmas lights. The melody of Cannon playing softly in the background while guests arrive and are seated for the grand event. My father escorts me down the isle at 11:45pm in my breath-taking one of a kind gown. The wedding song "And then came you" is sung duet as I walk down the isle after my wedding party has entered. My fiancee awaits my arrival with the most tender look upon his face. The ceremony is gracefully performed and ends just after midnight with the most passionate kiss between two who have just became one. After the ceremony we will be taken to a lavish hotel suite to spend our first moments together, alone as husband and wife. A huge reception would be planned the evening of New Year's day-- It would be an event our guests will talk about for quite some time! Honeymoon departure on January 2nd-- a romantic 4-5 day cruise to an exotic island.
Reply:The perfect wedding is when 2 people are in love and the wedding part is really no big deal, priceless, for every thing else there is mastercard.
Reply:at a train depot and exiting on the cabose
Reply:I am getting married in summer of 07. And to tell you the truth a perfect wedding for me would be just him waiting for me at the end of the aisle, no matter if its just the two of us or 500 people who show up. Everything else is just secondary and should not be a priority. A lot of people spend thousands even hundreds of thousands of dollars to celebrate something so special but it really is not all that neccesary to exploit your checkbook to do so. And most brides or people that are married would agree. Good luck with your wedding plans.
Reply:I want to get married on the beach maybe in Malibu barefoot wearing my jeans. Then just have barbecue food and beer. Very casual.
Reply:My perfect wedding is the one I had a year ago. Everything went as planned and everyone had a great time.
Reply:wedding is a waste of money. the parents and friends instead should give the money to the newly wed so that they can use it to get on their feet.
go to the court and have a simple wedding.
Reply:Lol I love how you fantasized his hair being 'shaggy blond and shaved off sideburns." How cute!
Your perfect wedding sounds....PERFECT!
What duties do i need to insure people are doing before wedding date?
I'm getting married outside so i need to make sure things are Being done.
the recepition place is in charge of setting up and taking down.
the park is just going to be the park and chairs
So I have:
bring chairs to the park and taking back
hanging up programs on chairs
Decorating tables at reception
handing out flowers
taking my dress
taking my flowers
taking gifts
cleaning up decorations at reception.
what else do i need to insure someone is in charge of?
What duties do i need to insure people are doing before wedding date?
The florist should deliver your bouquets to the wedding site and any flowers you have ordered to the reception site. Getting wedding insurance in case something unforeseen happens. The person making your cake will deliver it to the reception site and set it up. I would give the cake knife and server to your baker as well. What about favors for the guests? Who is responsible for setting up the bar? I know you aren't having alcohol but are you serving non-alcoholic beverages? Who supplies them and how are they served? If you are serving punch, you'll need a punch bowl unless the reception site provides that. Are your guests tossing anything as you leave the ceremony site? If they are you need to bring whatever that is and the containers that will hold the item. Setting up the chairs at the park. I would hand out the programs instead of hanging them on the chairs because if there's much of a breeze, they may blow off and be blowing all over the park. Aisle runner for the park so that your dress doesn't get soiled. Is the DJ going to serve as MC? If so, he needs a list of the order of the reception and approximate times for things to happen. He also needs a play list and needs to know if he's introducing the two of you at the reception. Do you have cake boxes for any leftover cake for your guests to take if they want it? Do you have an emergency kit? Do you have baskets for the restrooms? Do you have maps for how to get to the reception? Those are usually put in the program which is another reason not to hang them from the chairs. Are you putting bows on the aisle chair like pew bows? Congratulations and Good Luck!!
Reply:FOOD! - make sure enough plates and utensils and glasses are on hand. Napkins, food will be restocked upon devouring. Drinks will be replenished and cleanup.
CAKE- who is going to make sure it is there. Who is going to serve it. Are you going to have the special knife%26gt;? Make sure it is taken or you will be upset.
Music, garter, alcohol, everything needs to be in someone else's hands so that you can relax and enjoy your day because we all know you won't be able to relax and enjoy your day.
Reply:Seriously, the most over looked chore is picking up the trash and vacuuming.
Don't forget any gifts and cards, cake topper and registry book.
EDIT: Your toasting flutes! Make sure someone grabs them.
Good Luck and Happy Planning!
Reply:I'd put the groomsmen in charge of the chairs.
I'd not hang the programs on the chairs have the guest book person hnad them out--the problem with them being placed on chairs is they could blow away.
The brides maids/maid of honor, mother of the bride, mother in law, etc can decorate for the reception...
handing out the flowers everyone can just pick theirs out of the box.
I'd think the maid of honor can be responsible for your dress--if you're meaning after the ceremony youre planning on changing.
During the ceremony you hand the maid of honor yout flowers then she hands them back.
If you were not leaving immidately from the reception for the honeymoon you can load the gifts in your car, if you are then the maid of honor or other wedding party, it'd have to be someone you'd trust to not lose anything, the clean up again I guess the bridal party...
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the recepition place is in charge of setting up and taking down.
the park is just going to be the park and chairs
So I have:
bring chairs to the park and taking back
hanging up programs on chairs
Decorating tables at reception
handing out flowers
taking my dress
taking my flowers
taking gifts
cleaning up decorations at reception.
what else do i need to insure someone is in charge of?
What duties do i need to insure people are doing before wedding date?
The florist should deliver your bouquets to the wedding site and any flowers you have ordered to the reception site. Getting wedding insurance in case something unforeseen happens. The person making your cake will deliver it to the reception site and set it up. I would give the cake knife and server to your baker as well. What about favors for the guests? Who is responsible for setting up the bar? I know you aren't having alcohol but are you serving non-alcoholic beverages? Who supplies them and how are they served? If you are serving punch, you'll need a punch bowl unless the reception site provides that. Are your guests tossing anything as you leave the ceremony site? If they are you need to bring whatever that is and the containers that will hold the item. Setting up the chairs at the park. I would hand out the programs instead of hanging them on the chairs because if there's much of a breeze, they may blow off and be blowing all over the park. Aisle runner for the park so that your dress doesn't get soiled. Is the DJ going to serve as MC? If so, he needs a list of the order of the reception and approximate times for things to happen. He also needs a play list and needs to know if he's introducing the two of you at the reception. Do you have cake boxes for any leftover cake for your guests to take if they want it? Do you have an emergency kit? Do you have baskets for the restrooms? Do you have maps for how to get to the reception? Those are usually put in the program which is another reason not to hang them from the chairs. Are you putting bows on the aisle chair like pew bows? Congratulations and Good Luck!!
Reply:FOOD! - make sure enough plates and utensils and glasses are on hand. Napkins, food will be restocked upon devouring. Drinks will be replenished and cleanup.
CAKE- who is going to make sure it is there. Who is going to serve it. Are you going to have the special knife%26gt;? Make sure it is taken or you will be upset.
Music, garter, alcohol, everything needs to be in someone else's hands so that you can relax and enjoy your day because we all know you won't be able to relax and enjoy your day.
Reply:Seriously, the most over looked chore is picking up the trash and vacuuming.
Don't forget any gifts and cards, cake topper and registry book.
EDIT: Your toasting flutes! Make sure someone grabs them.
Good Luck and Happy Planning!
Reply:I'd put the groomsmen in charge of the chairs.
I'd not hang the programs on the chairs have the guest book person hnad them out--the problem with them being placed on chairs is they could blow away.
The brides maids/maid of honor, mother of the bride, mother in law, etc can decorate for the reception...
handing out the flowers everyone can just pick theirs out of the box.
I'd think the maid of honor can be responsible for your dress--if you're meaning after the ceremony youre planning on changing.
During the ceremony you hand the maid of honor yout flowers then she hands them back.
If you were not leaving immidately from the reception for the honeymoon you can load the gifts in your car, if you are then the maid of honor or other wedding party, it'd have to be someone you'd trust to not lose anything, the clean up again I guess the bridal party...
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Alochol at wedding?
My wedding is going to be September 29, 2007, we are getting married outside small wedding. Then inviations were sent out for a reception at 6pm, there we are having a casual bbq dinner, decorations are fall flowers in buckets, that are cute. We also have a band to start around 8, would it look bad if we say byob, my parents do not believe in drinking, but I drink along with my future husband. So I didn't want to serve it because of them. What should we do?
Alochol at wedding?
BYOB is bad for a wedding. you either provide the drinks or you have a dry wedding.
Reply:BYOB is really tacky for a wedding. I'd serve alcohol whether your parents drink or not.
Reply:You can't have BYOB - either provide alcohol for your guests, or have a dry wedding, one or the other.
Reply:No, it's beyond tacky to tell people to bring their own booze to a wedding reception. Either provide it, or don't have any. Ask this question on the boards at www.etiquettehell.com and see what reaction you get. They're experts at wedding etiquette.
Reply:Talk to your parents about it, and let them know that this is a hard decision for you because you really want to respect them, but you want your guests to enjoy themselves. Feel out their response. Your options are: you talk them into paying for alcohol; you pay for it yourselves; or no alcohol. A wedding can not be BYOB.
Reply:BYOB for a wedding is in bad taste. I agree with the first answer. Either take control of your wedding and serve it yourselves or have a dry wedding. What you have to remember is that it is YOUR wedding. Peace and God bless.
Reply:Awful. Do not put that on the invitation. It looks cheap and it's in the poorest taste.
Having a dry wedding is fine, but asking your guest to bring their own alcohol is beyond tacky.
No matter how many times you ask the same question, BYOB is not appropiate for a wedding. If you want to look cheap and tacky, then go ahead.
Reply:You should not ask your guests to provide their own refreshments to your wedding, even if it is casual. And, if yoru family opposes drinking, what is the difference of whether you hand it to them or they bring it themselves?
Reply:since its a bbq, I would just supply beer and tell people if they want anything else then to bring that themselves. that way it doesnt look cheap on your, but you dont need to serve all the expensive alcohols that cost you tons. just stary stocking up on beer whenver you can afford to buy a few cases and before you know it, you'll have enough for the wedding. thats what my husband and I did.
Reply:I think I just answered this question for you -
Even though it's a casual reception, you're still the host of an event (your wedding) and the people who attend are your guests. Do not ask them to provide their own refreshements. It's tacky. Treat them like guests.
If cost is an issue, a dry reception is perfectly acceptable. But this isn't a picnic - BYOB is a no-no.
Reply:It is your wedding day. If you want alochol then you should have it. It is not you parents wedding it is your special day. You do not want to tell people to bring there own alochol, that is very tacky. It is great that your parents don't drink but that doesnt mean that others don't. We were going to have a dry wedding last year and decided at the last minute to have alochol and I am so glad that we did. We had our reception in our back yard. We did soda, a keg of beer and we had a table with a bunch of bottles of alochol and mixers for people to make there own drinks and it worked out well. There were a few on my husbands side that didnt drink but they never said anything bad about it and our day was beautiful. Good luck to you and congratulations.
Reply:If you can't afford drinks at your wedding, have a dry reception. Don't put the blame on your parents. It would look tacky if you have BYOB after stating that your parents are against alcohol,duh.
Reply:I agree, it would be tacky to put something like that on the invite. For my wedding I tossed the idea of alcohol around for a while considering I don't drink and a lot of my friends from church were attending and I wasn't sure how many of them drank. I had a more formal reception, but, what I did is had champagne for the toast, but also had sparkling grape juice for those who wanted it (this worked well because my husbands 4 kids were also there) and then I just had a bottle of white and a bottle of red on each table. that way, if ppl wanted to drink they could, if they didnt, they didnt have to. It is your wedding afterall.....if you think your guests would enjoy a bit of drinking, I would provide some...you don't have to have a lot, but make some available. Its fine that your parents don't believe in drinking, many ppl dont, and until my honeymoon i'd never even had a drink myself my whole life.
Reply:i dont think it would be a good idea
Reply:It would look really bad to your Mom %26amp; Dad if everyone BYOB. If they don't believe in drinking and they are helping to pay for the reception, there should not be any alcohol there.
Can't you just do soft drinks or punch without alcohol?
Reply:You're right, byob doesn't look real good on an invite, but just keep in mind that if you want alcohol there, depsite what your parents may think, you can have it. It's your day... Either need to go w none at all or provide it for them.
Reply:Make it an open bar. Yee Haw!!!!
Reply:Let your guests know that out of respect for your family you are not going to serve alcohol , however if they would like to drink they can bring their own liquor . I am getting married next weekend and I am not serving any liquor being that half of them are coming in from out of town and have to drive back home which can range from 2hrs and up and I do not want anything happenining to them so i told them they can bring their own alcohol but whatever happens its not on me and my husband.
Reply:You need to decide what is more important to you and weigh the consequences. 2 options:
1) You honor your parent's wishes. At the reception you will not have any alcohol to drink, and you may hear some grumbling from guests.
2) You serve alcohol. You will have a few drinks at the reception, as will your guests, some of which will get rowdy. You will certainly hear it from your parents.
It's you day. Which seems like the better scenario to you?
Reply:Well, the best part of growing up and having your own life is that you get to make your own decisions. Firstly, BYOB is straight GHETTO. You don't want to do that to yourself or to your guests. Now, your parents have to accept you for who you are and what you choose to do in life. Of course, they aren't going to agree with every decision you make, but they should be there regardless. How about a compromise...since your parents are anti-liquor and you obviously want there to be some, why not limit it to champagne/wine? This way, your guests will get a "good buzz" and your parents should know that champagne and wine are key factors in any wedding. Other than that, I agree with everyone else. There's no reason not to have a dry wedding. You have to choose one way or the other, like with God, there is no inbetween.
Good Luck
Reply:Open bar for 2 hours when the music starts.
Reply:Serve alcohol or don't. Just because your parents don't believe in drinking doesn't mean you can't serve alcohol. It just means they won't be drinking any of it. If you want you can limit the alcohol by serving a champagne toast, wine, beer %26amp; champagne punch only.(no hard liquor) But whatever you do, never do BYOB. That is beyond horrible %26amp; tacky.
Reply:Having people bring their own will look a lot worse to your parents than if you just served it yourself.
Reply:I just went to a dry wedding and it was lovely. If you want to minimize the alcohol but still have some, you could serve only champagne.
Reply:never say byob! thats tacky.
just have a dry reception. alcohol should never be expected at a wedding.
Reply:I think you should just tell your parents you are having alcohol, since most of your friends occasionally like to have a cocktail, since it is so laid back BBQ you could go with perhaps a keg of beer and some wine. Have fun and good luck.
Alochol at wedding?
BYOB is bad for a wedding. you either provide the drinks or you have a dry wedding.
Reply:BYOB is really tacky for a wedding. I'd serve alcohol whether your parents drink or not.
Reply:You can't have BYOB - either provide alcohol for your guests, or have a dry wedding, one or the other.
Reply:No, it's beyond tacky to tell people to bring their own booze to a wedding reception. Either provide it, or don't have any. Ask this question on the boards at www.etiquettehell.com and see what reaction you get. They're experts at wedding etiquette.
Reply:Talk to your parents about it, and let them know that this is a hard decision for you because you really want to respect them, but you want your guests to enjoy themselves. Feel out their response. Your options are: you talk them into paying for alcohol; you pay for it yourselves; or no alcohol. A wedding can not be BYOB.
Reply:BYOB for a wedding is in bad taste. I agree with the first answer. Either take control of your wedding and serve it yourselves or have a dry wedding. What you have to remember is that it is YOUR wedding. Peace and God bless.
Reply:Awful. Do not put that on the invitation. It looks cheap and it's in the poorest taste.
Having a dry wedding is fine, but asking your guest to bring their own alcohol is beyond tacky.
No matter how many times you ask the same question, BYOB is not appropiate for a wedding. If you want to look cheap and tacky, then go ahead.
Reply:You should not ask your guests to provide their own refreshments to your wedding, even if it is casual. And, if yoru family opposes drinking, what is the difference of whether you hand it to them or they bring it themselves?
Reply:since its a bbq, I would just supply beer and tell people if they want anything else then to bring that themselves. that way it doesnt look cheap on your, but you dont need to serve all the expensive alcohols that cost you tons. just stary stocking up on beer whenver you can afford to buy a few cases and before you know it, you'll have enough for the wedding. thats what my husband and I did.
Reply:I think I just answered this question for you -
Even though it's a casual reception, you're still the host of an event (your wedding) and the people who attend are your guests. Do not ask them to provide their own refreshements. It's tacky. Treat them like guests.
If cost is an issue, a dry reception is perfectly acceptable. But this isn't a picnic - BYOB is a no-no.
Reply:It is your wedding day. If you want alochol then you should have it. It is not you parents wedding it is your special day. You do not want to tell people to bring there own alochol, that is very tacky. It is great that your parents don't drink but that doesnt mean that others don't. We were going to have a dry wedding last year and decided at the last minute to have alochol and I am so glad that we did. We had our reception in our back yard. We did soda, a keg of beer and we had a table with a bunch of bottles of alochol and mixers for people to make there own drinks and it worked out well. There were a few on my husbands side that didnt drink but they never said anything bad about it and our day was beautiful. Good luck to you and congratulations.
Reply:If you can't afford drinks at your wedding, have a dry reception. Don't put the blame on your parents. It would look tacky if you have BYOB after stating that your parents are against alcohol,duh.
Reply:I agree, it would be tacky to put something like that on the invite. For my wedding I tossed the idea of alcohol around for a while considering I don't drink and a lot of my friends from church were attending and I wasn't sure how many of them drank. I had a more formal reception, but, what I did is had champagne for the toast, but also had sparkling grape juice for those who wanted it (this worked well because my husbands 4 kids were also there) and then I just had a bottle of white and a bottle of red on each table. that way, if ppl wanted to drink they could, if they didnt, they didnt have to. It is your wedding afterall.....if you think your guests would enjoy a bit of drinking, I would provide some...you don't have to have a lot, but make some available. Its fine that your parents don't believe in drinking, many ppl dont, and until my honeymoon i'd never even had a drink myself my whole life.
Reply:i dont think it would be a good idea
Reply:It would look really bad to your Mom %26amp; Dad if everyone BYOB. If they don't believe in drinking and they are helping to pay for the reception, there should not be any alcohol there.
Can't you just do soft drinks or punch without alcohol?
Reply:You're right, byob doesn't look real good on an invite, but just keep in mind that if you want alcohol there, depsite what your parents may think, you can have it. It's your day... Either need to go w none at all or provide it for them.
Reply:Make it an open bar. Yee Haw!!!!
Reply:Let your guests know that out of respect for your family you are not going to serve alcohol , however if they would like to drink they can bring their own liquor . I am getting married next weekend and I am not serving any liquor being that half of them are coming in from out of town and have to drive back home which can range from 2hrs and up and I do not want anything happenining to them so i told them they can bring their own alcohol but whatever happens its not on me and my husband.
Reply:You need to decide what is more important to you and weigh the consequences. 2 options:
1) You honor your parent's wishes. At the reception you will not have any alcohol to drink, and you may hear some grumbling from guests.
2) You serve alcohol. You will have a few drinks at the reception, as will your guests, some of which will get rowdy. You will certainly hear it from your parents.
It's you day. Which seems like the better scenario to you?
Reply:Well, the best part of growing up and having your own life is that you get to make your own decisions. Firstly, BYOB is straight GHETTO. You don't want to do that to yourself or to your guests. Now, your parents have to accept you for who you are and what you choose to do in life. Of course, they aren't going to agree with every decision you make, but they should be there regardless. How about a compromise...since your parents are anti-liquor and you obviously want there to be some, why not limit it to champagne/wine? This way, your guests will get a "good buzz" and your parents should know that champagne and wine are key factors in any wedding. Other than that, I agree with everyone else. There's no reason not to have a dry wedding. You have to choose one way or the other, like with God, there is no inbetween.
Good Luck
Reply:Open bar for 2 hours when the music starts.
Reply:Serve alcohol or don't. Just because your parents don't believe in drinking doesn't mean you can't serve alcohol. It just means they won't be drinking any of it. If you want you can limit the alcohol by serving a champagne toast, wine, beer %26amp; champagne punch only.(no hard liquor) But whatever you do, never do BYOB. That is beyond horrible %26amp; tacky.
Reply:Having people bring their own will look a lot worse to your parents than if you just served it yourself.
Reply:I just went to a dry wedding and it was lovely. If you want to minimize the alcohol but still have some, you could serve only champagne.
Reply:never say byob! thats tacky.
just have a dry reception. alcohol should never be expected at a wedding.
Reply:I think you should just tell your parents you are having alcohol, since most of your friends occasionally like to have a cocktail, since it is so laid back BBQ you could go with perhaps a keg of beer and some wine. Have fun and good luck.
What to wear to a summer wedding?
Hi
i am attending my friends wedding at the end of june and i'm not sure what to wear. its a daytime wedding in a church and the reception is in a hotel after.
i have two possibilities, first-(mine is bit diff to pic-green n black flowers on a white background-but exact same style)
http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/Black-white-red-50...
or this Karen Millen dusty pink butterfly dress:
http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?V...
any help? thanks
What to wear to a summer wedding?
well they're both good. i like the first one better, since its a summer wedding. but if the wedding is in the evening, i'd go with the 2nd dress
Reply:Since it is a summer wedding, the first dress fits that better.
Reply:green suite with green shoes and green pimp hat wi a gold walking stick wi cigar lmfao
Reply:The second one is best. The first one is horrible.
Reply:They are both lovely you get the first one and wear that for the day and the second one (which is my favourite) for the evening do, it wound look great with black heels.
Have a lovely time what ever you wear.
Reply:oh wow there both great. but i think the first is most appropiate.
Reply:I think the first one is more appropriate for summer
Reply:SECOND ONE!
Reply:the Karen millen obviously
Reply:The second one is beautiful, its simple, light, feminine and summery
the design on the first one is too busy
have a great time whichever one you choose x
Reply:the second one is sooooo beautiful
and elegant
and could be worn to both the wedding and after party
its totally stunning
i want one lol
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Reply:get the second and thats all you have to were to both but rember you might dance alot heals off
Reply:the first one
i am attending my friends wedding at the end of june and i'm not sure what to wear. its a daytime wedding in a church and the reception is in a hotel after.
i have two possibilities, first-(mine is bit diff to pic-green n black flowers on a white background-but exact same style)
http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/Black-white-red-50...
or this Karen Millen dusty pink butterfly dress:
http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?V...
any help? thanks
What to wear to a summer wedding?
well they're both good. i like the first one better, since its a summer wedding. but if the wedding is in the evening, i'd go with the 2nd dress
Reply:Since it is a summer wedding, the first dress fits that better.
Reply:green suite with green shoes and green pimp hat wi a gold walking stick wi cigar lmfao
Reply:The second one is best. The first one is horrible.
Reply:They are both lovely you get the first one and wear that for the day and the second one (which is my favourite) for the evening do, it wound look great with black heels.
Have a lovely time what ever you wear.
Reply:oh wow there both great. but i think the first is most appropiate.
Reply:I think the first one is more appropriate for summer
Reply:SECOND ONE!
Reply:the Karen millen obviously
Reply:The second one is beautiful, its simple, light, feminine and summery
the design on the first one is too busy
have a great time whichever one you choose x
Reply:the second one is sooooo beautiful
and elegant
and could be worn to both the wedding and after party
its totally stunning
i want one lol
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Reply:get the second and thats all you have to were to both but rember you might dance alot heals off
Reply:the first one
Why wouldn't you want kids at a wedding?
i am 17 and i know that i might not understand stuff yet. but i couldn't imagine not having kids at my wedding. i think that they are the best part of the wedding. i have never been to a wedding were there weren't kids and i wouldn't want to. it makes it difficult on the parents, i mean they have to get a babysiter and stuff. and why wouldn't you want them there. its so fun to watch kids at weddings, plus you would feel pretty weird doing the chicken dance with a bunch of adults.
to me weddings are a celebration. and it's just like a big party. there shouldn't be worries, you should just have a good time. it's about families, i mean you are starting your own family that day. then shouldn't you include other peoples families. it just doesn't make since to me.
why would you want to not let kids come to your wedding?
i'm talking more about the reception than anything?
also what would you do with the ring bearer and the flower girl, would they have to go home after the wedding
Why wouldn't you want kids at a wedding?
I totally agree with you! Weddings should be family celebrations!
Reply:I'm extremely close to my family...sometimes functions are for adults only...why bother asking the question if you choose the person that agreed with you as best answer? Report It
Reply:1) Money. Receptions where I live are expensive, about $70 a head for adults and $15-$20 per kid. The average wedding in my area is 25K for 100 people. Personally, I can't invite every last child. I would be increase my budget by a lot.
2)Noise. Yes, not all children misbehave, but children have their moments. I worked as a waitress in college, I've seen children in restuarant settings. They get over stimulated, make a mess, etc. Just b/c your little cousin Jason acts like an angel one day, doesn't mean he will the next.
A women I worked with put it well. Children get tried, hungry and bored easily. When this happens, what do they do? They bug their parents, start fights with their siblings. They can't help it. Children are ruled by emotions. If little Jason is usually good, you can't bet he won't be get bored and fussy b/c everyone is listening to the toasts and speechs, rather then watching him spin himself in a circle on the dance floor. Children like to be the center of attention.
What happen when grandma is paying more attention to Auntie Bride then little Jason.
3) I don't believe I should invite children of friends. I love my friends; however, are their children going to remember my wedding. Probably not. When they are 17, they will remember getting dressed up in a pretty dress, but then they'll ask mom, "Who's wedding was that again" I paid for some kid not to even remember my name?
4) Alcohol is served at weddings. I don't see it fit for a child to be watching adults consuming alcohol like that.
5) Too many kids equallys craziness. Growing up I had 10 first cousins. Family events were crazy. We were all well behaved children when not together. When we got together, it was all about us. All about us having fun. We didn't see the party as something for the adults. We were kids, we were selfish, we thought it should be all about us.
We use to go to the bar and order 7 Shirley Temples each, to the point where our parents had to tell the bartender to on longer serve us kids. We would crowding the bar and the adults would be trying to get wine or what not. Our parents would have to take us out and say, "no more shirley temples, or we are going home"
Reply:I intend to welcome children at my wedding, but I can understand why others wouldn't. The simple fact is that it is an adult-themed event. There is a long, boring ceremony followed by a long party consisting of dinner, dancing and speeches with alcohol and adult themes (garter tradition) involved. Some children would enjoy that. Most young children wouldn't and their parents wouldn't be able to either. It is unreasonable to expect the hosts of a party to provide babysitting services for your children. For any other adult party, no one would expect kids, and you would leave them at home with a babysitter. People have the same rights for their own wedding.
Reply:MY opinion is that being a 30 year old mom of a 4 year old boy I don't want him to be there simply because It is one of the very very few times I get to be Jenn not MOM for a little bit I can relax have a drink and not worry about if he is OK. I LOVE him dearly but somethings parents just enjoy being able to do without having to be a parent for a couple hours.
Reply:they're loud, they cry, they run around, they drop things, they spill things, they misbehave, they "act up", LOTS OF REASONS
When you're older, you'll understand, trust me
Reply:maybe because the kids will be to rody and running around and maybe its expensive just ahve the kids thats in the wedding and the parents want to have fun
Reply:I got married two years ago and there were pleanty of kids there. None of them "ruined" the wedding by screaming or anything else. Most parents will excuse themselves and their child if they get upset or rowdy. Also it is the little mishaps at weddings that make the most memories. I thought it was fun to have all the people I love at my wedding and not just the adults.
Reply:I've been to weddings with and without kids. Weddings with kids are a lot more fun..
Reply:I wouldn't want kids at my wedding because caterers charge alot of money for childrens sometimes $25 (or more) each. Another reason I wouldn't want kids at my wedding is because I've noticed that parenting skills have deteriorated over the last few years and most children have no clue how to behave in public. They're obnoxious brats and not pleasant to be around. I don't blame the children for this, it's totally the parents' fault but I still don't want to be around these kids.
Reply:I was always bored to death as a kid going to weddings. I think they are doing this as a favor to the boys.
Reply:Some people do want "adult only" events, and that's perfectly fine and their right. They've spent a lot of money %26amp; don't want their video interrputed by some toddlers temper tantrum. When my kids were small, they could be a handful - I remember taking them out of many, many things! How many times did I missed something because I could not get a sitter! But that's what happens when you have children - it's a tradeoff you make. That does not make it okay to subject your kids to others at inappropraite settings like late evening weddings - and now that my kids are teenagers, I enjoy "adult only" events again and I am annoyed when other Mothers do not get a sitter and bring their kids to such weddings. I did it - why can't you?
Reply:Because they don't want children at their wedding... sitters are NOT that expensive....and if the parents really wanted to, they could take the cost of a sitter out of the gift of the bride and groom...(although you know someone's getting married six weeks in advance, I think the average adult could save $40 or $50 for a sitter in that time...)
A lot of weddings are extremely expensive affairs, and a lot of parents DO NOT watch their children. I had kids (that were NOT invited) come for an adult party for my mom that cost a lot of money...their mom decided to let them run around, break wine glasses, sit on people's laps and LICK the entire cake.
When a bride and groom plan an event for a year...they don't want this kind of thing to happen. Sometimes, by adding children you're adding 20-40 MORE people to your wedding costs...THAT'S A LOT OF MONEY, even if they're half priced, they're NOT eating the food....and if you're on a budget, that's a lot of money to be spending.
If someone wants an adult reception, I don't see why it's a problem to have an adult night, where you're not worrying about stepping on a bunch of children laying on the floor playing, not having to worry about keeping an eye on them instead of having a good time yourself and not wanting to spend a lot of money on food they won't eat
Reply:It is really a personal preference I think. If you choose to have a ring barer /flower girl than you may not have a problem with allowing children to attend. I am getting married in October and I have made it very clear that I do not want children to attend. Here is why...
I am having a VERY formal ceremony and reception that a child would not want to be at anyway. Weddings are adult events and to me it is like bringing a kid into a bar. No bride wants a screaming baby while in the middle of their vows. I do not think I have even been to a wedding where there were children. I think people usually know better. Also, you have to pay for them as far as catering and for non-alcoholic beverages. Having 20 kids at a wedding can be expensive. But to be honest...it is really all up to the bride and the feel that she wants. Now days weddings have no rules is seems. One day you’ll get married; and when you see the amount of time and money that goes into a wedding you’ll understand better. But, for me, I do not think a wedding is a place for children. Remember...it is a wedding not a birthday party :-)
Reply:for me its very simple - i don't mind kids at the wedding ceremony - you are right - they make the ceremony interesting - but i don't like kids being around adults when they are drinking! if a reception is alcohol free then great bring the kids, but not if there are any spirits being served. many adults act like azzes when drinking and its not something i think children should be seeing.
as for the kids in the wedding party, we rent a room and hire sitters for the kids and ensure they have lots of games, snacks, videos, etc. that way their mums and dads can run up to the room in the hotel and check on their little ones and still enjoy the reception!
Reply:The main reason we are not having children in/at our wedding because there are no children in either of our families that we are close to. We are not going to have a flower girl or ring bearer just for the sake of having one. If our siblings had children, that would be a different story.
The other reason we have an age limit is because my fiancee does have an unruly little cousin. I would not call him bratty, but parents have a hard time looking after him. It would be very unfair to invite all of the children except one.
Reply:Truthfully if my brother wasn't expecting his first and my boyfriend's siblings didn't have as many kids as they do I would have probably be on the no kids bandwagon as well. Some kids are great but from wedding ceremony to end of the reception that's easily a 5 to 7 hour stretch that I can't expect them all to make it through okay. However, with siblings alone I've hit like 10 kids some of whom will be in the wedding and some who won't plus kids of friends who I couldn't imagine not having there when Auntie/Ms. Indy is all dressed up. If I have the wedding where I'm thinking of now then the families can walk five minutes down the road to the hotel closest to the venue and not worry about driving or anything but tucking kids into bed once the partying is done. If not there then I'll include babysitters and the like because I want them and their parents to be there.
Reply:ok, i'm getting married in sept, and i am having kids and i am not having kids, a few of my cousins have kids who are absolute horrors!! they are bad bad bad kids, they don't listen to anyone, they are like under 7 and cuss and bite and yell and misbehave, but then again i have some friends who have kids who i can't imagine not having at my wedding, so for the few of those who have the kids who misbehave i am putting an insert saying an adult reception to follow and for those who i want their kids there i am not putting anything in there about kids, i know it is soooooooooooooo not the right thing to do, but the kids who are out of towners are going to be there, and if the parents of the bratty kids say anything i'm going to tell them that i only wanted so and sos kids there, and if they have a problem with it then they can leave!! i know it's not the best thing, but i'm inviting some of my aunts and uncles but not all of them, so it's the same thing, i want certain people there and not others.
Reply:Because kids can be unpredictable. People spend tons of time and money on weddings and, the last thing they want is a squirrley kid screaming through the ceremony, jamming their hands in the cake or running around unsupervised. I think it is rude for people to put "no kids" on their invitations, but generally, weddings just are not kid-friendly. (FYI, I have two kids who I adore and have taken any number of places, but never to a wedding. Weddings are boring and my two boisterous sons would go nuts! I would not want to subject the other guests and the wedding party to that.)
Reply:I am having kids at my wedding because every-one i know has kids and i think that's so un fair. the only way i would is if i felt that alcohol would interfere. but in that case i would hirer someone for that night to keep a close eye on the children in another part of the hall or where ever my wedding takes place. i Love kids and i think that if they are a part of the people you are inviting then they should come too.
Reply:the only kid we had at our wedding was my husband's one-year-old nephew, and other than him the only other kid that was invited was my maid of honor's one-year-old daughter (she didn't want to have to worry about keeping an eye on her though, so she left her with her mother-in-law). we had a few friends that had children and a lot of my cousins have children, and my husband and I aren't particularly close with any of their kids. and if we had invited all their kids, what would've increased our guest list by at least 20, and we didn't have room in our reception hall. also my mom is very anti-kids at weddings, and my parents were paying for our reception, so they made the decision for us.
so, I think for a lot of couples, the no-kids rule is to keep the guest list at a reasonable number and also because a lot of couples have never met these kids, but they are close to the parents and want to invite them. plus, a lot of kids don't care about weddings - they are forced to dress up and sit quietly - not exactly the best situation for kids, especially when adults are drinking. so why spend $20/plate on the kids meal?
we didn't have a ring bearer or flower girl, so we didn't have to worry about what to do with them. I think even most child-free brides and grooms make an exception for those kids to attend the reception.
as for making your guests find baby-sitters, that is all part of being a parent. you have to find a sitter if you want to go out for a nice meal or to a movie without kids. most of these people have sitters they regularly use. if finding a sitter for the wedding is too much of a hassle, then don't go. the bride and groom understand. it's all part of parenting.
Reply:Weddings are boring as hell for kids. And kids are more prone to act up when they're bored.
Back when I was a kid, if a child acted up, had a tantrum, or shrieked at the top of his lungs just for the hell of it, parents quickly removed his from the room. Now a days, disciplining your children appears to be "out of style" so if a kid acts up at your wedding, the parent is not likely to remove her. I've seen babies crying or toddlers shrieking at weddings with the parent not removing them from the area. I would not want to risk that at mine.
Also, the vast majority of my friends never had children and never wanted them. Many couples marrying will not have little rugrats of their own. :-)
Reply:Here's thought: At my wedding, I wanted a beautiful, professional videotape so I could relive the day whenever I wanted. I paid the company close to 7 grand for 3 cinematographers for the day. All 3 had cameras... not one of them could get a good tape with good sound of our vows because there were crying children in the audience. They refunded 75% of my money, but I am still without the video that I saved up for and wanted so very much. It was heartbreaking for me. All I have are still photos, they are beautiful, but not the same ...please keep this in mind, parents! I will never be able to get that day back. If I had known that so many people didn't know how to keep their children in line, I would have requested No Children...It still upsets me to this day and it has been 3 years...
I have a 17 month old and I would NEVER take her to a wedding. Maybe the reception for a few hours before people started drinking if the bride/groom said it was fine, but I would never take the risk of ruining someones expensive day because of my daughter. She is normally well behaved, but sometimes things happen that I can't control!
Reply:THey say if you're a performer, you shouldn't have children or animals in the act because they will steal the spotlight. MAybe the bride won't be the center of attention if you have a lot of cute kids.
Reply:I agree, kids are very welcome to my wedding. My fiance has a lot of neices and nephews, how can I not invite them. Weddings is about celebrating with family and friends no matter the age. They can be too much at times but hey sometimes that makes the party more fun.
Reply:children are unpredictable. there are those great kids that can sit still through long stuff, but then there are others who ruin movies and church services. so you either have to let everyone invite their kids and pray they are not demon children or you exclude them all and problem solved.
i did not have a flower girl or ring bearer.
a wedding is two people coming together to make a family. it is up to them who they want to invite.
**no, there is cute kid behavior, then there is demon involvement. there is a difference. a little kid stomping on a wedding dress, NOT SO CUTE! a child screaming when will this be over NO SO CUTE!
and when i have children, they will not be at a wedding unless invited and i KNOW they will behave.
to me weddings are a celebration. and it's just like a big party. there shouldn't be worries, you should just have a good time. it's about families, i mean you are starting your own family that day. then shouldn't you include other peoples families. it just doesn't make since to me.
why would you want to not let kids come to your wedding?
i'm talking more about the reception than anything?
also what would you do with the ring bearer and the flower girl, would they have to go home after the wedding
Why wouldn't you want kids at a wedding?
I totally agree with you! Weddings should be family celebrations!
Reply:I'm extremely close to my family...sometimes functions are for adults only...why bother asking the question if you choose the person that agreed with you as best answer? Report It
Reply:1) Money. Receptions where I live are expensive, about $70 a head for adults and $15-$20 per kid. The average wedding in my area is 25K for 100 people. Personally, I can't invite every last child. I would be increase my budget by a lot.
2)Noise. Yes, not all children misbehave, but children have their moments. I worked as a waitress in college, I've seen children in restuarant settings. They get over stimulated, make a mess, etc. Just b/c your little cousin Jason acts like an angel one day, doesn't mean he will the next.
A women I worked with put it well. Children get tried, hungry and bored easily. When this happens, what do they do? They bug their parents, start fights with their siblings. They can't help it. Children are ruled by emotions. If little Jason is usually good, you can't bet he won't be get bored and fussy b/c everyone is listening to the toasts and speechs, rather then watching him spin himself in a circle on the dance floor. Children like to be the center of attention.
What happen when grandma is paying more attention to Auntie Bride then little Jason.
3) I don't believe I should invite children of friends. I love my friends; however, are their children going to remember my wedding. Probably not. When they are 17, they will remember getting dressed up in a pretty dress, but then they'll ask mom, "Who's wedding was that again" I paid for some kid not to even remember my name?
4) Alcohol is served at weddings. I don't see it fit for a child to be watching adults consuming alcohol like that.
5) Too many kids equallys craziness. Growing up I had 10 first cousins. Family events were crazy. We were all well behaved children when not together. When we got together, it was all about us. All about us having fun. We didn't see the party as something for the adults. We were kids, we were selfish, we thought it should be all about us.
We use to go to the bar and order 7 Shirley Temples each, to the point where our parents had to tell the bartender to on longer serve us kids. We would crowding the bar and the adults would be trying to get wine or what not. Our parents would have to take us out and say, "no more shirley temples, or we are going home"
Reply:I intend to welcome children at my wedding, but I can understand why others wouldn't. The simple fact is that it is an adult-themed event. There is a long, boring ceremony followed by a long party consisting of dinner, dancing and speeches with alcohol and adult themes (garter tradition) involved. Some children would enjoy that. Most young children wouldn't and their parents wouldn't be able to either. It is unreasonable to expect the hosts of a party to provide babysitting services for your children. For any other adult party, no one would expect kids, and you would leave them at home with a babysitter. People have the same rights for their own wedding.
Reply:MY opinion is that being a 30 year old mom of a 4 year old boy I don't want him to be there simply because It is one of the very very few times I get to be Jenn not MOM for a little bit I can relax have a drink and not worry about if he is OK. I LOVE him dearly but somethings parents just enjoy being able to do without having to be a parent for a couple hours.
Reply:they're loud, they cry, they run around, they drop things, they spill things, they misbehave, they "act up", LOTS OF REASONS
When you're older, you'll understand, trust me
Reply:maybe because the kids will be to rody and running around and maybe its expensive just ahve the kids thats in the wedding and the parents want to have fun
Reply:I got married two years ago and there were pleanty of kids there. None of them "ruined" the wedding by screaming or anything else. Most parents will excuse themselves and their child if they get upset or rowdy. Also it is the little mishaps at weddings that make the most memories. I thought it was fun to have all the people I love at my wedding and not just the adults.
Reply:I've been to weddings with and without kids. Weddings with kids are a lot more fun..
Reply:I wouldn't want kids at my wedding because caterers charge alot of money for childrens sometimes $25 (or more) each. Another reason I wouldn't want kids at my wedding is because I've noticed that parenting skills have deteriorated over the last few years and most children have no clue how to behave in public. They're obnoxious brats and not pleasant to be around. I don't blame the children for this, it's totally the parents' fault but I still don't want to be around these kids.
Reply:I was always bored to death as a kid going to weddings. I think they are doing this as a favor to the boys.
Reply:Some people do want "adult only" events, and that's perfectly fine and their right. They've spent a lot of money %26amp; don't want their video interrputed by some toddlers temper tantrum. When my kids were small, they could be a handful - I remember taking them out of many, many things! How many times did I missed something because I could not get a sitter! But that's what happens when you have children - it's a tradeoff you make. That does not make it okay to subject your kids to others at inappropraite settings like late evening weddings - and now that my kids are teenagers, I enjoy "adult only" events again and I am annoyed when other Mothers do not get a sitter and bring their kids to such weddings. I did it - why can't you?
Reply:Because they don't want children at their wedding... sitters are NOT that expensive....and if the parents really wanted to, they could take the cost of a sitter out of the gift of the bride and groom...(although you know someone's getting married six weeks in advance, I think the average adult could save $40 or $50 for a sitter in that time...)
A lot of weddings are extremely expensive affairs, and a lot of parents DO NOT watch their children. I had kids (that were NOT invited) come for an adult party for my mom that cost a lot of money...their mom decided to let them run around, break wine glasses, sit on people's laps and LICK the entire cake.
When a bride and groom plan an event for a year...they don't want this kind of thing to happen. Sometimes, by adding children you're adding 20-40 MORE people to your wedding costs...THAT'S A LOT OF MONEY, even if they're half priced, they're NOT eating the food....and if you're on a budget, that's a lot of money to be spending.
If someone wants an adult reception, I don't see why it's a problem to have an adult night, where you're not worrying about stepping on a bunch of children laying on the floor playing, not having to worry about keeping an eye on them instead of having a good time yourself and not wanting to spend a lot of money on food they won't eat
Reply:It is really a personal preference I think. If you choose to have a ring barer /flower girl than you may not have a problem with allowing children to attend. I am getting married in October and I have made it very clear that I do not want children to attend. Here is why...
I am having a VERY formal ceremony and reception that a child would not want to be at anyway. Weddings are adult events and to me it is like bringing a kid into a bar. No bride wants a screaming baby while in the middle of their vows. I do not think I have even been to a wedding where there were children. I think people usually know better. Also, you have to pay for them as far as catering and for non-alcoholic beverages. Having 20 kids at a wedding can be expensive. But to be honest...it is really all up to the bride and the feel that she wants. Now days weddings have no rules is seems. One day you’ll get married; and when you see the amount of time and money that goes into a wedding you’ll understand better. But, for me, I do not think a wedding is a place for children. Remember...it is a wedding not a birthday party :-)
Reply:for me its very simple - i don't mind kids at the wedding ceremony - you are right - they make the ceremony interesting - but i don't like kids being around adults when they are drinking! if a reception is alcohol free then great bring the kids, but not if there are any spirits being served. many adults act like azzes when drinking and its not something i think children should be seeing.
as for the kids in the wedding party, we rent a room and hire sitters for the kids and ensure they have lots of games, snacks, videos, etc. that way their mums and dads can run up to the room in the hotel and check on their little ones and still enjoy the reception!
Reply:The main reason we are not having children in/at our wedding because there are no children in either of our families that we are close to. We are not going to have a flower girl or ring bearer just for the sake of having one. If our siblings had children, that would be a different story.
The other reason we have an age limit is because my fiancee does have an unruly little cousin. I would not call him bratty, but parents have a hard time looking after him. It would be very unfair to invite all of the children except one.
Reply:Truthfully if my brother wasn't expecting his first and my boyfriend's siblings didn't have as many kids as they do I would have probably be on the no kids bandwagon as well. Some kids are great but from wedding ceremony to end of the reception that's easily a 5 to 7 hour stretch that I can't expect them all to make it through okay. However, with siblings alone I've hit like 10 kids some of whom will be in the wedding and some who won't plus kids of friends who I couldn't imagine not having there when Auntie/Ms. Indy is all dressed up. If I have the wedding where I'm thinking of now then the families can walk five minutes down the road to the hotel closest to the venue and not worry about driving or anything but tucking kids into bed once the partying is done. If not there then I'll include babysitters and the like because I want them and their parents to be there.
Reply:ok, i'm getting married in sept, and i am having kids and i am not having kids, a few of my cousins have kids who are absolute horrors!! they are bad bad bad kids, they don't listen to anyone, they are like under 7 and cuss and bite and yell and misbehave, but then again i have some friends who have kids who i can't imagine not having at my wedding, so for the few of those who have the kids who misbehave i am putting an insert saying an adult reception to follow and for those who i want their kids there i am not putting anything in there about kids, i know it is soooooooooooooo not the right thing to do, but the kids who are out of towners are going to be there, and if the parents of the bratty kids say anything i'm going to tell them that i only wanted so and sos kids there, and if they have a problem with it then they can leave!! i know it's not the best thing, but i'm inviting some of my aunts and uncles but not all of them, so it's the same thing, i want certain people there and not others.
Reply:Because kids can be unpredictable. People spend tons of time and money on weddings and, the last thing they want is a squirrley kid screaming through the ceremony, jamming their hands in the cake or running around unsupervised. I think it is rude for people to put "no kids" on their invitations, but generally, weddings just are not kid-friendly. (FYI, I have two kids who I adore and have taken any number of places, but never to a wedding. Weddings are boring and my two boisterous sons would go nuts! I would not want to subject the other guests and the wedding party to that.)
Reply:I am having kids at my wedding because every-one i know has kids and i think that's so un fair. the only way i would is if i felt that alcohol would interfere. but in that case i would hirer someone for that night to keep a close eye on the children in another part of the hall or where ever my wedding takes place. i Love kids and i think that if they are a part of the people you are inviting then they should come too.
Reply:the only kid we had at our wedding was my husband's one-year-old nephew, and other than him the only other kid that was invited was my maid of honor's one-year-old daughter (she didn't want to have to worry about keeping an eye on her though, so she left her with her mother-in-law). we had a few friends that had children and a lot of my cousins have children, and my husband and I aren't particularly close with any of their kids. and if we had invited all their kids, what would've increased our guest list by at least 20, and we didn't have room in our reception hall. also my mom is very anti-kids at weddings, and my parents were paying for our reception, so they made the decision for us.
so, I think for a lot of couples, the no-kids rule is to keep the guest list at a reasonable number and also because a lot of couples have never met these kids, but they are close to the parents and want to invite them. plus, a lot of kids don't care about weddings - they are forced to dress up and sit quietly - not exactly the best situation for kids, especially when adults are drinking. so why spend $20/plate on the kids meal?
we didn't have a ring bearer or flower girl, so we didn't have to worry about what to do with them. I think even most child-free brides and grooms make an exception for those kids to attend the reception.
as for making your guests find baby-sitters, that is all part of being a parent. you have to find a sitter if you want to go out for a nice meal or to a movie without kids. most of these people have sitters they regularly use. if finding a sitter for the wedding is too much of a hassle, then don't go. the bride and groom understand. it's all part of parenting.
Reply:Weddings are boring as hell for kids. And kids are more prone to act up when they're bored.
Back when I was a kid, if a child acted up, had a tantrum, or shrieked at the top of his lungs just for the hell of it, parents quickly removed his from the room. Now a days, disciplining your children appears to be "out of style" so if a kid acts up at your wedding, the parent is not likely to remove her. I've seen babies crying or toddlers shrieking at weddings with the parent not removing them from the area. I would not want to risk that at mine.
Also, the vast majority of my friends never had children and never wanted them. Many couples marrying will not have little rugrats of their own. :-)
Reply:Here's thought: At my wedding, I wanted a beautiful, professional videotape so I could relive the day whenever I wanted. I paid the company close to 7 grand for 3 cinematographers for the day. All 3 had cameras... not one of them could get a good tape with good sound of our vows because there were crying children in the audience. They refunded 75% of my money, but I am still without the video that I saved up for and wanted so very much. It was heartbreaking for me. All I have are still photos, they are beautiful, but not the same ...please keep this in mind, parents! I will never be able to get that day back. If I had known that so many people didn't know how to keep their children in line, I would have requested No Children...It still upsets me to this day and it has been 3 years...
I have a 17 month old and I would NEVER take her to a wedding. Maybe the reception for a few hours before people started drinking if the bride/groom said it was fine, but I would never take the risk of ruining someones expensive day because of my daughter. She is normally well behaved, but sometimes things happen that I can't control!
Reply:THey say if you're a performer, you shouldn't have children or animals in the act because they will steal the spotlight. MAybe the bride won't be the center of attention if you have a lot of cute kids.
Reply:I agree, kids are very welcome to my wedding. My fiance has a lot of neices and nephews, how can I not invite them. Weddings is about celebrating with family and friends no matter the age. They can be too much at times but hey sometimes that makes the party more fun.
Reply:children are unpredictable. there are those great kids that can sit still through long stuff, but then there are others who ruin movies and church services. so you either have to let everyone invite their kids and pray they are not demon children or you exclude them all and problem solved.
i did not have a flower girl or ring bearer.
a wedding is two people coming together to make a family. it is up to them who they want to invite.
**no, there is cute kid behavior, then there is demon involvement. there is a difference. a little kid stomping on a wedding dress, NOT SO CUTE! a child screaming when will this be over NO SO CUTE!
and when i have children, they will not be at a wedding unless invited and i KNOW they will behave.
Scottish wedding?
Two Scots, Archie and Jock, are sitting in the pub discussing Jock's forthcoming wedding.
"Ach, it's all going magic," says Jock. "I've got everything organised already: the flowers, the church, the cars, the reception, the rings, the minister, even ma stag night...
Archie nods approvingly.
"Hell, I've even bought a kilt to be married in!" continues Jock.
"A kilt?" exclaims Archie,
"That's braw, you'll look pure smart in that! "And what's the tartan?"
Archie then enquires. "Och," says Jock, "I'd imagine she'll be in white..."
Scottish wedding?
Hilarious ha ha ha 10/10
Reply:quite a good 'un! 11/10!
Reply:LOL! I had me tartan white as well on that magic night...
Reply:WHAT??????- i dont get it
Reply:Thats so funny,lol! Have you been in hiding girl?
Reply:?
Reply:LOL I love it. Thanks.
--That Cheeky Lad.
Reply:Naughty, I liked it xx
Reply:Very funny lol
Reply:ahh that was classic xXx
Reply:some wife he is goin to have good one 9/10
Reply:thanks for the laugh
Reply:good
Reply:i srry but i don't really get it
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"Ach, it's all going magic," says Jock. "I've got everything organised already: the flowers, the church, the cars, the reception, the rings, the minister, even ma stag night...
Archie nods approvingly.
"Hell, I've even bought a kilt to be married in!" continues Jock.
"A kilt?" exclaims Archie,
"That's braw, you'll look pure smart in that! "And what's the tartan?"
Archie then enquires. "Och," says Jock, "I'd imagine she'll be in white..."
Scottish wedding?
Hilarious ha ha ha 10/10
Reply:quite a good 'un! 11/10!
Reply:LOL! I had me tartan white as well on that magic night...
Reply:WHAT??????- i dont get it
Reply:Thats so funny,lol! Have you been in hiding girl?
Reply:?
Reply:LOL I love it. Thanks.
--That Cheeky Lad.
Reply:Naughty, I liked it xx
Reply:Very funny lol
Reply:ahh that was classic xXx
Reply:some wife he is goin to have good one 9/10
Reply:thanks for the laugh
Reply:good
Reply:i srry but i don't really get it
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Wedding in Georgia?
I am getting married in georgia and I want to get married in the Hyatt or Mariott Hotel in Atlanta, Bukhead, Marietta or Kennesaw. I want to invite about 150 people and i want it to be a seated dinner with appetizer, meal and my wedding cake as a dessert. I want bothe ceremony and reception there with an open bar of my preferred alcohol. How much do you think that will be? Do know of any other reception halls that may accomadate me? I need a website for a affordable phtographer and videographer would help also. I also need a link for a cheap florist online. I want to have silk flowers. Thanks
Wedding in Georgia?
wow...wow thats basically all i can say....hope you have a wonderful wedding day without thinking of the about 25,000 check (or larger) sitting in ur purse (if u want to have ur guests sleep in a room it will be more)..usually the day of the wedding u need 2 even if they dont sleep, one for the men and one for women... to get ready and what not
Reply:You need to contact the places and find out how much and check the local paper for photographers
Reply:If you want an accurate estimate, you need to call the Hyatt or the Marriott and ask them. You are not going to get an accurate estimate here.
For the rest, go to theknot.com and look for the Georgia message board. I am sure the brides there will be happy to give you recommendations for vendors.
Wedding in Georgia?
wow...wow thats basically all i can say....hope you have a wonderful wedding day without thinking of the about 25,000 check (or larger) sitting in ur purse (if u want to have ur guests sleep in a room it will be more)..usually the day of the wedding u need 2 even if they dont sleep, one for the men and one for women... to get ready and what not
Reply:You need to contact the places and find out how much and check the local paper for photographers
Reply:If you want an accurate estimate, you need to call the Hyatt or the Marriott and ask them. You are not going to get an accurate estimate here.
For the rest, go to theknot.com and look for the Georgia message board. I am sure the brides there will be happy to give you recommendations for vendors.
What to wear to a summer wedding?
Hi
i am attending my friends wedding at the end of june and i'm not sure what to wear. its a daytime wedding in a church and the reception is in a hotel after.
i have two possibilities, first-(mine is bit diff to pic-green n black flowers on a white background-but exact same style)
http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/Black-white-red-50...
or this Karen Millen dusty pink butterfly dress:
http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?V...
any help? thanks
What to wear to a summer wedding?
the 2nd one for sure.~Morgan
Reply:uhm.well this prolly isnt the answer your looking for but i would get like a light yellow dress.
ANSWER PLEASE:: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?...
Reply:2nd one it looks light and it is GORGEOUS
Reply:DEFINATELY go with the first one.
i love it.
its so pretty and summer-y.
:D
Reply:I really like the second one. It looks like something you could wear to a wedding.And its not to flashy.The first one is nice too but it looks more like something you could wear to a beach party.
Hope it helps.
xoxo
Reply:Karen millen wins everytime for me :-)
Reply:ill go for the first one but if i were you i would still look around because theres alot more summery but gorgeous than that.. but the ist one is better the 2nd
i am attending my friends wedding at the end of june and i'm not sure what to wear. its a daytime wedding in a church and the reception is in a hotel after.
i have two possibilities, first-(mine is bit diff to pic-green n black flowers on a white background-but exact same style)
http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/Black-white-red-50...
or this Karen Millen dusty pink butterfly dress:
http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?V...
any help? thanks
What to wear to a summer wedding?
the 2nd one for sure.~Morgan
Reply:uhm.well this prolly isnt the answer your looking for but i would get like a light yellow dress.
ANSWER PLEASE:: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?...
Reply:2nd one it looks light and it is GORGEOUS
Reply:DEFINATELY go with the first one.
i love it.
its so pretty and summer-y.
:D
Reply:I really like the second one. It looks like something you could wear to a wedding.And its not to flashy.The first one is nice too but it looks more like something you could wear to a beach party.
Hope it helps.
xoxo
Reply:Karen millen wins everytime for me :-)
Reply:ill go for the first one but if i were you i would still look around because theres alot more summery but gorgeous than that.. but the ist one is better the 2nd
Wedding colours??
I was going with Black and Gold. White for my dress. And was having white rose bouqets with gold ribbon. And Black bridesmaid dresses with a gold sash around the waist.
BUT..... Now i am leaning towards chocolate bridesmaid dresses with Pink Gerbera Daisies. Also having the pink Gerberas in vases with some nice smooth pebbles in the bottom of the vase, surrounded by tealight candles (i think they are called votive candles) as center pieces. What do you think. I would also use Chocolate brown chair sashes? or maybe pink would be better.
Im thinking pale pink, Not the hot pink for the flowers
Which do you perfer.
The black, red, gold
Or the Chocolate and pale pink?
Its an Autumn garden wedding (about 4pm), with an indoor reception.
Also, what season can you gerbera dasies. Is Autumn the right season.
Sorry if im asking too many questions. I am just looking for peoples honest opinions. Thanks!!!
Wedding colours??
Well, I think that the gold, black, and red would be a little over the top. After all, you want to be the focus, not the decorations, right? The pink and chocolate are way more subdued, yet elegant and very pretty. I would definitely go with those colors. As far as the chair sashes, I see nothing wrong with alternating, one pink, one brown. Or maybe have one table full be pink, and the next one brown. Mix it up. Or even if you have 15 tables, doing most of them in one color, and then only a few in the pink. It would be pretty no matter how you do that I think. As far as whether or not gerbera daisies will be in season, i'm not sure. Better to call the florist you plan on using, or any florist, and ask them. They'll be able to tell you whether or not you could have them shipped from somewhere else too, and what kind of extra expense you might be looking at to get them out of season. It's always more for flowers that are out of season, since they usually have to be shipped from far away.
Reply:The black and gold will be too strong, and remember the gentlemen will be there in black too!
While the chocolate may be milder and more appropriate for the season...it will complement the autumn colours.
The dark brown however will clash with the black!
Consider a reddish-brown, reddish-brown and white do complement each other without the harshness of black and white.
It will have to be a darker brown-to red though, and consider a
two-tone with a fade from dark red to brown, with a white sash
Gold only looks good as a trimming, so stick with the brown chair sashes and maybe gold edging...
Hope I helped and good luck... you've got a long road ahead of you!
Reply:chocolate and pale pink - for sure! Gerbera dasies are spring bloomers, but available all year around. You could put a touch (just a hint) of pale pink/chocolate in your bouquet too - just to pick up the colors in the girls dresses - whatever you do, not dye any colors on the flowers - go fresh flowers too. I would go with the choc brown chair sashes - sometimes guys get a bit uncomfortable with so much pink around - dont forget its his wedding too.
Reply:i prefer the chocolate and very pale pink. i am also having an autumn wedding but i have decided on sage and burgundy as my colors.
and i think the daisies will be fine in autumn especially since they are part of the sunflower family. i have seen a lot of floral arrangements designed for fall weddings with a ton of flowers from the sunflower family.
Reply:Love Love Love the Chocolate and pale pink. My favorite colors , but that's not why. I have never thought about putting those to together for a wedding. They seems to match and go so well with what you have came up with. You could even give some chocolate favors away to your party guests. Everyone will love you theme.... the colors will go so well with a garden wedding. Congrats. And if you order threw a florist they can always get you the daises you want. Just make sure you let them know in advance. That's what the green houses are for to have the pretty flowers all year long.. I am sure you will look so pretty and the wedding will be gorgues
Reply:I vote for the chocolate and pale pink.
It's a softer look than the black, red and gold which is also nice.
I think brown and pink lends it's self better to a garden wedding.
Also daisies are a heck of a lot cheaper than roses!
Looks like they are available year round.
http://www.flowershopnetwork.com/pages/n...
What ever you choose I'm sure it will be beautiful.
Congrats!
Reply:Chocolate and pink gets my vote! Gerbera daisies are a little spring-y, but if that's what you really want, you could still use them. You might end up paying more for them out of season. Check with your florist and see if they have any suggestions. I personally really like dahlias.
Reply:i think the black and gold sounds really classy,, but i also like the idea of the chocolate brown with pink,, and i love gerberers they are my favorite flowers,, sorry i cant pick between the two,,but i hope you have a lovely day anyway.
Reply:I absolutely LOVE chocolate %26amp; pale pink! I wanted to do that for my wedding but we eloped :-)
Reply:CHOCOLATE PALE PINK
Reply:Chocolate and pale pink.
I am slightly old fashion and Black is a bad omen to me.
Reply:I think chocolate and pale pink will be nicer for the fall.
Reply:Why not the chocolate brown, red, gold. They would be very fall like colors to have.
Reply:I love Chocolate and Pink. My high scools colors are gold and black
Reply:I love the idea of black/gold/white! I think it would look really elegant and be unique. Lots of people are doing the chocolate brown/pink or chocolate brown/blue combos these days. Black might be a bit too fancy for that time/season though, so what about choc. brown/white/gold? You can have pink as the accent color. I personally love hot pink, but pale pink would be pretty too. Or you can go pale pink dresses with choc. brown as the accent color and go with hot pink flowers. Gerbera daisies are in season pretty much year-round, but are especially popular Aug-Nov in most areas. Pink chair sashes would look better than brown, but honestly, do you need chair sashes? They make the space look really pretty, but will probably be noticed only by you. If it's in your budget though, go for it! (I wish they had been in our budget!)
BUT..... Now i am leaning towards chocolate bridesmaid dresses with Pink Gerbera Daisies. Also having the pink Gerberas in vases with some nice smooth pebbles in the bottom of the vase, surrounded by tealight candles (i think they are called votive candles) as center pieces. What do you think. I would also use Chocolate brown chair sashes? or maybe pink would be better.
Im thinking pale pink, Not the hot pink for the flowers
Which do you perfer.
The black, red, gold
Or the Chocolate and pale pink?
Its an Autumn garden wedding (about 4pm), with an indoor reception.
Also, what season can you gerbera dasies. Is Autumn the right season.
Sorry if im asking too many questions. I am just looking for peoples honest opinions. Thanks!!!
Wedding colours??
Well, I think that the gold, black, and red would be a little over the top. After all, you want to be the focus, not the decorations, right? The pink and chocolate are way more subdued, yet elegant and very pretty. I would definitely go with those colors. As far as the chair sashes, I see nothing wrong with alternating, one pink, one brown. Or maybe have one table full be pink, and the next one brown. Mix it up. Or even if you have 15 tables, doing most of them in one color, and then only a few in the pink. It would be pretty no matter how you do that I think. As far as whether or not gerbera daisies will be in season, i'm not sure. Better to call the florist you plan on using, or any florist, and ask them. They'll be able to tell you whether or not you could have them shipped from somewhere else too, and what kind of extra expense you might be looking at to get them out of season. It's always more for flowers that are out of season, since they usually have to be shipped from far away.
Reply:The black and gold will be too strong, and remember the gentlemen will be there in black too!
While the chocolate may be milder and more appropriate for the season...it will complement the autumn colours.
The dark brown however will clash with the black!
Consider a reddish-brown, reddish-brown and white do complement each other without the harshness of black and white.
It will have to be a darker brown-to red though, and consider a
two-tone with a fade from dark red to brown, with a white sash
Gold only looks good as a trimming, so stick with the brown chair sashes and maybe gold edging...
Hope I helped and good luck... you've got a long road ahead of you!
Reply:chocolate and pale pink - for sure! Gerbera dasies are spring bloomers, but available all year around. You could put a touch (just a hint) of pale pink/chocolate in your bouquet too - just to pick up the colors in the girls dresses - whatever you do, not dye any colors on the flowers - go fresh flowers too. I would go with the choc brown chair sashes - sometimes guys get a bit uncomfortable with so much pink around - dont forget its his wedding too.
Reply:i prefer the chocolate and very pale pink. i am also having an autumn wedding but i have decided on sage and burgundy as my colors.
and i think the daisies will be fine in autumn especially since they are part of the sunflower family. i have seen a lot of floral arrangements designed for fall weddings with a ton of flowers from the sunflower family.
Reply:Love Love Love the Chocolate and pale pink. My favorite colors , but that's not why. I have never thought about putting those to together for a wedding. They seems to match and go so well with what you have came up with. You could even give some chocolate favors away to your party guests. Everyone will love you theme.... the colors will go so well with a garden wedding. Congrats. And if you order threw a florist they can always get you the daises you want. Just make sure you let them know in advance. That's what the green houses are for to have the pretty flowers all year long.. I am sure you will look so pretty and the wedding will be gorgues
Reply:I vote for the chocolate and pale pink.
It's a softer look than the black, red and gold which is also nice.
I think brown and pink lends it's self better to a garden wedding.
Also daisies are a heck of a lot cheaper than roses!
Looks like they are available year round.
http://www.flowershopnetwork.com/pages/n...
What ever you choose I'm sure it will be beautiful.
Congrats!
Reply:Chocolate and pink gets my vote! Gerbera daisies are a little spring-y, but if that's what you really want, you could still use them. You might end up paying more for them out of season. Check with your florist and see if they have any suggestions. I personally really like dahlias.
Reply:i think the black and gold sounds really classy,, but i also like the idea of the chocolate brown with pink,, and i love gerberers they are my favorite flowers,, sorry i cant pick between the two,,but i hope you have a lovely day anyway.
Reply:I absolutely LOVE chocolate %26amp; pale pink! I wanted to do that for my wedding but we eloped :-)
Reply:CHOCOLATE PALE PINK
Reply:Chocolate and pale pink.
I am slightly old fashion and Black is a bad omen to me.
Reply:I think chocolate and pale pink will be nicer for the fall.
Reply:Why not the chocolate brown, red, gold. They would be very fall like colors to have.
Reply:I love Chocolate and Pink. My high scools colors are gold and black
Reply:I love the idea of black/gold/white! I think it would look really elegant and be unique. Lots of people are doing the chocolate brown/pink or chocolate brown/blue combos these days. Black might be a bit too fancy for that time/season though, so what about choc. brown/white/gold? You can have pink as the accent color. I personally love hot pink, but pale pink would be pretty too. Or you can go pale pink dresses with choc. brown as the accent color and go with hot pink flowers. Gerbera daisies are in season pretty much year-round, but are especially popular Aug-Nov in most areas. Pink chair sashes would look better than brown, but honestly, do you need chair sashes? They make the space look really pretty, but will probably be noticed only by you. If it's in your budget though, go for it! (I wish they had been in our budget!)
Centerpiece help for an early October wedding?
My wedding color is red and I was thinking of working cranberries into my centerpieces. The reception is in the evening and I would like to use white lights and candles as well. I'm just afraid it will look too much like Christmas. Do you think it will?
I'm having a difficult time coming up with inexpensive (no flowers) for centerpieces. Any thoughts?
Thanks in advance.
Centerpiece help for an early October wedding?
Float cranberries and floating candles in a pretty glass bowl. Put the bowl on a mirror and surround with small votive candles
http://www.oceanspray.com/images/r_craft...
Ocean Spray has several decor ideas:
http://www.oceanspray.com/recipes/crafts...
The Knotties have put together TONS of fantastic, non floral ideas in these bios:
http://www.theknot.com/co_profileview.ht...
http://www.theknot.com/co_profileview.ht...
Other Non Floral Ideas:
You maybe have seen the simple breadbaskets on your table at a restaurant, but your centerpieces may be an overflowing collection of Italian rolls, marble rye, pumpernickel, grissini, and other mouthwatering breads. Have your caterer provide a selection of spreads such as garlic butter, spiced butters, whipped vegetable cream cheese, virgin olive oil, or tapenade. Your guests will love digging into your centerpieces
Topiaries are a wonderful and lovely idea for a garden wedding, or just a simple outdoor wedding. Placed in the center of the table with a few fall, spring, or summer leaves would make an elegant and rememberable centerpiece.
Nothing will get your guests mingling more than a display of family wedding pictures and lovely shots of the two of you. Family members there will remember those weddings and love to describe it to other guests. This is a really cool way to do the photos:
http://www.marthastewart.com/portal/site...
If you have wrapped your favors, the wrapped gifts can be stacked attractively to make an eye-catching centerpiece.
For a fall wedding, you can get miniature pumpkins to place on the tables with fall confetti tossed around them.
http://interiordec.about.com/library/gra...
Candles are a great way to add a touch of class and mystery to your tables. Cluster pillars of different heights with loose flowers in a shape that echoes the shape of your table. Want to add a little more drama? Use stencils, candle painting medium and your favorite paint color to add your monogram, or words like "hope"' and "faith" to the each table.
This is another nice way to do candles, and you could use red marbles or even cranberries at the bottom of the holder:
http://www.lillianvernon.com/catalog/pro...
These are pretty too:
http://www.100candles.com/Items/Item_732...
http://www.superweddings.com/decor/hc2_c...
http://www.pbase.com/shutteredeye/image/...
http://www.pomwonderful.com/images_recip...
http://static.flickr.com/75/238503415_12...
Reply:Get a glass bowl or candle holder that can hold the candle... they are really cheap and then you can fill the bottom with red glass balls... you can even mix them up with other colors. The light against the glass would make it look nice.
Reply:How about using the cranberries, some colored leaves and things like that. That would be lovely. Or maybe get those small pumpkins and use them. That would look nice.
Reply:no, that would be gorgeous, what a wonderful idea!
Reply:Cranberries also are a beautiful fall colour - we do have them at Thanksgiving.
Also might consider those mini gourds that are available, of all shapes, styles and colours. Some of them are way cool.
Reply:Cranberries sound nice, but just have candles and maybe chinese lanterns, no white lights...that would make it Christmasy.
As far as flowers, dahlias are cheap and have a nice shade of red.
Reply:You could do mirrors, with several sizes of pillar candles, surrounded by hypercium berries instead of cranberries. You can get candles cheap (many times you can get them at the dollar store).
Reply:Christmas colours are red green and white. Also silver and yellow sometimes too. Your wedding is just fine, white and red is very nice and no it will not look like christmas.
Centrepiece: You say flowers are expensive. Well, what about some wild flowers/plants (seasonal) and making the centrepieces yourself?
Or you could buy some artificial flowers/plants and arrange them in an inexpensive way. Some are really unusual,sprayed all kinds of colours and they would look nice I think.
Reply:I've been looking at using wilow branches and hanging the tea lights from them. Perhaps arrange the branches in a hurricane vase and have the cranberries in the water??
Hope that helps, congrats!
Reply:My cousin used like the first person said a set of three different height pillar vases, tied a red rose to a bag of red glass stones to keep the rose at the bottom, then placed more glass stones to fill the bottom. Fill with water and she placed white floating candles at top, it was simple and beautiful. I was able to take a set home and redo them for different holidays or events.
Reply:Hide your lights under the table cloths. The light still shines through, it makes your table cloth sparkle and really adds some pizzazz to your reception and won't look Christmas like. Centerpieces, take advantage of the season use leaves, you could even use pinecombs or small pumpkins or even a small scarecrow. Just get clear glass bowls (around 1-3 dollars at a craft store) and put the leaves in the bowl, and place 2-3 pinecombs or 1 small pumpkin in the middle or 1 scarecrow. You could do the bowl the same, but in the middle, but a scarecrow, then 2 small pumpkins on each side. You can also place the bowl on top of a small mirror and surround it with candles. Use the leaves for your other tables too (guest book table etc...) just scatter them around.
Reply:What about pillar vases (get them cheap at a glass outlet) with the cranberries submerged in water? Put three together in the middle of the table (each should be different height) then surround with pine cones and white votive candles. Shouldn't cost you more than like $20 per table if you buy these things in bulk.
Reply:I saw the coolest picture of a fall centerpiece on the knot.com. The couple cleaned out medium sized pumpkins and placed candles inside. It would be pretty to put cranberries around the bottom of the pumpkins. Good luck!!!!
sidi way rain boots
I'm having a difficult time coming up with inexpensive (no flowers) for centerpieces. Any thoughts?
Thanks in advance.
Centerpiece help for an early October wedding?
Float cranberries and floating candles in a pretty glass bowl. Put the bowl on a mirror and surround with small votive candles
http://www.oceanspray.com/images/r_craft...
Ocean Spray has several decor ideas:
http://www.oceanspray.com/recipes/crafts...
The Knotties have put together TONS of fantastic, non floral ideas in these bios:
http://www.theknot.com/co_profileview.ht...
http://www.theknot.com/co_profileview.ht...
Other Non Floral Ideas:
You maybe have seen the simple breadbaskets on your table at a restaurant, but your centerpieces may be an overflowing collection of Italian rolls, marble rye, pumpernickel, grissini, and other mouthwatering breads. Have your caterer provide a selection of spreads such as garlic butter, spiced butters, whipped vegetable cream cheese, virgin olive oil, or tapenade. Your guests will love digging into your centerpieces
Topiaries are a wonderful and lovely idea for a garden wedding, or just a simple outdoor wedding. Placed in the center of the table with a few fall, spring, or summer leaves would make an elegant and rememberable centerpiece.
Nothing will get your guests mingling more than a display of family wedding pictures and lovely shots of the two of you. Family members there will remember those weddings and love to describe it to other guests. This is a really cool way to do the photos:
http://www.marthastewart.com/portal/site...
If you have wrapped your favors, the wrapped gifts can be stacked attractively to make an eye-catching centerpiece.
For a fall wedding, you can get miniature pumpkins to place on the tables with fall confetti tossed around them.
http://interiordec.about.com/library/gra...
Candles are a great way to add a touch of class and mystery to your tables. Cluster pillars of different heights with loose flowers in a shape that echoes the shape of your table. Want to add a little more drama? Use stencils, candle painting medium and your favorite paint color to add your monogram, or words like "hope"' and "faith" to the each table.
This is another nice way to do candles, and you could use red marbles or even cranberries at the bottom of the holder:
http://www.lillianvernon.com/catalog/pro...
These are pretty too:
http://www.100candles.com/Items/Item_732...
http://www.superweddings.com/decor/hc2_c...
http://www.pbase.com/shutteredeye/image/...
http://www.pomwonderful.com/images_recip...
http://static.flickr.com/75/238503415_12...
Reply:Get a glass bowl or candle holder that can hold the candle... they are really cheap and then you can fill the bottom with red glass balls... you can even mix them up with other colors. The light against the glass would make it look nice.
Reply:How about using the cranberries, some colored leaves and things like that. That would be lovely. Or maybe get those small pumpkins and use them. That would look nice.
Reply:no, that would be gorgeous, what a wonderful idea!
Reply:Cranberries also are a beautiful fall colour - we do have them at Thanksgiving.
Also might consider those mini gourds that are available, of all shapes, styles and colours. Some of them are way cool.
Reply:Cranberries sound nice, but just have candles and maybe chinese lanterns, no white lights...that would make it Christmasy.
As far as flowers, dahlias are cheap and have a nice shade of red.
Reply:You could do mirrors, with several sizes of pillar candles, surrounded by hypercium berries instead of cranberries. You can get candles cheap (many times you can get them at the dollar store).
Reply:Christmas colours are red green and white. Also silver and yellow sometimes too. Your wedding is just fine, white and red is very nice and no it will not look like christmas.
Centrepiece: You say flowers are expensive. Well, what about some wild flowers/plants (seasonal) and making the centrepieces yourself?
Or you could buy some artificial flowers/plants and arrange them in an inexpensive way. Some are really unusual,sprayed all kinds of colours and they would look nice I think.
Reply:I've been looking at using wilow branches and hanging the tea lights from them. Perhaps arrange the branches in a hurricane vase and have the cranberries in the water??
Hope that helps, congrats!
Reply:My cousin used like the first person said a set of three different height pillar vases, tied a red rose to a bag of red glass stones to keep the rose at the bottom, then placed more glass stones to fill the bottom. Fill with water and she placed white floating candles at top, it was simple and beautiful. I was able to take a set home and redo them for different holidays or events.
Reply:Hide your lights under the table cloths. The light still shines through, it makes your table cloth sparkle and really adds some pizzazz to your reception and won't look Christmas like. Centerpieces, take advantage of the season use leaves, you could even use pinecombs or small pumpkins or even a small scarecrow. Just get clear glass bowls (around 1-3 dollars at a craft store) and put the leaves in the bowl, and place 2-3 pinecombs or 1 small pumpkin in the middle or 1 scarecrow. You could do the bowl the same, but in the middle, but a scarecrow, then 2 small pumpkins on each side. You can also place the bowl on top of a small mirror and surround it with candles. Use the leaves for your other tables too (guest book table etc...) just scatter them around.
Reply:What about pillar vases (get them cheap at a glass outlet) with the cranberries submerged in water? Put three together in the middle of the table (each should be different height) then surround with pine cones and white votive candles. Shouldn't cost you more than like $20 per table if you buy these things in bulk.
Reply:I saw the coolest picture of a fall centerpiece on the knot.com. The couple cleaned out medium sized pumpkins and placed candles inside. It would be pretty to put cranberries around the bottom of the pumpkins. Good luck!!!!
sidi way rain boots
We had a civil marriage, but our "party/reception" is coming up... what do we call this? Renewal of vows?
My husband %26amp; I already married civilly. For financial reasons, we are having our big white wedding with bridesmaids %26amp; flowers, cake %26amp; out of town guests in August 2008.
What do we call this on the invites? Is this a 'second marriage'? A renewal of vows? I want to walk down the aisle, but is this inappropriate now that I'm already married? The "wedding" will look and feel like a real marriage - I will have a band, big cake, flowers, dancing... but how do I present this event to my guests?
It is okay if they know we are already married, but I do not want to take away from the "magic" of the big day.
Thanks!
We had a civil marriage, but our "party/reception" is coming up... what do we call this? Renewal of vows?
That's when I'm getting married too! There's no reason you can't have your own special day, either! If you're anything like me, the lovely wedding is something you've been planning since you were a little girl. Call it a renewal of your vows. Allow your friends and family to know the situation and make sure they know this is a very special day for you. Let them know that you wanted them to be with you on your wedding day and that this is the time to celebrate the coming together of you and your husband. There is absolutely no reason why a first-time ceremony should be more special to anyone than a public renewal of your commitment to each other. Have fun and don't worry about impressing anyone- this is your day!
Reply:You obviously are already married, so you don't get a 'do over' wedding, so this isn't your second marriage. It's also not a renewal of vows, since you haven't been married long enough.
What you should be planning is just an anniversary party, basically. Remember to say "No gifts, please".
Reply:Call it the "Celebration" of your marriage.
Below is a link to wording from just such a ceremony
http://www.churchofancientways.org/Renew...
Reply:You are already married so it would be called a Vow Renewal rather than a wedding. It's not inappropriate to walk down the aisle, how else would you get there?? Many people do this sort of thing and I think it only fair that everyone knows this is a vow renewal, it seems a shame to try to hide the fact that you are already married, a civil ceremony is just as legally binding and just as valid as a church wedding.
Reply:just say wedding or affirmation of vows.
i say do what ever you want for your wedding. wear anything you want. have whatever music and food you want!
so many people on here put in their 2 cents worth and harp on the "tradition" of weddings but last i checked not enough emphasis is put in to the "tradition" of marriage!!
just make sure you place your real energy in to the marriage part of things. the rest is up to you.
live it up and do it how you want!!!
Reply:me and my hubby did the same thing. we got married in reno because of finances and now that we can afford it we're going to do out reception in dec of 2009. we're calling it our anniversary reception.
Reply:Calling it a vow renewal would be fine. Basically, if you want to throw a party and wine and dine people to celebrate your love, that's great! There might be a few gripers but so what!
Reply:I would call it a "celebration of marriage".
Reply:You are correct, a renewal of vows is the most appropriate for your situation. A 'second marriage' indicates that there was a divorce. And a 'marriage' indicates that you are single.
What do we call this on the invites? Is this a 'second marriage'? A renewal of vows? I want to walk down the aisle, but is this inappropriate now that I'm already married? The "wedding" will look and feel like a real marriage - I will have a band, big cake, flowers, dancing... but how do I present this event to my guests?
It is okay if they know we are already married, but I do not want to take away from the "magic" of the big day.
Thanks!
We had a civil marriage, but our "party/reception" is coming up... what do we call this? Renewal of vows?
That's when I'm getting married too! There's no reason you can't have your own special day, either! If you're anything like me, the lovely wedding is something you've been planning since you were a little girl. Call it a renewal of your vows. Allow your friends and family to know the situation and make sure they know this is a very special day for you. Let them know that you wanted them to be with you on your wedding day and that this is the time to celebrate the coming together of you and your husband. There is absolutely no reason why a first-time ceremony should be more special to anyone than a public renewal of your commitment to each other. Have fun and don't worry about impressing anyone- this is your day!
Reply:You obviously are already married, so you don't get a 'do over' wedding, so this isn't your second marriage. It's also not a renewal of vows, since you haven't been married long enough.
What you should be planning is just an anniversary party, basically. Remember to say "No gifts, please".
Reply:Call it the "Celebration" of your marriage.
Below is a link to wording from just such a ceremony
http://www.churchofancientways.org/Renew...
Reply:You are already married so it would be called a Vow Renewal rather than a wedding. It's not inappropriate to walk down the aisle, how else would you get there?? Many people do this sort of thing and I think it only fair that everyone knows this is a vow renewal, it seems a shame to try to hide the fact that you are already married, a civil ceremony is just as legally binding and just as valid as a church wedding.
Reply:just say wedding or affirmation of vows.
i say do what ever you want for your wedding. wear anything you want. have whatever music and food you want!
so many people on here put in their 2 cents worth and harp on the "tradition" of weddings but last i checked not enough emphasis is put in to the "tradition" of marriage!!
just make sure you place your real energy in to the marriage part of things. the rest is up to you.
live it up and do it how you want!!!
Reply:me and my hubby did the same thing. we got married in reno because of finances and now that we can afford it we're going to do out reception in dec of 2009. we're calling it our anniversary reception.
Reply:Calling it a vow renewal would be fine. Basically, if you want to throw a party and wine and dine people to celebrate your love, that's great! There might be a few gripers but so what!
Reply:I would call it a "celebration of marriage".
Reply:You are correct, a renewal of vows is the most appropriate for your situation. A 'second marriage' indicates that there was a divorce. And a 'marriage' indicates that you are single.
Wedding planning???
I'm planning my wedding for next year and dont even know where to start! I would like to do flowers that are a maroon or merlot color and have had no luck finding any (on the internet) just wondering if anyone knows of any good websites with lots of info! (besides theknot.com) also, as far as the reception who does all the decorating? do i have to hire someone or what?? thank you, clueless.
Wedding planning???
Try some of these sites and many blessing to you hears a good website to start hope these help
Reply:2 things, try 1800 flowers or buy white flowers and spray paint them merlot
Reply:There's a certain variety of roses that come in a dark red color, and they're beautiful. Try asking your florist, they'll have a bunch of suggestions for you. For the reception, it depends on where you're having it. Some places will decorate for you, others want you to do it, and they'll usually let you do it the day before the wedding.
Reply:If you can afford it, hire a bridal consultant.
You start by setting your budget and deciding how much of said budget will be allotted to which services/items.
As far as flowers, find a floral designer (not the same thing as a florist) in your area and go have a sit down meeting with him or her.
Decorating is generally up to you. Some more full service places will decorate, but you are going to pay for it. Sometimes you can decorate it the night before, other times, it has to be done the day of, so generally you would ask friends and/or family members to do it. Make sure to ask when you are looking at venues, they will be able to tell you what their requirements are.
If you cannot afford a full time bridal consultant, many wedding planners are willing to work as "day of" help so that they can handle decorations and all of the last minute things that come up as well as making sure everyone is where they belong doing what they should when they should be. It's worth the money to reduce the stress.
Good luck and congrats!
Reply:LOOK UNDER WEDDING PLANNING IN YOUR AREA AND EVERYONE WILL COME OUT OF THE WOOD WORK..CHECK HOTELS OR ASK YOUR CHURCH...THEY'LL BE HAPPY TO HELP..
CONGRATS AND GOOD LUCK...
ALSO ON THE FLOWERS IT DEPENDS ON THE SEASON...YOUR GETTING MARRIED,AND IF THOSE FLOWERS ARE IN BLOOM... AT THAT TIME
Reply:Email me at eb_stuff@yahoo.com. Got a lengthy WORD document with all kinds of information in it from start to finish of a wedding.
Reply:http://i46.photobucket.com/albums/f141/m... Peonies, Calla Lillies and Rio Roses
Reply:Congratulations! If you can't find any flowers that are a maroon or merlot there are other ways to have that color on other things. How about if you have chair covers with maroon or merlot color? It depends on what your theme color is. You can have silver chair covers with maroon sash (bow). Chair covers make a lot of different. That is the first thing that your guests see when they enter the room. It makes the room looks a lot nicer. Or you can rent chivari chairs and put maroon or merlot sash (bow) on the chairs.
About the reception, most vendors should be able to set-up their own products. The chair covers vendor set-up the chair covers and bows, the florist set-up the centerpieces any other flowers that you might have, etc. If you rent chivari chairs you will need to arrange them yourself. Unless you are having the reception at a hotel then the hotel staffs will arrange them for you around the tables. When you call the vendors ask them if they set-up their products. Most vendors set-up their own products but some don't.
About seating, you can have an arranged seating or you can let them sit wherever they want. I don't like arranged seating because it gives me headache. You will have to see if this person can sit with that person. If this person gets along with that person. Things like that. I wouldn't even put a "Reserved" table(s) because you will piss some people off whether you want it or not.
There will be small things that you need to assign your friends and family to do it for you. Such as greeting the guests, checking off the guestlist, You will also need to pick somebody who is trust worthy to be the point of contact on the day of the wedding. That person will be the voice of you.
Good luck!
Reply:How about silk flowers? That way, you can get the color you want.
http://www.thebridesbouquet.com/Burgundy...
At my wedding, my florist did all the decorating (at both church and reception) . . . and did a beautiful job.
Many brides decorate early and do it themselves. Still others ask friends or family members to do it. Often, someone who works at the reception venue will decorate for them. So the choice is yours . . . hire someone, do it yourself, or ask friends or family for assistance.
Reply:You need to get a bridal book that gives you info about all of the things you will need to do before the big day. This is going to be a wonderful adventure for you and LOTS of fun! You can get wedding planning book at a bridal store or department stores where they have wedding registries!!!
You need to go out and pick out your dress and place of ceremony first!
Wedding dress alterations may take a while and places of ceremony can be booked up to about a year in advance.
I wish you the best of luck. It is going to be fun! Expensive.. so hopefully you will have help there!
You really need to get started now. This year is going to fly by!!! Yeah!! Congratulations! This is a beginning of a new life for you!!
(Remember marriage is not like in the movies... It is going to be a roller coaster ride for up to the first 5 years, probably!)
Reply:Try typing wedding flowers into google, I got a list of seasonal flowers come up, I then shortlisted it to 5 flowers, we are next going to look at what colours each flower comes in to shortlist it to our colours.
Good website is hitched.co.uk.
You can either decorate yourselves or hire someone, you will sometimes find the company you buy decorations for will go in and decorate for you
Reply:The first thing you need to do is fine a wedding guide or personal planner. I am not talking about an individual, just a big note book. Keep everything in one place. One with pockets is best.
You need to confirm the big stuff first.
The church, the reception hall if needed, the minister, or Rabbi, or whatever depending on your preference.
Band, caterer, ...big stuff. Get them all on contract first so that there aren't' date problems.
Then go with the smaller stuff..
Start going to big craft stores. Like Hobby Lobby and pick out some silk flowers that resemble what you want. Have those handy when you go to a florist.
Here are some web-sites that will help you get organized. The more you get the big stuff out of the way, the funner it makes planning the rest of it.
http://www.weddingsolutions.com/index.cf...
http://www.weddingplanneronly.com/
Picture the last wedding that you went to and make categories in your notebook/planner. Sections such as Church/location, flowers, menu, guests, bridesmaids and so on..
It will call come together and remember, it is your wedding! Do it your way with no regrets!
Reply:just hire a wedding planner, you will be glad you did
Wedding planning???
Try some of these sites and many blessing to you hears a good website to start hope these help
Reply:2 things, try 1800 flowers or buy white flowers and spray paint them merlot
Reply:There's a certain variety of roses that come in a dark red color, and they're beautiful. Try asking your florist, they'll have a bunch of suggestions for you. For the reception, it depends on where you're having it. Some places will decorate for you, others want you to do it, and they'll usually let you do it the day before the wedding.
Reply:If you can afford it, hire a bridal consultant.
You start by setting your budget and deciding how much of said budget will be allotted to which services/items.
As far as flowers, find a floral designer (not the same thing as a florist) in your area and go have a sit down meeting with him or her.
Decorating is generally up to you. Some more full service places will decorate, but you are going to pay for it. Sometimes you can decorate it the night before, other times, it has to be done the day of, so generally you would ask friends and/or family members to do it. Make sure to ask when you are looking at venues, they will be able to tell you what their requirements are.
If you cannot afford a full time bridal consultant, many wedding planners are willing to work as "day of" help so that they can handle decorations and all of the last minute things that come up as well as making sure everyone is where they belong doing what they should when they should be. It's worth the money to reduce the stress.
Good luck and congrats!
Reply:LOOK UNDER WEDDING PLANNING IN YOUR AREA AND EVERYONE WILL COME OUT OF THE WOOD WORK..CHECK HOTELS OR ASK YOUR CHURCH...THEY'LL BE HAPPY TO HELP..
CONGRATS AND GOOD LUCK...
ALSO ON THE FLOWERS IT DEPENDS ON THE SEASON...YOUR GETTING MARRIED,AND IF THOSE FLOWERS ARE IN BLOOM... AT THAT TIME
Reply:Email me at eb_stuff@yahoo.com. Got a lengthy WORD document with all kinds of information in it from start to finish of a wedding.
Reply:http://i46.photobucket.com/albums/f141/m... Peonies, Calla Lillies and Rio Roses
Reply:Congratulations! If you can't find any flowers that are a maroon or merlot there are other ways to have that color on other things. How about if you have chair covers with maroon or merlot color? It depends on what your theme color is. You can have silver chair covers with maroon sash (bow). Chair covers make a lot of different. That is the first thing that your guests see when they enter the room. It makes the room looks a lot nicer. Or you can rent chivari chairs and put maroon or merlot sash (bow) on the chairs.
About the reception, most vendors should be able to set-up their own products. The chair covers vendor set-up the chair covers and bows, the florist set-up the centerpieces any other flowers that you might have, etc. If you rent chivari chairs you will need to arrange them yourself. Unless you are having the reception at a hotel then the hotel staffs will arrange them for you around the tables. When you call the vendors ask them if they set-up their products. Most vendors set-up their own products but some don't.
About seating, you can have an arranged seating or you can let them sit wherever they want. I don't like arranged seating because it gives me headache. You will have to see if this person can sit with that person. If this person gets along with that person. Things like that. I wouldn't even put a "Reserved" table(s) because you will piss some people off whether you want it or not.
There will be small things that you need to assign your friends and family to do it for you. Such as greeting the guests, checking off the guestlist, You will also need to pick somebody who is trust worthy to be the point of contact on the day of the wedding. That person will be the voice of you.
Good luck!
Reply:How about silk flowers? That way, you can get the color you want.
http://www.thebridesbouquet.com/Burgundy...
At my wedding, my florist did all the decorating (at both church and reception) . . . and did a beautiful job.
Many brides decorate early and do it themselves. Still others ask friends or family members to do it. Often, someone who works at the reception venue will decorate for them. So the choice is yours . . . hire someone, do it yourself, or ask friends or family for assistance.
Reply:You need to get a bridal book that gives you info about all of the things you will need to do before the big day. This is going to be a wonderful adventure for you and LOTS of fun! You can get wedding planning book at a bridal store or department stores where they have wedding registries!!!
You need to go out and pick out your dress and place of ceremony first!
Wedding dress alterations may take a while and places of ceremony can be booked up to about a year in advance.
I wish you the best of luck. It is going to be fun! Expensive.. so hopefully you will have help there!
You really need to get started now. This year is going to fly by!!! Yeah!! Congratulations! This is a beginning of a new life for you!!
(Remember marriage is not like in the movies... It is going to be a roller coaster ride for up to the first 5 years, probably!)
Reply:Try typing wedding flowers into google, I got a list of seasonal flowers come up, I then shortlisted it to 5 flowers, we are next going to look at what colours each flower comes in to shortlist it to our colours.
Good website is hitched.co.uk.
You can either decorate yourselves or hire someone, you will sometimes find the company you buy decorations for will go in and decorate for you
Reply:The first thing you need to do is fine a wedding guide or personal planner. I am not talking about an individual, just a big note book. Keep everything in one place. One with pockets is best.
You need to confirm the big stuff first.
The church, the reception hall if needed, the minister, or Rabbi, or whatever depending on your preference.
Band, caterer, ...big stuff. Get them all on contract first so that there aren't' date problems.
Then go with the smaller stuff..
Start going to big craft stores. Like Hobby Lobby and pick out some silk flowers that resemble what you want. Have those handy when you go to a florist.
Here are some web-sites that will help you get organized. The more you get the big stuff out of the way, the funner it makes planning the rest of it.
http://www.weddingsolutions.com/index.cf...
http://www.weddingplanneronly.com/
Picture the last wedding that you went to and make categories in your notebook/planner. Sections such as Church/location, flowers, menu, guests, bridesmaids and so on..
It will call come together and remember, it is your wedding! Do it your way with no regrets!
Reply:just hire a wedding planner, you will be glad you did
Can you describe your dream wedding?
Include everything from flowers, colors, location to menu, reception, honeymoon, etc.
Can you describe your dream wedding?
I want to get married at my BF's father's summer house on a lake. They have a small island about 20 feet from there beach that they have turned into a garden. I want to be on the island at sunset while everyone watches from the beach or on boats surrounding. The colors would be red, black and white with white and red roses every where. I want my twin cousins to be the ring bearers, and his cousins to be the two flower girls. Then for the reception I want it to be very laid back with buffet dinner. I would have a DJ for the first few hours then have my BF's band and other local bands play the rest of the time. Have an open invite for the party so anyone that knows us can come. (I have lived in my town my whole life and my father grew up there as well from 5 on. So there are many people that have watched me grow and would want to be there.) As for the honeymoon I am not really sure maybe to travel around to different European country's.
Reply:Well when I was a little girl my dream wedding was on a beach. I would picture it with 1 maid of honor wearing white capris and a red satin tank top and my self in an white simple sun dress, barefoot.
Reception at a place that does everything. A buffet menu. Lots of dancing and fun.
Honeymoon..anywhere private and without alot children around. Maybe Sandals couples only resort.
Been married 14 years and I got Mom's dream wedding.
Reply:Well i would have my gown picked out it is with tulle and sparkles and then i would have a cathedral veil and then i would carry a huge boquet and then my flower girl would wear a veil and a dress similar to mine i would want a big wedding the flowers would be lillies roses and pansies the colors would be mint and silver it would take place in a hall then the reception would have tons of food to steak to pork and the tables would be square and then there would be a huge dance floor and then i would have a dj and then a stage so we could be seen from across the room my honeymoon would take place in New York and we would get the honeymoon suite and do it all ours of the day oh yeah we would dance to the song a moment like this by kelly clarkson and then I would dance with my dad with the song i loved her first so yeah that is my dream wedding
Reply:I know this is going to sound a little unusual...
But I would like to elope to Vegas. I'd be wearing a slim fitting white dress, cocktail style, with lace overlay, and maybe a pillbox hat with a short veil. The groom would be wearing a red velvet vintage tux. we'd find the cheesiest, dinky-est little church. It would be after nightfall, and a hugely fat Elvis impersonator would marry us. We'd dance to "Can't help falling in love with you" by Elvis.
Reply:Ok I no it doesnt sound too fancy or anything but Im not a fancy perssom.
Ok I'd fly all my freinds and family to the Bahamas and have a wedding on the beach. I'd have wooden chairs all lined up in the sand and everyone will be wearing like earthy colours like khakis and whites and maybe light greens and greys........ The bridesmades would be wearing kneelength baby blue sundresses. I want to be wearing a short white wedding dress with a long trail at the bottom of it. Everyone will throw pink and blue petals at us a we walk down the isle in a fun way not a rude one. My colors will be baby blues pinks and whites
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Can you describe your dream wedding?
I want to get married at my BF's father's summer house on a lake. They have a small island about 20 feet from there beach that they have turned into a garden. I want to be on the island at sunset while everyone watches from the beach or on boats surrounding. The colors would be red, black and white with white and red roses every where. I want my twin cousins to be the ring bearers, and his cousins to be the two flower girls. Then for the reception I want it to be very laid back with buffet dinner. I would have a DJ for the first few hours then have my BF's band and other local bands play the rest of the time. Have an open invite for the party so anyone that knows us can come. (I have lived in my town my whole life and my father grew up there as well from 5 on. So there are many people that have watched me grow and would want to be there.) As for the honeymoon I am not really sure maybe to travel around to different European country's.
Reply:Well when I was a little girl my dream wedding was on a beach. I would picture it with 1 maid of honor wearing white capris and a red satin tank top and my self in an white simple sun dress, barefoot.
Reception at a place that does everything. A buffet menu. Lots of dancing and fun.
Honeymoon..anywhere private and without alot children around. Maybe Sandals couples only resort.
Been married 14 years and I got Mom's dream wedding.
Reply:Well i would have my gown picked out it is with tulle and sparkles and then i would have a cathedral veil and then i would carry a huge boquet and then my flower girl would wear a veil and a dress similar to mine i would want a big wedding the flowers would be lillies roses and pansies the colors would be mint and silver it would take place in a hall then the reception would have tons of food to steak to pork and the tables would be square and then there would be a huge dance floor and then i would have a dj and then a stage so we could be seen from across the room my honeymoon would take place in New York and we would get the honeymoon suite and do it all ours of the day oh yeah we would dance to the song a moment like this by kelly clarkson and then I would dance with my dad with the song i loved her first so yeah that is my dream wedding
Reply:I know this is going to sound a little unusual...
But I would like to elope to Vegas. I'd be wearing a slim fitting white dress, cocktail style, with lace overlay, and maybe a pillbox hat with a short veil. The groom would be wearing a red velvet vintage tux. we'd find the cheesiest, dinky-est little church. It would be after nightfall, and a hugely fat Elvis impersonator would marry us. We'd dance to "Can't help falling in love with you" by Elvis.
Reply:Ok I no it doesnt sound too fancy or anything but Im not a fancy perssom.
Ok I'd fly all my freinds and family to the Bahamas and have a wedding on the beach. I'd have wooden chairs all lined up in the sand and everyone will be wearing like earthy colours like khakis and whites and maybe light greens and greys........ The bridesmades would be wearing kneelength baby blue sundresses. I want to be wearing a short white wedding dress with a long trail at the bottom of it. Everyone will throw pink and blue petals at us a we walk down the isle in a fun way not a rude one. My colors will be baby blues pinks and whites
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Wedding theme?
Is a wedding "theme" really necessary? What are some unique themes for a wedding without being cheesy and how do you incorporate this into the ceremony/reception?
I am getting married at the end of August 2008, so it's kind of the summer - fall transition. I know I want red or a shade of red for the bridemaids dresses, and complimentary colors for flowers/decorations etc.
Wedding theme?
You don't need an elaborate theme, just pick things you like and just make sure they all go together. Your theme can be very simple by just having colours. Pick 2 colours that go together and just work the colours into the things you choose. The key is consistency. Just don't choose pink bridesmaids dresses then choose blue invitations if your colours are purple and white or something. You can incorporate your colours into lots of things such as BM dresses, men's suits (like their ties), invitations, favours, decorations, the list is endless.
Reply:decor from the shore
or just star fishes
maybe a luau theme
and check out this site for unique pieces to have for your wedding
www.shellofagoodtime.com
They are so beautiful!
Reply:well.. you can take a look at these two sites where i coleected photos from flickr.. hope it'll help you somehow.. for wedding themes colour.. i think you can check out color schemes websites such as kuler..
Reply:Your theme in general can just be the colors. You don't have to choose say a fall theme, but yet just choose that the colors red, browns, etc. be throughout the wedding. That is a theme within itself.
Reply:You could just do a red theme. Have your bridemaids where apple red dresses. Give candy %26amp; caramel apples as favors. Have red candles %26amp; flowers as center pieces. You can have red accents on your wedding cake.
Red is a great wedding color. Very classy %26amp; it photographs well.
Red %26amp; Ivory look good in floral arrangments. They contarst nice against each other.
Reply:A theme is not neccessary but may be helpful. I love fall weddings because you can do so much with them. A good theme is the changing colors of leaves. You can somehow tie that into how your lives are gonna change together. It will also tie into the red color you want to use.
Reply:No. A theme is certainly not necessary. To be honest, I have NEVER been to a wedding with a "theme." I'm glad too!! I believe that the theme of any wedding is, simply, "the wedding!" That is a theme in itself.
It's nice to coordinate things using "colors", but keep it to that. You DO NOT need a theme thrown in there too!
Good luck!
Reply:Themes are for parties -- not weddings. The "theme" of a wedding should be the fact that two people are coming together in a union of love.
True, the colors of the wedding can be considered the theme. For example, darker colors are usually for Winter weddings and pastels are usually for Spring weddings. However, just because one is getting married around the time of Mardi Gras doesn't mean the colors should be purple, green, and gold, the wedding party should wear gaudy feathered masks, and people should toss beads about during the reception. Just because a wedding is taking place during thh 4th of July weekend doesn't mean the stars and stripes should be everywhere.
This is a sacred ceremony, not a high school prom. =D
Reply:A "theme" is helpful in planning but not a must. It can be really broad for instance shades of red or just "fall" or it can be really specific such as "famous couples".
When doing a theme it's important not to do it on overkill. Small touches will get your point across. If your theme were to be your monogram have it on the stationary, the cake, and maybe choose dishes that start with letters to spell your name. But don't plaster you monogram on everything in sight.
For that time of year I like "Perfect Pair" as the theme since the harvest is in season. For the menu you would choose food that are a duo like surf and turf. Maybe brocolli and cheese soup. Put pairs on your stationary and include some fresh pears in the flowers. Subtle touches of green will make your red pop and using something like a toffee or a chocolate brown as you nuetral will give that hint of fall.
Reply:you don't have to have a theme. if you want to add hints of red, do it with fall flowers or leaves tucked into the centerpieces, a little bit goes a long way.
Reply:Go to Davids Bridal.com and click onto dress your wedding party. You can pick out a wedding dress bridesmaids' dresses, tuxedos, flowers and everything else that you might need. It is really fun to do and you can get an idea of what your bridal party might look like for your wedding. They also have lots of different colors to choose from. You will have fun doing it and it don't cost a thing.
Reply:You could do a patriotic wedding in honor of Labor Day. Red and white with blue accents. You don't have to put flags everywhere. Just stick with the color palette and you'll be fine.
I am getting married at the end of August 2008, so it's kind of the summer - fall transition. I know I want red or a shade of red for the bridemaids dresses, and complimentary colors for flowers/decorations etc.
Wedding theme?
You don't need an elaborate theme, just pick things you like and just make sure they all go together. Your theme can be very simple by just having colours. Pick 2 colours that go together and just work the colours into the things you choose. The key is consistency. Just don't choose pink bridesmaids dresses then choose blue invitations if your colours are purple and white or something. You can incorporate your colours into lots of things such as BM dresses, men's suits (like their ties), invitations, favours, decorations, the list is endless.
Reply:decor from the shore
or just star fishes
maybe a luau theme
and check out this site for unique pieces to have for your wedding
www.shellofagoodtime.com
They are so beautiful!
Reply:well.. you can take a look at these two sites where i coleected photos from flickr.. hope it'll help you somehow.. for wedding themes colour.. i think you can check out color schemes websites such as kuler..
Reply:Your theme in general can just be the colors. You don't have to choose say a fall theme, but yet just choose that the colors red, browns, etc. be throughout the wedding. That is a theme within itself.
Reply:You could just do a red theme. Have your bridemaids where apple red dresses. Give candy %26amp; caramel apples as favors. Have red candles %26amp; flowers as center pieces. You can have red accents on your wedding cake.
Red is a great wedding color. Very classy %26amp; it photographs well.
Red %26amp; Ivory look good in floral arrangments. They contarst nice against each other.
Reply:A theme is not neccessary but may be helpful. I love fall weddings because you can do so much with them. A good theme is the changing colors of leaves. You can somehow tie that into how your lives are gonna change together. It will also tie into the red color you want to use.
Reply:No. A theme is certainly not necessary. To be honest, I have NEVER been to a wedding with a "theme." I'm glad too!! I believe that the theme of any wedding is, simply, "the wedding!" That is a theme in itself.
It's nice to coordinate things using "colors", but keep it to that. You DO NOT need a theme thrown in there too!
Good luck!
Reply:Themes are for parties -- not weddings. The "theme" of a wedding should be the fact that two people are coming together in a union of love.
True, the colors of the wedding can be considered the theme. For example, darker colors are usually for Winter weddings and pastels are usually for Spring weddings. However, just because one is getting married around the time of Mardi Gras doesn't mean the colors should be purple, green, and gold, the wedding party should wear gaudy feathered masks, and people should toss beads about during the reception. Just because a wedding is taking place during thh 4th of July weekend doesn't mean the stars and stripes should be everywhere.
This is a sacred ceremony, not a high school prom. =D
Reply:A "theme" is helpful in planning but not a must. It can be really broad for instance shades of red or just "fall" or it can be really specific such as "famous couples".
When doing a theme it's important not to do it on overkill. Small touches will get your point across. If your theme were to be your monogram have it on the stationary, the cake, and maybe choose dishes that start with letters to spell your name. But don't plaster you monogram on everything in sight.
For that time of year I like "Perfect Pair" as the theme since the harvest is in season. For the menu you would choose food that are a duo like surf and turf. Maybe brocolli and cheese soup. Put pairs on your stationary and include some fresh pears in the flowers. Subtle touches of green will make your red pop and using something like a toffee or a chocolate brown as you nuetral will give that hint of fall.
Reply:you don't have to have a theme. if you want to add hints of red, do it with fall flowers or leaves tucked into the centerpieces, a little bit goes a long way.
Reply:Go to Davids Bridal.com and click onto dress your wedding party. You can pick out a wedding dress bridesmaids' dresses, tuxedos, flowers and everything else that you might need. It is really fun to do and you can get an idea of what your bridal party might look like for your wedding. They also have lots of different colors to choose from. You will have fun doing it and it don't cost a thing.
Reply:You could do a patriotic wedding in honor of Labor Day. Red and white with blue accents. You don't have to put flags everywhere. Just stick with the color palette and you'll be fine.
5 Months till the wedding.........Am I on the right track?
I got engaged on 12.20.07 and the wedding date is 6.15.08
Thisis what is done:
-food/hall for reception
-park for cememony
-rented the chairs
-cake baker
-flower maker
-my dress!
-flower girl dress
-photographer (NO video)
-bridal party, have told them.
-party favors picked out
Should be getting this week done:
-DJ
-person to marry
-ordering invites
bridesmaid dresses by middle of feb picked out.
I'm going to start my dress alterations end of feb or so because I have to have it 2 size smaller so it may take longer.
I'm doing personlized M%26amp;M's as favors so not sure when they need to be done probaly by end of march?
Tux fitting in april?
will be shopping for items such as: candles, flowers for decration, pen, guestbook, ect soon.
Making the garter, flower girl basket and ring pillow.
Am I on the right track?
Please tell me what I need to do yet! thanks!
5 Months till the wedding.........Am I on the right track?
Wow. You appear to be the most organized bride I've ever seen. You're definitely doing great.
You'll want to take your dress in for alterations ASAP, as they generally take 6 months. The same applies for bridesmaids dresses.
Other than that, great job! And congrats! :o)
Reply:sounds good.
Reply:You're doing good, I can't think of anything that stands out. I laughed when I read your question, because you list that this week you need a "person to marry"- I know you mean officiant, but the way you worded it makes it sound like you are groom shopping! : )
Two things I will recommend, from experience:
1- Rethink the video. We got one done but we didn't spend a lot on it, and I am so glad we got it. I love watching it. I am glad I decided to get it.
2- Imagine your day from beginning to end, everything that you will have to do and how you want things to flow. Spend some time walking through all of the details in your mind- that will help you remember little details that might have slipped your mind.
3- The morning of the wedding, remember to relax and let go. If it hasn't been done by then, it won't be. Remind yourself that you have hired professionals to worry about the details, and then have a blast!
Good luck.
Reply:Sounds like you are making great progress. I am getting married in March 08 and you have done more than I have! If you keep moving at the pace you are you should have everything taken care of - and then you will have some time to sit back and relax!
Thisis what is done:
-food/hall for reception
-park for cememony
-rented the chairs
-cake baker
-flower maker
-my dress!
-flower girl dress
-photographer (NO video)
-bridal party, have told them.
-party favors picked out
Should be getting this week done:
-DJ
-person to marry
-ordering invites
bridesmaid dresses by middle of feb picked out.
I'm going to start my dress alterations end of feb or so because I have to have it 2 size smaller so it may take longer.
I'm doing personlized M%26amp;M's as favors so not sure when they need to be done probaly by end of march?
Tux fitting in april?
will be shopping for items such as: candles, flowers for decration, pen, guestbook, ect soon.
Making the garter, flower girl basket and ring pillow.
Am I on the right track?
Please tell me what I need to do yet! thanks!
5 Months till the wedding.........Am I on the right track?
Wow. You appear to be the most organized bride I've ever seen. You're definitely doing great.
You'll want to take your dress in for alterations ASAP, as they generally take 6 months. The same applies for bridesmaids dresses.
Other than that, great job! And congrats! :o)
Reply:sounds good.
Reply:You're doing good, I can't think of anything that stands out. I laughed when I read your question, because you list that this week you need a "person to marry"- I know you mean officiant, but the way you worded it makes it sound like you are groom shopping! : )
Two things I will recommend, from experience:
1- Rethink the video. We got one done but we didn't spend a lot on it, and I am so glad we got it. I love watching it. I am glad I decided to get it.
2- Imagine your day from beginning to end, everything that you will have to do and how you want things to flow. Spend some time walking through all of the details in your mind- that will help you remember little details that might have slipped your mind.
3- The morning of the wedding, remember to relax and let go. If it hasn't been done by then, it won't be. Remind yourself that you have hired professionals to worry about the details, and then have a blast!
Good luck.
Reply:Sounds like you are making great progress. I am getting married in March 08 and you have done more than I have! If you keep moving at the pace you are you should have everything taken care of - and then you will have some time to sit back and relax!
A different kind of wedding - can you help?
Hi there. We're starting to plan our wedding and we're realizing that we want something quite different from the typical weddings you see. Below is a short list of what we envision.
- About 150 people
- No wedding party (we don't like the idea of other people having to fork out the $ for clothes, etc.) but we will have my niece as flower girl.
- Typical white wedding dress for me
- Photos taken before ceremony
- Ceremony in evening immediately followed by reception, including DJ and dancing.
- No tables at reception - just various lounging areas (couches, etc.), a playstructure or bouncy-castle for the kids, and lots and lots of hors d'oeuvres, drinks and desserts.
- No speeches, except maybe one by us to thank the guests.
Has anyone ever heard of a wedding like this? Is anything really wrong about it? I am trying to find resources on the internet to help me out but I'm not finding much. Please suggest anything you can.
A different kind of wedding - can you help?
Check out Offbeat Bride - http://offbeatbride.com/
for ideas - I think you can have anything you want for your wedding - they have groups you can join and people that will help you there. congrats %26amp; good luck!
Reply:I agree weddings are sooo expensive! We wanted to have a wedding that was tasteful but not too expensive. In the end we hired a big house privately rather than a wedding venue and catered ourselves. It was much more informal and being during the summer we had beautiful grounds. One thing I wouldn't skimp on personally is a wedding videographer - we hired a company called Bloomsbury Films whose created a really personal film with messages from all our guests! Last time I looked they still had a sample of our wedding video on their website www.bloomsburyweddings.com/civil.html.
Reply:No theres nothing wrong with it. It's simple but memorable. Personally more ppl should have wedding's like this. Try to find a place that rents out big rooms. Not like a reception place. It's cheaper and there wont be the tables and stuff. Then just rent a few couches or plush chairs for the room and get some pretty decorations.
Otherwise, you can do it like at a park. That way theres the play areas for the kids and its simple and beautiful. Good luck and congrats
Reply:I think your ideas sound great. Weddings should be free-form. You can still have a wedding party, tho, without making them wear matching outfits. For my first wedding, my sisters picked the fabric %26amp; made themselves dresses using patterns of their choice (so they could each choose something that they knew flattered their widely differing body types, but the fabric would be the same), and for my second wedding, the bridesmaids (and I) wore flowered dresses - again, each of their own choosing, but this time, not even matching material (it was a springtime/garden wedding). They each sent me a photo or a fabric swatch ahead of time and my friend who was doing the flowers matched their bouquets to their outfits. It was fun and lovely and included them in the ceremony.
Reply:Sound great.
Some suggestions though; make sure there is enough seating for everyone and let the guests know it will be a cocktail reception (rather than full meal).
Oh, and if people are lounging why not put in a few low tables with cushions around them eg:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/stiffydagol...
and maybe some tents for shade or rain if it is outdoors:
http://rajtents.com/Pergola.htm
Reply:I don't think there's anything wrong with what you've got there. Sounds really nice and laid back. Just remember, your wedding should be what you and your fiance want! Best wishes!
Reply:What you're picturing isn't too uncommon. A few things to keep in mind, though...
You should have at least one attendant each, because you need witnesses. Since you'll only have the one gal, she can pick whatever she wants to wear.
You can't always have an evening ceremony. Many churches don't do weddings at night, so you might have to hire a justice of the peace to perform the ceremony.
If your reception goes longer than 2 hours, you need real food. Not just hors d'oeuvres, drinks, and dessert. If you're providing real food, then you need some tables where people can eat.
Reply:sounds like a good plan to me. casual, yet classy. stick with your ideas, they will work.
Reply:Perfect! My website has sample ceremonies, feel free to use what ever you like. http://www.churchofancientways.org
Tents are great to both provide shade and protect in case of rain.
The bouncy people will have connections to other rentals. Some caterers come with staff, tables, chairs, linen, %26amp; cutlery. Some don't so remember to ask.
You may also want to consider the bathroom situation. Do you have sewers or a cesspool? Porta-san's are nice these days and when it comes to a mess like that it's always better safe than sorry!
Reply:Sounds like the perfect wedding. I may want to steal your idea one day! = )
Reply:That actually sounds *exactly* like my wedding LOL (we will have tables though for eating).
We're in the 21st century now girl, and that whole saying of "it's your day" actually is true.
Sounds like a good plan to me (but I'm biased, since I'm doing the same thing- nixing the speeches, bridal party, etc).
Congrats!
Reply:to be honest sound quiet like mine exept no bouncy castle they didnt need it they werent bored,we had a band and a dj just so there woud be music throuth the bands breaks
it sound very like a scotish wedding!
Reply:Hi and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
Your wedding sounds GREAT. And, NO, there is certainly nothing wrong with it. You can do as you please. It sounds really fun! I love all the non-typical things you are having, especially the lounging areas....that is really different.
You have good ideas and great taste!
Reply:sweetie it sounds lovely. first of all congrats on the wedding! secondly congrats on not being one of the million bride-zillas that are out there. its refreshing to hear of someone being concerned about their guests and their attendants! and someone wanting children at their wedding!
there is nothing wrong with your plans! they sound great! whether your reception is an hour or five hours the idea of hor d'oeuvres, desserts and drinks is perfect! it fits right into your entire scenario! please don't get talked into a full meal thing! i imagine this is a wedding that folks will be bragging about and copying for some time to come! you are going to have a beautiful wedding day and i wish you a lifetime of happiness!
Reply:I had a somewhat similar wedding, I got married late in the evening, strategically after the dinner hour, I had some tables but not a lot, I did get some of those tall cocktail tables that you can stand at and put your drink and purse on, and we wanted to do the couchs but couldn't find a reasonable place to rent them. We had a full hosted bar and a great DJ so everyone danced all night, we got some hors d'oeuvres but not too many because we were not trying to feed everyone a meal. Reception started at 8pm, the bouncy house is a good idea if a lot of kids are going to go to the wedding but most people leave their kids at home when an event is that late at night. If you do it any earlier you will have to serve dinner. We didn't plan on any speeches but half way through the evening a lot of friends and family took over the mike because they had had a little too much to drink. We only had our first dance which half way through I had the bridal party start dancing with us. I skipped all the other dances because they are boring! We cut the cake and did a shot for the toast. We skipped all the boring formal stuff because it did not fit our personalities and vision of our wedding. It was such a fun wedding people still tell us how much fn it was almost 4 years later!
Do what you guys want its your day!
Reply:Congratulations! If your love is more than ordinary your wedding should be too. Use your imagination and make your wedding celebrate who you and your fiance are. Have fun!
Reply:That's simaler to what I am doing what im finding is that you have to plan it your self and rent a hall that will allow the to bring in your own food
Reply:I think your wedding is going to be a blast. There is nothing wrong with your ideas and your wants for a wedding. It should like a great and fun idea for your special day. Call local bouncy-bouncy places in your area and for them say its a childs birthday instead of a wedding because they will most likely say that they don't do weddings. Look at local venues and tell them your ideas. They should be able to accomadate your needs if not tell them that you will go to a local party store or rental company to get the coachs and whatever else you need as long as they will rent the pass to you for the day. If you are doing the rental company be there when they bring in the coaches so you can tell them where you want them to be placed. (Make sure you have the rental company do the work its worth the money and you don't have the added headache to your special occasion.
Reply:That sounds like a wonderful, relaxing wedding. It might be hard to find a venue with couches instead of tables AND that will let you have a bouncey-castle or a play area, but they're out there. You just have to find one.
Reply:I think it sounds fantastic. There's a time in a person's life when they have to go to a whole bunch of weddings and it gets really tiresome, so I'm glad that you're trying to break the mold!
It sounds like you have the guests' comfort in mind, so just make sure that the refreshments and lounge areas are sufficient. Some people might be really hungry by the time of the ceremony, so keep that in mind. Also, it's 150 people, so maybe you should assign areas anyway, to reduce chaos!
Since you're taking the photos beforehand, why not have all the guests come by that time too and do a shoot with everyone? Also, you can make it less traditional by hiring a fashion photographer and doing fun, action shots instead of the usual static ones at weddings.
And don't skimp on the cake. Everyone loves the cake.
Reply:I don't think there's anything wrong with your idea for your wedding. In fact, I think it's great that you are planning something for the kids to do. You might also want to consider having some kid friendly hors d'oeuvres or hot dogs and sandwiches for them plus milk, juice, water, soda as well. As far as where to have it, I would check out reception sites, explain what you want to do and see if they can do it. Your best bet would probably be some place unusual instead of the usual reception hall. Some ideas would be a flower conservatory, an aquarium, an art museum, an historic home, or even a theater.
- About 150 people
- No wedding party (we don't like the idea of other people having to fork out the $ for clothes, etc.) but we will have my niece as flower girl.
- Typical white wedding dress for me
- Photos taken before ceremony
- Ceremony in evening immediately followed by reception, including DJ and dancing.
- No tables at reception - just various lounging areas (couches, etc.), a playstructure or bouncy-castle for the kids, and lots and lots of hors d'oeuvres, drinks and desserts.
- No speeches, except maybe one by us to thank the guests.
Has anyone ever heard of a wedding like this? Is anything really wrong about it? I am trying to find resources on the internet to help me out but I'm not finding much. Please suggest anything you can.
A different kind of wedding - can you help?
Check out Offbeat Bride - http://offbeatbride.com/
for ideas - I think you can have anything you want for your wedding - they have groups you can join and people that will help you there. congrats %26amp; good luck!
Reply:I agree weddings are sooo expensive! We wanted to have a wedding that was tasteful but not too expensive. In the end we hired a big house privately rather than a wedding venue and catered ourselves. It was much more informal and being during the summer we had beautiful grounds. One thing I wouldn't skimp on personally is a wedding videographer - we hired a company called Bloomsbury Films whose created a really personal film with messages from all our guests! Last time I looked they still had a sample of our wedding video on their website www.bloomsburyweddings.com/civil.html.
Reply:No theres nothing wrong with it. It's simple but memorable. Personally more ppl should have wedding's like this. Try to find a place that rents out big rooms. Not like a reception place. It's cheaper and there wont be the tables and stuff. Then just rent a few couches or plush chairs for the room and get some pretty decorations.
Otherwise, you can do it like at a park. That way theres the play areas for the kids and its simple and beautiful. Good luck and congrats
Reply:I think your ideas sound great. Weddings should be free-form. You can still have a wedding party, tho, without making them wear matching outfits. For my first wedding, my sisters picked the fabric %26amp; made themselves dresses using patterns of their choice (so they could each choose something that they knew flattered their widely differing body types, but the fabric would be the same), and for my second wedding, the bridesmaids (and I) wore flowered dresses - again, each of their own choosing, but this time, not even matching material (it was a springtime/garden wedding). They each sent me a photo or a fabric swatch ahead of time and my friend who was doing the flowers matched their bouquets to their outfits. It was fun and lovely and included them in the ceremony.
Reply:Sound great.
Some suggestions though; make sure there is enough seating for everyone and let the guests know it will be a cocktail reception (rather than full meal).
Oh, and if people are lounging why not put in a few low tables with cushions around them eg:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/stiffydagol...
and maybe some tents for shade or rain if it is outdoors:
http://rajtents.com/Pergola.htm
Reply:I don't think there's anything wrong with what you've got there. Sounds really nice and laid back. Just remember, your wedding should be what you and your fiance want! Best wishes!
Reply:What you're picturing isn't too uncommon. A few things to keep in mind, though...
You should have at least one attendant each, because you need witnesses. Since you'll only have the one gal, she can pick whatever she wants to wear.
You can't always have an evening ceremony. Many churches don't do weddings at night, so you might have to hire a justice of the peace to perform the ceremony.
If your reception goes longer than 2 hours, you need real food. Not just hors d'oeuvres, drinks, and dessert. If you're providing real food, then you need some tables where people can eat.
Reply:sounds like a good plan to me. casual, yet classy. stick with your ideas, they will work.
Reply:Perfect! My website has sample ceremonies, feel free to use what ever you like. http://www.churchofancientways.org
Tents are great to both provide shade and protect in case of rain.
The bouncy people will have connections to other rentals. Some caterers come with staff, tables, chairs, linen, %26amp; cutlery. Some don't so remember to ask.
You may also want to consider the bathroom situation. Do you have sewers or a cesspool? Porta-san's are nice these days and when it comes to a mess like that it's always better safe than sorry!
Reply:Sounds like the perfect wedding. I may want to steal your idea one day! = )
Reply:That actually sounds *exactly* like my wedding LOL (we will have tables though for eating).
We're in the 21st century now girl, and that whole saying of "it's your day" actually is true.
Sounds like a good plan to me (but I'm biased, since I'm doing the same thing- nixing the speeches, bridal party, etc).
Congrats!
Reply:to be honest sound quiet like mine exept no bouncy castle they didnt need it they werent bored,we had a band and a dj just so there woud be music throuth the bands breaks
it sound very like a scotish wedding!
Reply:Hi and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
Your wedding sounds GREAT. And, NO, there is certainly nothing wrong with it. You can do as you please. It sounds really fun! I love all the non-typical things you are having, especially the lounging areas....that is really different.
You have good ideas and great taste!
Reply:sweetie it sounds lovely. first of all congrats on the wedding! secondly congrats on not being one of the million bride-zillas that are out there. its refreshing to hear of someone being concerned about their guests and their attendants! and someone wanting children at their wedding!
there is nothing wrong with your plans! they sound great! whether your reception is an hour or five hours the idea of hor d'oeuvres, desserts and drinks is perfect! it fits right into your entire scenario! please don't get talked into a full meal thing! i imagine this is a wedding that folks will be bragging about and copying for some time to come! you are going to have a beautiful wedding day and i wish you a lifetime of happiness!
Reply:I had a somewhat similar wedding, I got married late in the evening, strategically after the dinner hour, I had some tables but not a lot, I did get some of those tall cocktail tables that you can stand at and put your drink and purse on, and we wanted to do the couchs but couldn't find a reasonable place to rent them. We had a full hosted bar and a great DJ so everyone danced all night, we got some hors d'oeuvres but not too many because we were not trying to feed everyone a meal. Reception started at 8pm, the bouncy house is a good idea if a lot of kids are going to go to the wedding but most people leave their kids at home when an event is that late at night. If you do it any earlier you will have to serve dinner. We didn't plan on any speeches but half way through the evening a lot of friends and family took over the mike because they had had a little too much to drink. We only had our first dance which half way through I had the bridal party start dancing with us. I skipped all the other dances because they are boring! We cut the cake and did a shot for the toast. We skipped all the boring formal stuff because it did not fit our personalities and vision of our wedding. It was such a fun wedding people still tell us how much fn it was almost 4 years later!
Do what you guys want its your day!
Reply:Congratulations! If your love is more than ordinary your wedding should be too. Use your imagination and make your wedding celebrate who you and your fiance are. Have fun!
Reply:That's simaler to what I am doing what im finding is that you have to plan it your self and rent a hall that will allow the to bring in your own food
Reply:I think your wedding is going to be a blast. There is nothing wrong with your ideas and your wants for a wedding. It should like a great and fun idea for your special day. Call local bouncy-bouncy places in your area and for them say its a childs birthday instead of a wedding because they will most likely say that they don't do weddings. Look at local venues and tell them your ideas. They should be able to accomadate your needs if not tell them that you will go to a local party store or rental company to get the coachs and whatever else you need as long as they will rent the pass to you for the day. If you are doing the rental company be there when they bring in the coaches so you can tell them where you want them to be placed. (Make sure you have the rental company do the work its worth the money and you don't have the added headache to your special occasion.
Reply:That sounds like a wonderful, relaxing wedding. It might be hard to find a venue with couches instead of tables AND that will let you have a bouncey-castle or a play area, but they're out there. You just have to find one.
Reply:I think it sounds fantastic. There's a time in a person's life when they have to go to a whole bunch of weddings and it gets really tiresome, so I'm glad that you're trying to break the mold!
It sounds like you have the guests' comfort in mind, so just make sure that the refreshments and lounge areas are sufficient. Some people might be really hungry by the time of the ceremony, so keep that in mind. Also, it's 150 people, so maybe you should assign areas anyway, to reduce chaos!
Since you're taking the photos beforehand, why not have all the guests come by that time too and do a shoot with everyone? Also, you can make it less traditional by hiring a fashion photographer and doing fun, action shots instead of the usual static ones at weddings.
And don't skimp on the cake. Everyone loves the cake.
Reply:I don't think there's anything wrong with your idea for your wedding. In fact, I think it's great that you are planning something for the kids to do. You might also want to consider having some kid friendly hors d'oeuvres or hot dogs and sandwiches for them plus milk, juice, water, soda as well. As far as where to have it, I would check out reception sites, explain what you want to do and see if they can do it. Your best bet would probably be some place unusual instead of the usual reception hall. Some ideas would be a flower conservatory, an aquarium, an art museum, an historic home, or even a theater.
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