How do you plan the second (and last!!!) wedding?

We have decided that we want to spend the rest of our lives together- we are really in love and happy- it's the second marriage for the both of us- I've got an 11-year old son, my fiance an 11-year old daughter and our children, who get along really well, are excited about our becoming a family. We have decided to have a close, civil wedding.


My first wedding was Christian-Orthodox, "My Big, Fat, Greek Wedding"(?) type,...I was 25 at the time and excited about organizing the most romantic wedding ever- my fiance's first marriage was civil, yet glamorous -


He has asked me to organize everything, but I'm at a loss-What do I wear? Who do I invite? Should there be a reception? Flowers? Will it be too impersonal if not fancy? I've never even been to a civil wedding, so I know nothing about it- plus now I'm 38 and feel it would be kind of silly or pompous to do more than I should at the city hall- Please help!!!

How do you plan the second (and last!!!) wedding?
I got married for the second (and last) time 2 years ago. We were 44 and 49 at the time, 2 kids each (teenagers).





I wore a simple bridal gown and tiara, no veil, my husband wore a suit. I had one attendant--a dear friend. We had 18 friends and family at the wedding which was in a conservatory garden (indoors) and the reception dinner which was in a small private room in a nice restaurant. It was absolutely perfect. It was a definitely a wedding, but not too much, and not a lot of work.





Congratulations! I hope you two are as happy as we are!
Reply:well i got my third and last marriage last Sept. in a church and it was simple and i wore a white dress most brides second time wear blue or a seasonal color. you do what makes you happy and do not worry about a thing as for civil i do not do it i am very creative and unique. have fun and the sillier the more memorable.
Reply:Try The Anti-Bride Wedding Guide. I'm using it to plan both our civil and formal ceremonies, and make them both memorable and unusual. There's nothing silly or pompous about wanting to celebrate your union. Since when does having been married before mean you can't be excited anymore?
Reply:Wear a pretty dress - it can be white or another color you like, just not a traditional wedding gown.


Invite family and very close friends. Plan a dinner and party at your home - have family help you make food. If weather permits, do it in the backyard.
Reply:Do whatever you want. If you feel a big wedding is in order, do that. If you want to keep it simple, do that. Maybe since you've each been married before you could do something more untraditional and fun.
Reply:Well since you both have done the big wedding before. What about a wedding/honeymoon get away just the two of you?





good luck. :)
Reply:you really don't need to be fancy to be personal!


my mom's second wedding...i was the maid of honor it was in my aunt's back yard (but she is rich and it was on the long island sound in ct) it was fancy.... all the family was there... the tuxes had tails... mom's dress was peach and lacy... she walked down the isle to flur elise... all the family came and it was really nice


you don't have to go crazy for wedding #2 - but you can make it a little fancy if you want... have his daughter stand up with you and your son stand up with him


wear whatever you want - if you want a nice dress again go for it (probably not in white though) your step-daughter will probably love being a part of the planning - so you can include her, and have your finance bring your son to pick out tuxes or suits...


most of all - have fun!


congratz!
Reply:Im also planning a second marriage for both of us. This time we opted to have a small wedding, outdoors, full of flowers and life, no bridal party, except for our children. His son will stand with him, my sons will walk me down the aisle. I found a dress i loved, but it only came in white, so i added a color sash to break up the pure white, and no veil, just flowers. We invited only immediate family memebers, and a few very close friends (about 35 guests total). Its a very casual garden wedding setting, a victorian home bed and breakfast, but we opted for fun touches to make it memorable, like having all our guests releasing live monarch butterflies, and having sparklers light up our path as we leave...we figure yeah its a second marriage for both, but its our LAST wedding ever :)
Reply:Good question!! I too am about to embark on my second wedding. His was large, mine was small, now though, my idea is something more personal and romantic, with a reception for the friends and family. Go away, just the two of you or you two and the kids, maybe a family cruise....then when you come home, have a reception planned for all the friends and family. That way, it's the best of both! Good luck to you both, and congratulations!
Reply:Mmm, I say simple and sweet (less is more)





1.Wear a wedding dress, just not Cinderella style and doesn't have to be pure white


perhaps something like this;





http://www.savingadvice.com/blogs/user_i...





also check out this site, the dresses a cute but not OTT





http://www.palomablanca.com/





2. Invite family and close friends to ceremony and mediate family to dinner and then everyone else to the after party





3. Yes have a reception, but you can do it anyway you like, at a venue, in a castle, in someones back garden (e.g. BBQ)





4. Simple flowers as bouquets





http://www1.istockphoto.com/file_thumbvi...





http://htcd.org/Site_files/htcd.org/Page...





http://www.flowersbychris.com/images/Sma...





Well you dont want to go over the top but just because you have done the big wedding before doesn't mean you should play it down either.





Just pick a location where you can get lots of lovely pictures, and enjoy yourself





also you dont have to play the here comes the bride tune, search around for a meaningful song to walk the isle to, I'm choosing a tune from my favourite film (Lord of the rings)





http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M3TglKQnl...