Did You Have The Boquet Toss At Your Wedding Reception?

I keep hearing from many women that the "fun" of this tradition has died down because the single women don't want to be bunched together in a group and try catching the tossed flowers.





Did you do it at your reception? Did you find a problem with it?

Did You Have The Boquet Toss At Your Wedding Reception?
I didnt do this for my own wedding. I instead chose who I was giving my bouqet too. A friend of mine's daughter (who is special needs and couldn't participate in the ceremony) was given my flowers at the end of the reception. she looked so beautiful with the flowers placed in her hands, she said she felt like a bride. Another option for me was to place my bouqet on my father's grave, or you could give them to a grand mother or aunt.
Reply:Yes, I did it at my wedding. Everyone seemed to like it.
Reply:i will not be having one, i dont like the idea of them having to sit in a chair while some man they might not even know will be touching them.





**i think a boquet toss is exactly what its title claims......i also think it leads up to the garter toss and so on.....just dont like the idea of it.
Reply:I didn't do the bouquet/garter toss at my wedding. Always found it embarrassing and almost degrading when herded up to the dance floor at other weddings so my husband and I opted out of that "tradition."





I ended up giving my bouquet to my godmother, somebody who has been there for me throughout my life; a wonderful generous soul whom I felt deserved more recognition than a flower on her wrist. We had a special announcement, it was nice. She does still talk about it....





If you do not want to give your own bouquet away (whether you throw it or pick somebody to give it to) ask your florist to make two bridal bouquets. It's actually a common request. You can also have them split the bouquet into two and tie them together to look like one, so you can give both (to two "special" people) or just one. I toyed with this idea and giving it to my mother and mother in law.
Reply:I did, and it was wonderful.


I think it's the garter toss which is often being done away with.
Reply:i have decided not to throw my bouquet, iam having an artifical one so that i can put it on my partners mums grave stone.it will last for a good while too.
Reply:No, we didn't do it. Mostly because the majority of my friends and female family members are not single, and I didn't want to single out the few who were!
Reply:Personally, I have always hated this tradition, and I'm not planning on tossing my bouquet at my wedding next month. My single girlfriends are all vivacious, incredible women and the idea of lining them up so they can scramble after a symbol that means they'll be the next to marry, as if that will complete them, just rubs me the wrong way. But, that's entirely my take on it. I think that, like most things, the answer is to do what you like on your day.
Reply:I did- for all of the ladies, not just umarried. There was no garter so no fear of having to expose the leg in front of strangers. I had a breakaway bouquet, it broke into 10 little bouquets, and then I had a picture taken with everyone who caught one. It was a lot of fun, and allowed me to have that tradition without embarrassing my guests.





The original meaning of catching the bouquet was that it was lucky- over time, lucky came to equal "next to get married"
Reply:I didn't have the toss at my wedding for a few reasons:





1. We only had about 130 guests and maybe 6 were single females.





2. My single friends always hate the bouquet toss because it embarrasses them.





3. I didn't feel like spending the extra $$$ for a toss bouquet. We just wanted to get out and start our honeymoon!





Hope that helps!
Reply:We did it at our wedding-there weren't that many single women, but the ones that were their did get out there and have a good time with it. It actually split in two so we had two people who caught it!
Reply:I did it at mine and nobody had a problem with it.
Reply:We are planning it. But no garter toss, that is just too tacky *at least that's what we think*





I have gone to a lot of weddings and I always love the bouquet toss, its fun if you ask me.
Reply:no, i didn't do it.





i'm 28 and most of my friends/family are already married, so the 5 or 6 of them that aren't don't want to be pinpointed as the gals who can't find a husband. it's just an embarrassing situation for everyone. before i was married, i never liked having to get into that group of girls and from what i could tell, none of them liked it either.





but you know your single girls best, so go with how you think they'd feel about it. some people do have fun with it; i just don't think they're the majority.
Reply:The main reason women who don't like the toss is because of the garter element of the tradition. There are ways of eliminating the less tasteful garter toss and still have a bouquet toss.


One option is to have a 7wishes or fortune bouquet. A lot of my clients opt for that.


I believe Martha Stewart's magazine first showed them. It is 7 small bouquets (handtied) held together to look like one bouquet. When it is thrown in the air they all go their own way and slowly the girls catch on there is more than one bouquet. Attached to each is a "fortune" like- You will marry a movie star. ect ect. some girls have opted for humor instead , or even movie quotes, lines from poets ect. it all depends upon the feel of your wedding.


Another way to "toss" the bouquet is to give it to the couple who has been married the longest or traveled the farthest to the nuptials. Good Luck!
Reply:Yup, I did it at my wedding. No one had any problems with it. Actually, a lot of my friends were excited to try to catch the bouquet. It really only lasts for a minute at the most, so I don't think it is a big deal.
Reply:No, we didn't do the bouquet toss. We thought it was a little childish for the guests we had invited. Instead, we did an anniversary dance. The DJ had couples sit down at less than 1 year, less than 5 years, etc. When it got to 50 years, we had two couples left. At that point, he started calling out individual years. When one of the couples sat down, my DH and I presented the last couple with the bouquet and the garter. Everyone loved it and it got a lot of people to start dancing too.
Reply:We always have luck doing it late in the wedding when everyone is pretty trashed they seem to get into it more
Reply:I'm definitely not doing it. As someone that was single into my 30s, I always avoided them at the many weddings I went to. It felt like being singled out and being asked, "why haven't you found anyone yet? Don't worry, there's still hope for you..."





Almost always a pre-teen girl ends up with the bouquet because the rest of the girls are standing there with fake smiles pasted on and their arms clasped at their sides.





I'd consider your guest list. If you've just got children and a couple of single ladies in their 30-40s, I'd definitely skip it.
Reply:I'm going to. I'm making a special smaller bouquet for the toss. I always had fun doing it at weddings and if there are single women with a problem with it at mine then they just don't have to go up there.

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