is it rude to take your own photos at a wedding? not meaning the ceremony of course...but at other times such as the reception?...My daughter is going to be the flower girl and I would like some pictures of my own. Thanks
Wedding guest etiquette?
No that's not rude at all! The only thing that is rude is when AFTER the ceremony is over and the wedding party stays behind to take photos with the professional photographer. It's very rude when other people come in while he/she is doing this and their flashes are going off messing up the wedding photography. Any other time is fine.
Reply:Of course you can - at both the ceremony and reception.
Reply:That is not rude at all. In fact, (since your daughter is in the wedding party, I'm assuming you know the bride and groom pretty well), the newlyweds would probably love to have a copy of your prints, too!
Reply:of course you should take some of your own photos as long as u don't get in the way of the hired photographer or become over bearing. be sure to send some to the bride and groom!
Reply:It's not rude. Just stay out of the professionals way. And, of course, offer copies to the bride and groom.
Reply:It isn't rude, but don't set the camera on flash if its during the reception or during mass (mass if its a Catholic wedding). Enjoy the wedding. How I love weddings...
Reply:I think it is ok to take your own pictures, but I think it would be nice if you shared a set of the prints with the bride and groom once you get them developed. (Or a cd if going digital) Take pictures of other stuff besides your daughter and then the bride and groom can have more pictures. I know at my wedding everyone will have there camera's out and I will be happy to see everyones pictures when it is all over. Good luck.
Reply:I would have no issues with that at all, and i doubt any bride would, if your daughter is the flower girl then surely the bride would EXPECT you to take pictures of your little darling.
Reply:It is not rude as long as you do not interfere with the professional hired. Many people take a camera, it is rude to do so when the professional sets up a shot.
Reply:You could take your own photos and offer to share with the bride and groom some of the shots they don't have for their album.
Reply:As long as you don't get in the hired photographer's line of vision, I don't see anything bad about it.
Reply:As long as it doesn't interfere with the photographer or other activities it is fine. You could even send a copy of some of the pics to the bride and groom later. I enjoyed receiving pics friends took as they were a different style than the photographer's and usually much more casual (which I happen to prefer). I can only think of a few weddings I have ever been to where at least some guests didn't take photos too.
Reply:At my wedding I didn't care who took pictures. Actually I liked the fact that everyone took pictures. Some of my family actually got better shots than the photographers did. I am collecting copies of everyone's pictures so that when I actually put my wedding album together, I have the best of everyone's pictures to put into the album!
Reply:Nope not rude at all. The bride and groom wont mind definately.
Reply:It's not generally considered rude, but I'd call the bride or groom to check that they won't mind. If it's a formal event, they might ask that you not use a flash, which will make getting a good shot difficult, but most people don't have a problem with it.
Oh, and make sure that you don't get in the way of their professional photographer. If he sets them up for a photo, just say, "can you guys stay like that just another second?" once he's done.
Reply:I got married last month, and I am so glad that my friend, two aunts, and my stepmother took pictures during the ceremony-no flash pictures of course. All of them sent us the disk, and we made copies of the pictures, and it saved us about $500 because we liked their pictures better than the professional´s photos!
It is not rude to take your own pictures, and do the bride and groom a favor and give them the disk so they can make copies on their own. Professional photography is great, but a lot of our pictures captured things no pro could have done-at the ceremony or afterwards!
Oh, by the way, to not be rude, do not STAND up at the ceremony until the bride walks up the aisle-unfortunately, since relatives were taking pictures, they stood up when my bridesmaids walked down the aisle, and other guests stood also-not just for the bride which is what traditionally is supposed to happen! SIT close to the aisle to take pictures of your girl-these pictures will be great!
Reply:you can take pictures at any time not during the cremony. you may want to just let the photogrpaher do his/her job during the toasts so that you can pay attention, and try to stay out of the way. ie, don't be in the bride's face or photographer's line of sight when they're trying to cut the cake. otherwise, feel free to be a shutter bug and rememebr to share the photos with the bride and groom and others who were there!
Reply:I would check with the bride, who will likely be fine with it as long as you are not distracting or inthe way. However, the bride may want to ask the photographer. The photographer may have a problem with someone taking pictures when they were hired exclusively. There will no doubt be at least a couple of cute shots of the flower girl that you can purchase, or the bride make generously buy them for you.
Reply:I don't think it is rude to take your own photos as long as the flash doesn't distract from the other activities
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Friday, May 21, 2010
I did NOT miss the flowers!!!?
To splurge or not to splurge on flowers, that's the question!
Last wedding that I attended, there were few flowers...and quite honestly, I didn't care!
They had the bouquet for the bride, bouquets for the 8 BM, I honestly don't what type of flowers were they, that show you brides-to-be that most people don't pay attention if they hybrid roses, chrisantetums, lilies or orquids...who cares!!! All I remember is that they were white and purple.
In the church, they had pew decoration only on the family's pews and at the last pew at the entrance. They had 2 medium size arrangements at the altar.
At the reception site, the BM placed their bouquets at the guest book table and the gift table... it looked lovely and it's a good idea to use the flowers again and maximize your investment.
The centerpieces were a large wide open round vase, inside it was a smaler vase. The smaller vase had sand and a white pillar candle. The larger vase had water and fresh long stem purple flowers
I did NOT miss the flowers!!!?
Since getting engaged and planning my own wedding, I've been to 2, and dont alot of thinking about the other wedding I attended in the past. Knowing the kind of minute detail brides stress themselves out over (myself included) that never get noticed by anyone, I've tried to keep that in mind. I can't say I recall much about anyone's wedding invitations, their flowers, dresses, or much of anything else. What I remember is the overall feeling I had at the time--did I have a good time, how did the couple seem, that sort of stuff....the rest is all fluff, and while fluff is nice, I have to tell myself it isn't worth losing my mind over any of it...
Reply:Simple can be elegant absolutely...flowers should be what the bride likes, wants and enjoys...if you are bride who LOVES!!!! lots of exotic flowers and want to shower yourself in them all around you on your wedding day that is your choice...if you are not a flower person and want to keep them to a minimum or none at all, that is okay too...I have designed and planned weddings that didn't have any flowers at all (no exaggeration, NOT ONE) and they were very classy and elegant and beautiful...it is all personal taste
Reply:Don't do flowers. Waste of money. I would do candles at the reception. The typical bouquets for the bridal party and the flowers for the groomsmen.
I would not decorate the church. Churches are Holy places to begin with. Why do you need bows, tulle and flowers on the pews. If you want to add something nice. A simple flower arrangement for the alter is fine.
The only way I'm adding flowers to my tables at my reception is if they are included in the price of the package. A few places I've looked at, do this. If they aren't included, then I'm doing my own DIY candle centerpieces.
I think too many flowers is a little tacky and overwhelming anyway.
Reply:I'm having 1 protea for each bridesmaid and on the tables I have some mederteranean wicker vases with GRAPES
red and green.
They look awesome.
imagine spending 6k on flowers.
WTF
Reply:Not necessarily a boatload of money, but I think some are nice.
I wanted my bouquet to reflect the colours for our wedding - pink, yellow, lilac, and light teal, so I had a beautiful handtied European bouquet of an assortment of flowers; my four attendants had smaller versions. I like when, at the reception, the bridesmaids put their bouquets in vases at the head table - it looks lovely.
We had two or three arrangements of flowers which we used at the church, and were later used at the reception.
The guest tables' centerpieces we had were small silk ones which a co-worker of mine had made for one of my showers.
I think in all we spent just under 800 for flowers - plenty, I would think.
Reply:I agree, flowers is a waste of money... Most people really don't care! I know, I always just look forward to the ceremony, then the food, dancing and drinking.
Reply:It all depends on location. You attended a wedding by the sea, so it would look silly to have flowers on every table. I'm getting married in a loft, so simple flowers on every table will blow people away and achieve the look we're going for. I know - I've been to many parties at our location and it just works. I'm not talking about huge bouquets, but single stems illuminated by candle light.
And I know people won't remember them, just like they won't remember what kind of silverware they used, the wedding colors, the favors, etc. The only thing most people remember is the music and food. Granted, I remember a bit more because I'm planning my wedding, but I'm an exception.
We do the rest because WE like it. We have a vision of what we want our wedding to look like and we spend the money to make sure it comes true. Weddings are not about saving money. If it was we wouldn't have weddings at all - they're a huge waste of money in the larger scheme of things.
Reply:It is all up to the bride and what she wants. I did not have centerpieces at all I did not want flowers everywhere some people are allergic and then they fight over who gets to take them home. I had my bouquet and my MOH and put them on the table with the cake. Not to mention they cost a small fortune.
Reply:Do what you like. My wedding flowers were simple like that. I'd rather spend the money on the dress or reception food than on flowers. When its all said and done, spend money on the parts you'll remember!
Reply:Good to know- we held back on the flower too... I surge on getting us (the wedding party) nice bouquets- all roses but I am just having lanterns as centerpieces. I was just at a wedding where they had these gorgeous center pieces and it just so sad to think hundreds of dollars wasted on flower that are going to die. My cater gives us free use of her lanterns so-that's what we are doing!!
Missed you BLUNT- please check my old question about the invite misprint and let me know what you think!! You can answer on my other open question- were I am getting abused :)
Reply:My mom bought my flowers for my wedding, and they cost a grand total of $50. But um, as for you last additional info, bowtie pasta, a salad, and rolls happens to be one of my absolute favortie meals. I would have been perfectly happy to be at that reception!
Reply:yeah.. real flowers.. pretty and all.. but a waste of money in my eyes.. like.. dont get me wrong.. im an artist.. i LOVE nature and natural things.. but for my wedding.. im using fake flowers.. ALL the flowers i needed 5 bouquets.. 4 corsages.. my bouquet.. all the mens pins.. all came out to $120.. and also.. fake flowers.. TONS of more creativity.. im having two HUGE roses in my bouquet.. and i am using swirls of almost twig like pieces with grassy pieces behind it and bits of white flowers that i dont even know what they are but they look SO pretty!! and for the centerpieces we are using what the place provides (which is beauitiful) hurricane glasses and tea lights on a mirror square.. avoiding the flowers ALL together there!! lol
honestly.. all that i remembered about my brothers wedding was how much my sister in law paid for her flowers.. $3200!!!! i remember thinking it was crazy and that i would do anything to avoid that cost at my wedding and put my money into something more important to me.. like the photographer!!
Reply:I don't think you have to spend a lot of money and can have quality flowers. I like the wedding you saw above am going to have my maids put there bouquet of flowers in vases at there table. I am having my bouquet as my center piece and vase with candles on the rest of the tables, I am also doing silk flowers so I don't have to have them dried after wards, It is so expensive and ladies do you know what they use to do it ( they use the same powder as kitty litter)(yuck)
So I say dont ( real flowers die in the elements ) if you use them. There has to be something else you like to spen hundred of dollar on (your bridal party, favors, parents gifts, pictures) Best wishes and good luck Ihope I have helped!!
Reply:you don't have to splurge on flowers to get a nice effect. even simple things like scattered rose petals, or a single stem in a bud vase really brighten up the tables.
i personally HATE huge gaudy flower arrangements with 934 different kinds of flowers...
a wedding entirely without any flowers is sad. i went to a wedding where everything was silk, and i truly missed the flowers.
recycling the bouquets is a great idea...they can be used to decorate the head table even...
Reply:Hi:
Well, I wouldn't splurge, but you can still get a nice effect without splurging. Personally, I LOVE flowers but only real ones and not big gaudy arrangements, simple ones. I absolutely hate the huge silk flower ones. People think they are savings tons on silks....they are not. You can order wholesale flowers from many places online. Also from Costco and from Walmart. I agree with the other poster who said simple is more elegant. I couldn't agree more. A single rose in a bud vase with a few greens looks more elegant that a big huge bouquet of silks! One poster said she will only do candles....but what if your reception is mid-afternoon outside? You need to take into consideration the time of day and the venue. And, yes, I agree with "double duty" on the flowers. At my son's wedding the bridesmaids put their bouquets in vases at the head table - no more decorations needed! Just my two cents.
Reply:I agree. As long as it still looks elegant, there is no need to go overboard. I'm having a limited selection of flowers in simple arrangements. Hydrangeas, rannunculas (less expensive than peonies, but you get the same effect), stephanotis (but only in my bouquet), ivy, thistle, and cream roses. My theme is going to be a garden theme so I can't forego the flowers alltogether, but I'm certainly not going to spend a fortune on them! For only one day and then they die? I don't think so. The trick to decorating well is to use your existing surroundings to your advantage. Our reception will be in an event center in a park. Therefore, no need to decorate the outside, there will already be landscaping. The church has beautiful ceiling to floor windows that allow you to look right out into the trees, again no need to over decorate there. I'm still trying to come up with a few unique ways to tie in my theme without overdoing the flowers though, so I'll keep you updated.
Reply:Can I offer a suggestion? My wedding was quite elaborate and I didn't want to do the run of the mill flower centerpieces that everyone has. But I still did want the look of grandeur :) So instead I rented from a rental company large 6 candle candelabras for each table. They also decorated them to match my decor (which was wine and grapes) and had clusters of grapes hanging down off of them. They were spectacular! I still get compliments and this was a few years ago.
It was relatively cheap too, I think I spent $15/centerpiece +the decorating. It was probably the cheapest, yet one of the most memorable things at my wedding.
So no, you don't need flowers, you can make a statement with a lot of things.
Look into rental companies, you will be very surprised at what you can get for the money as compared to a floral centerpiece.
Reply:Most people don't notice the flowers or lack thereof. It's generally accepted to be one of the biggest money-wasters.
For me, I'm going to use non-floral centerpieces. We're going to use white paper lanterns with colored bulbs inside as the centerpiece for each table. Then I'm going to put a few mini-Chinese take-out boxes full of candies on each table. Maybe I'll scatter a few rose petals. I think it will be much more interesting and memorable than just a vase of flowers.
Reply:Hee! You're preaching to the choir here, babe!
My total flower bill (including accessories) was $35.
Okay, it was fourteen years ago, and the price would be a bit higher today, but still.
What did I get? Six bouquets, six boutonnieres, one corsage, and a rose to lay on each table at the reception.
I was getting married in a redwood grove, so lots of flowers would have been a case of brining coals to Newcastle. No point.
My MOH and I went the day before the wedding to the local open-to-the-public florist's supply and picked some of everything that was long-stemmed, cheap, and pretty. The only flowers I had that I can identify were the red roses. I picked those because that's the flower my husband always gives me. Roses are quite literally the only flower he can identify, and he knows I love red.
We got some florist's tape, ribbon, and corsage pins, and made up everything at the rehearsal dinner that night.
The sheaf bouquets were easy as pie to make (lay flowers in attractive order, tie ribbon, put in bucket of water so flowers don't die) and looked perfect. One handy friend took care of the fiddly bits.
if flowers aren't a priority to you, I highly recommend just finding something pretty and inexpensive the day before and tying them very simply. Nosegays and sheafs are the easiest.
For decorations, it's amazing how far a couple handsful of rose petals or a few scattered blooms around some other decorative item go.
Reply:I agree-too many flowers are tacky!
For our wedding, I used silk flowers-English ivory roses that I had in my home for at least 10 years, and they were perfect. Each bridemaid carried one, and I carried a bouquet of 5-one for family members that had passed away.
Reply:THANK YOU! This is what I tried to tell one of my friends about her wedding.
Glad someone sees things my way!
:)
Reply:Did you just use the word splurge?
Reply:How can anyone say flowers are a waste of money?! I've been to two weddings recently where they both used fake flowers and I was truly disappointed. Flowers are beautiful and really add to a wedding.
I am all for using them moderately but they are not a waste!
Reply:Wait? Was that a question or just an observation?
Last wedding that I attended, there were few flowers...and quite honestly, I didn't care!
They had the bouquet for the bride, bouquets for the 8 BM, I honestly don't what type of flowers were they, that show you brides-to-be that most people don't pay attention if they hybrid roses, chrisantetums, lilies or orquids...who cares!!! All I remember is that they were white and purple.
In the church, they had pew decoration only on the family's pews and at the last pew at the entrance. They had 2 medium size arrangements at the altar.
At the reception site, the BM placed their bouquets at the guest book table and the gift table... it looked lovely and it's a good idea to use the flowers again and maximize your investment.
The centerpieces were a large wide open round vase, inside it was a smaler vase. The smaller vase had sand and a white pillar candle. The larger vase had water and fresh long stem purple flowers
I did NOT miss the flowers!!!?
Since getting engaged and planning my own wedding, I've been to 2, and dont alot of thinking about the other wedding I attended in the past. Knowing the kind of minute detail brides stress themselves out over (myself included) that never get noticed by anyone, I've tried to keep that in mind. I can't say I recall much about anyone's wedding invitations, their flowers, dresses, or much of anything else. What I remember is the overall feeling I had at the time--did I have a good time, how did the couple seem, that sort of stuff....the rest is all fluff, and while fluff is nice, I have to tell myself it isn't worth losing my mind over any of it...
Reply:Simple can be elegant absolutely...flowers should be what the bride likes, wants and enjoys...if you are bride who LOVES!!!! lots of exotic flowers and want to shower yourself in them all around you on your wedding day that is your choice...if you are not a flower person and want to keep them to a minimum or none at all, that is okay too...I have designed and planned weddings that didn't have any flowers at all (no exaggeration, NOT ONE) and they were very classy and elegant and beautiful...it is all personal taste
Reply:Don't do flowers. Waste of money. I would do candles at the reception. The typical bouquets for the bridal party and the flowers for the groomsmen.
I would not decorate the church. Churches are Holy places to begin with. Why do you need bows, tulle and flowers on the pews. If you want to add something nice. A simple flower arrangement for the alter is fine.
The only way I'm adding flowers to my tables at my reception is if they are included in the price of the package. A few places I've looked at, do this. If they aren't included, then I'm doing my own DIY candle centerpieces.
I think too many flowers is a little tacky and overwhelming anyway.
Reply:I'm having 1 protea for each bridesmaid and on the tables I have some mederteranean wicker vases with GRAPES
red and green.
They look awesome.
imagine spending 6k on flowers.
WTF
Reply:Not necessarily a boatload of money, but I think some are nice.
I wanted my bouquet to reflect the colours for our wedding - pink, yellow, lilac, and light teal, so I had a beautiful handtied European bouquet of an assortment of flowers; my four attendants had smaller versions. I like when, at the reception, the bridesmaids put their bouquets in vases at the head table - it looks lovely.
We had two or three arrangements of flowers which we used at the church, and were later used at the reception.
The guest tables' centerpieces we had were small silk ones which a co-worker of mine had made for one of my showers.
I think in all we spent just under 800 for flowers - plenty, I would think.
Reply:I agree, flowers is a waste of money... Most people really don't care! I know, I always just look forward to the ceremony, then the food, dancing and drinking.
Reply:It all depends on location. You attended a wedding by the sea, so it would look silly to have flowers on every table. I'm getting married in a loft, so simple flowers on every table will blow people away and achieve the look we're going for. I know - I've been to many parties at our location and it just works. I'm not talking about huge bouquets, but single stems illuminated by candle light.
And I know people won't remember them, just like they won't remember what kind of silverware they used, the wedding colors, the favors, etc. The only thing most people remember is the music and food. Granted, I remember a bit more because I'm planning my wedding, but I'm an exception.
We do the rest because WE like it. We have a vision of what we want our wedding to look like and we spend the money to make sure it comes true. Weddings are not about saving money. If it was we wouldn't have weddings at all - they're a huge waste of money in the larger scheme of things.
Reply:It is all up to the bride and what she wants. I did not have centerpieces at all I did not want flowers everywhere some people are allergic and then they fight over who gets to take them home. I had my bouquet and my MOH and put them on the table with the cake. Not to mention they cost a small fortune.
Reply:Do what you like. My wedding flowers were simple like that. I'd rather spend the money on the dress or reception food than on flowers. When its all said and done, spend money on the parts you'll remember!
Reply:Good to know- we held back on the flower too... I surge on getting us (the wedding party) nice bouquets- all roses but I am just having lanterns as centerpieces. I was just at a wedding where they had these gorgeous center pieces and it just so sad to think hundreds of dollars wasted on flower that are going to die. My cater gives us free use of her lanterns so-that's what we are doing!!
Missed you BLUNT- please check my old question about the invite misprint and let me know what you think!! You can answer on my other open question- were I am getting abused :)
Reply:My mom bought my flowers for my wedding, and they cost a grand total of $50. But um, as for you last additional info, bowtie pasta, a salad, and rolls happens to be one of my absolute favortie meals. I would have been perfectly happy to be at that reception!
Reply:yeah.. real flowers.. pretty and all.. but a waste of money in my eyes.. like.. dont get me wrong.. im an artist.. i LOVE nature and natural things.. but for my wedding.. im using fake flowers.. ALL the flowers i needed 5 bouquets.. 4 corsages.. my bouquet.. all the mens pins.. all came out to $120.. and also.. fake flowers.. TONS of more creativity.. im having two HUGE roses in my bouquet.. and i am using swirls of almost twig like pieces with grassy pieces behind it and bits of white flowers that i dont even know what they are but they look SO pretty!! and for the centerpieces we are using what the place provides (which is beauitiful) hurricane glasses and tea lights on a mirror square.. avoiding the flowers ALL together there!! lol
honestly.. all that i remembered about my brothers wedding was how much my sister in law paid for her flowers.. $3200!!!! i remember thinking it was crazy and that i would do anything to avoid that cost at my wedding and put my money into something more important to me.. like the photographer!!
Reply:I don't think you have to spend a lot of money and can have quality flowers. I like the wedding you saw above am going to have my maids put there bouquet of flowers in vases at there table. I am having my bouquet as my center piece and vase with candles on the rest of the tables, I am also doing silk flowers so I don't have to have them dried after wards, It is so expensive and ladies do you know what they use to do it ( they use the same powder as kitty litter)(yuck)
So I say dont ( real flowers die in the elements ) if you use them. There has to be something else you like to spen hundred of dollar on (your bridal party, favors, parents gifts, pictures) Best wishes and good luck Ihope I have helped!!
Reply:you don't have to splurge on flowers to get a nice effect. even simple things like scattered rose petals, or a single stem in a bud vase really brighten up the tables.
i personally HATE huge gaudy flower arrangements with 934 different kinds of flowers...
a wedding entirely without any flowers is sad. i went to a wedding where everything was silk, and i truly missed the flowers.
recycling the bouquets is a great idea...they can be used to decorate the head table even...
Reply:Hi:
Well, I wouldn't splurge, but you can still get a nice effect without splurging. Personally, I LOVE flowers but only real ones and not big gaudy arrangements, simple ones. I absolutely hate the huge silk flower ones. People think they are savings tons on silks....they are not. You can order wholesale flowers from many places online. Also from Costco and from Walmart. I agree with the other poster who said simple is more elegant. I couldn't agree more. A single rose in a bud vase with a few greens looks more elegant that a big huge bouquet of silks! One poster said she will only do candles....but what if your reception is mid-afternoon outside? You need to take into consideration the time of day and the venue. And, yes, I agree with "double duty" on the flowers. At my son's wedding the bridesmaids put their bouquets in vases at the head table - no more decorations needed! Just my two cents.
Reply:I agree. As long as it still looks elegant, there is no need to go overboard. I'm having a limited selection of flowers in simple arrangements. Hydrangeas, rannunculas (less expensive than peonies, but you get the same effect), stephanotis (but only in my bouquet), ivy, thistle, and cream roses. My theme is going to be a garden theme so I can't forego the flowers alltogether, but I'm certainly not going to spend a fortune on them! For only one day and then they die? I don't think so. The trick to decorating well is to use your existing surroundings to your advantage. Our reception will be in an event center in a park. Therefore, no need to decorate the outside, there will already be landscaping. The church has beautiful ceiling to floor windows that allow you to look right out into the trees, again no need to over decorate there. I'm still trying to come up with a few unique ways to tie in my theme without overdoing the flowers though, so I'll keep you updated.
Reply:Can I offer a suggestion? My wedding was quite elaborate and I didn't want to do the run of the mill flower centerpieces that everyone has. But I still did want the look of grandeur :) So instead I rented from a rental company large 6 candle candelabras for each table. They also decorated them to match my decor (which was wine and grapes) and had clusters of grapes hanging down off of them. They were spectacular! I still get compliments and this was a few years ago.
It was relatively cheap too, I think I spent $15/centerpiece +the decorating. It was probably the cheapest, yet one of the most memorable things at my wedding.
So no, you don't need flowers, you can make a statement with a lot of things.
Look into rental companies, you will be very surprised at what you can get for the money as compared to a floral centerpiece.
Reply:Most people don't notice the flowers or lack thereof. It's generally accepted to be one of the biggest money-wasters.
For me, I'm going to use non-floral centerpieces. We're going to use white paper lanterns with colored bulbs inside as the centerpiece for each table. Then I'm going to put a few mini-Chinese take-out boxes full of candies on each table. Maybe I'll scatter a few rose petals. I think it will be much more interesting and memorable than just a vase of flowers.
Reply:Hee! You're preaching to the choir here, babe!
My total flower bill (including accessories) was $35.
Okay, it was fourteen years ago, and the price would be a bit higher today, but still.
What did I get? Six bouquets, six boutonnieres, one corsage, and a rose to lay on each table at the reception.
I was getting married in a redwood grove, so lots of flowers would have been a case of brining coals to Newcastle. No point.
My MOH and I went the day before the wedding to the local open-to-the-public florist's supply and picked some of everything that was long-stemmed, cheap, and pretty. The only flowers I had that I can identify were the red roses. I picked those because that's the flower my husband always gives me. Roses are quite literally the only flower he can identify, and he knows I love red.
We got some florist's tape, ribbon, and corsage pins, and made up everything at the rehearsal dinner that night.
The sheaf bouquets were easy as pie to make (lay flowers in attractive order, tie ribbon, put in bucket of water so flowers don't die) and looked perfect. One handy friend took care of the fiddly bits.
if flowers aren't a priority to you, I highly recommend just finding something pretty and inexpensive the day before and tying them very simply. Nosegays and sheafs are the easiest.
For decorations, it's amazing how far a couple handsful of rose petals or a few scattered blooms around some other decorative item go.
Reply:I agree-too many flowers are tacky!
For our wedding, I used silk flowers-English ivory roses that I had in my home for at least 10 years, and they were perfect. Each bridemaid carried one, and I carried a bouquet of 5-one for family members that had passed away.
Reply:THANK YOU! This is what I tried to tell one of my friends about her wedding.
Glad someone sees things my way!
:)
Reply:Did you just use the word splurge?
Reply:How can anyone say flowers are a waste of money?! I've been to two weddings recently where they both used fake flowers and I was truly disappointed. Flowers are beautiful and really add to a wedding.
I am all for using them moderately but they are not a waste!
Reply:Wait? Was that a question or just an observation?
Simple but elegant wedding centerpiece ideas?
For my summer wedding, I am getting married in a beautiful historic barn, and the reception will start with a sit down dinner. The tables are long rectangular "farm tables". I wanted to decorate them with a long draping table runner, and with a thick row of all different heights of pillar candles. But, I can't use any candles in the barn, because of fire hazards. I want to keep the theme of a long streamed mix of one single item, over and over in a row down the entire center of the tables. Any ideas on what else I could use that would be as cheap as candles? I don't want flowers.
Simple but elegant wedding centerpiece ideas?
They make "flame-less" battery operated candles (also called flicker candles or everlasting candles) now, that would work well (especially if you use frosted holders).
You can get these for relatively inexpensive at Oriental trading
http://www.orientaltrading.com/applicati...
http://www.orientaltrading.com/applicati...
or Bed Bath and Beyond
http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/product....
http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/product....
Reply:you can try rose petals.
Reply:i agree with the wedding planner :) They do make flamelesss candles that look ALOT like real ones. I saw some at Bed Bath and Beyond. Try their website: www.bedbathandbeyond.com I think you could order some from there. Also try a party website. Good luck! and Congratulations!!!
Reply:Tell the story of your relationship with your husband in photographs. Frame them up and place them with captions all along the tables. Each table can have the same series.
Reply:There are some fireless candles that some stores sell and they look like real candles but instead of a wick, they have a light bulb (the size of Christmass tree lights) in them. It has the same effect as a real candle...it even flickers like real candles. They come in many differnt shapes and sizes. The guest will not be able to tell that the "flames" are not real unless the look into the candle. i think the name of them is "Everlasting Candle" or something like that!
Congrats and Good Luck! Hopefully this helps.
Some of the stores I have seen them are Bed, Bath, and Beyond, Linens-n-things, Target, etc.
Reply:floating candles are a wonderful center piece all you do is take a candle light candle and some mounting clay in a small glass bowl and add some fish marbles at the bottom and add water just two of those maybe three and you will be set they are beautiful my sister and her husband did an old western one at Old Tucson Studios here in Arizona where i live
Reply:I would do like two floral pieces on each end and a fruit bowl in the center..since its in a part I would have fresh whole fruits which would represent the farm style
Reply:use the fake flicker candles... you can get them cheap in bulk or just buy the flicker thing and carve out real candles and put them in there!! They look really nice and look the same.
Reply:To keep the rustic barn look this may look nice, assorted size silver or brass buckets, they are sometimes used as planters, and fill them with apples and tie twine around the buckets.
Reply:First of all Congrats! I have a really cute idea. The setting is in a barn right. So to make it classy yet fit with the scenery- I suggest getting old pails and filling them with wheat grass and putting three in a row-wheat grass is very cool right now- or if you want a classier look fill square vases(ikea and even walmart sometimes) with flat white rocks covered with fake moss(both available at pottery barn) then put the wheat grass on top of them. Or if you dont like that idea- find old wooden garden tools -stick them on sheet glass thats raised on painted cinderblocks. Hope this helps!
Reply:A friend of mine had a country wedding and she had SMALL potted plants- mostly herbs in various ceramic / glass containers that she got at Dollar Tree. The plants, which she grew from seeds. The barn had a wonderful fragrance - just like flowers.
BTW she let her guests take home the plants.
Reply:I was to a wedding recently where they bought simple daisies at a wholesale florist and all they did was take the flowers off the stems and placed them on runners down the center of the tables. It was lovely, summery and quite simple.
I don't know it this helps...I hope it does
Congrats
Reply:Try floating tea lights in a round shallow vase?? There shouldn't be so much flame that it would be a fire hazzard.
Reply:How about just a long row of different size square vases filled about halfway with water and put pedals floating on top.
http://didriks.com/SimonPearce/Glass/Vas...
Something like this but to scale. You can buy wider vases, shorter vases, etc.
http://i42.photobucket.com/albums/e343/e...
Reply:how about fruits and vegetables arranged to showcase all the different colors, textures and sizes? you can also infuse it with some barley, wheat, ears of corn, etc. to give it a bit of a thanksgiving feel, but it will still be in tune with th barn theme.
Simple but elegant wedding centerpiece ideas?
They make "flame-less" battery operated candles (also called flicker candles or everlasting candles) now, that would work well (especially if you use frosted holders).
You can get these for relatively inexpensive at Oriental trading
http://www.orientaltrading.com/applicati...
http://www.orientaltrading.com/applicati...
or Bed Bath and Beyond
http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/product....
http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/product....
Reply:you can try rose petals.
Reply:i agree with the wedding planner :) They do make flamelesss candles that look ALOT like real ones. I saw some at Bed Bath and Beyond. Try their website: www.bedbathandbeyond.com I think you could order some from there. Also try a party website. Good luck! and Congratulations!!!
Reply:Tell the story of your relationship with your husband in photographs. Frame them up and place them with captions all along the tables. Each table can have the same series.
Reply:There are some fireless candles that some stores sell and they look like real candles but instead of a wick, they have a light bulb (the size of Christmass tree lights) in them. It has the same effect as a real candle...it even flickers like real candles. They come in many differnt shapes and sizes. The guest will not be able to tell that the "flames" are not real unless the look into the candle. i think the name of them is "Everlasting Candle" or something like that!
Congrats and Good Luck! Hopefully this helps.
Some of the stores I have seen them are Bed, Bath, and Beyond, Linens-n-things, Target, etc.
Reply:floating candles are a wonderful center piece all you do is take a candle light candle and some mounting clay in a small glass bowl and add some fish marbles at the bottom and add water just two of those maybe three and you will be set they are beautiful my sister and her husband did an old western one at Old Tucson Studios here in Arizona where i live
Reply:I would do like two floral pieces on each end and a fruit bowl in the center..since its in a part I would have fresh whole fruits which would represent the farm style
Reply:use the fake flicker candles... you can get them cheap in bulk or just buy the flicker thing and carve out real candles and put them in there!! They look really nice and look the same.
Reply:To keep the rustic barn look this may look nice, assorted size silver or brass buckets, they are sometimes used as planters, and fill them with apples and tie twine around the buckets.
Reply:First of all Congrats! I have a really cute idea. The setting is in a barn right. So to make it classy yet fit with the scenery- I suggest getting old pails and filling them with wheat grass and putting three in a row-wheat grass is very cool right now- or if you want a classier look fill square vases(ikea and even walmart sometimes) with flat white rocks covered with fake moss(both available at pottery barn) then put the wheat grass on top of them. Or if you dont like that idea- find old wooden garden tools -stick them on sheet glass thats raised on painted cinderblocks. Hope this helps!
Reply:A friend of mine had a country wedding and she had SMALL potted plants- mostly herbs in various ceramic / glass containers that she got at Dollar Tree. The plants, which she grew from seeds. The barn had a wonderful fragrance - just like flowers.
BTW she let her guests take home the plants.
Reply:I was to a wedding recently where they bought simple daisies at a wholesale florist and all they did was take the flowers off the stems and placed them on runners down the center of the tables. It was lovely, summery and quite simple.
I don't know it this helps...I hope it does
Congrats
Reply:Try floating tea lights in a round shallow vase?? There shouldn't be so much flame that it would be a fire hazzard.
Reply:How about just a long row of different size square vases filled about halfway with water and put pedals floating on top.
http://didriks.com/SimonPearce/Glass/Vas...
Something like this but to scale. You can buy wider vases, shorter vases, etc.
http://i42.photobucket.com/albums/e343/e...
Reply:how about fruits and vegetables arranged to showcase all the different colors, textures and sizes? you can also infuse it with some barley, wheat, ears of corn, etc. to give it a bit of a thanksgiving feel, but it will still be in tune with th barn theme.
Getting married in October, need tips on Irish and German Wedding traditions?!?!?
I have done research on this as well, and I plan on doing an Irish toast, the whole 3day German wedding thing, but I need some more tips, suggestions, advice, etc......We've decided to go w/ this, cuz like I said we're getting married for free, but I've found out that the Justice whose performing the ceremony is actually from Germany and has all german native flowers in his garden where the ceremony will take place (depending on weather). Money is still an issue, unfortunately can't afford an Asian themed ceremony,
but since I'm Irish, and he's (groom) German, our family is helping out a ton in the ceremony, reception and honeymoon (which will be in Germany where we will celebrate Oktoberfest.
Any tips will be appreciated, thank you all so much!!!!
Getting married in October, need tips on Irish and German Wedding traditions?!?!?
I have organized, or at least helped w/ many Irish, and German weddings, but none incorporated together yet, I like that, original. Here are some tips for both traditions that you might be able to use. Good luck and Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
IRISH-
Bunratty Meade,
Lucky horseshoe. Irish brides used to carry a real horseshoe for good luck. (Turned up so the luck won't run out).
Irish Dancers. Consider hiring a group of Irish dancers to hand out your programs before the ceremony. Dressed in their full regalia, it would add a wonderful touch of pageantry and color. They could also dance at the reception later.
Music. There's so much wonderful Irish music available, you'll have no problems in finding appropriate selections for both the ceremony and the reception.
The Irish Wedding Song.
Flowers. In the old days, many Irish brides wore a wreath of wildflowers in their hair; they also carried them in bouquets.
Portents and omens:
A bride who can sing well is expected to sing at the wedding.
A fine day meant good luck, especially if the sun shone on the bride. If you're a Roman Catholic, one way to make certain that it won't rain is to put a statue of the Infant of Prague outside the church before your ceremony. But if you were/are protestant, it is good luck if it rains on your wedding day, even if it's pouring, just for a moment or just a drizzle.
It was unlucky to marry on a Saturday.
Those who married in harvest would spend all their lives gathering
A man should always be the first to wish joy to the bride, never a woman
It was lucky to hear a cuckoo on the wedding morning, or to see three magpies
To meet a funeral on the road meant bad luck and if there was a funeral procession planned for that day, the wedding party always took a different road
The wedding party should always take the longest road home from the church
It was bad luck if a glass or cup were broken on the wedding day
A bride and groom should never wash their hands in the same sink at the same time—it's courting disaster if they do
It was said to be lucky if you married during a 'growing moon and a flowing tide'
When leaving the church, someone must throw an old shoe over the bride's head so she will have good luck (not so popular, but very traditional)
If the bride's mother-in-law breaks a piece of wedding cake on the bride's head as she enters the house after the ceremony, they will be friends for life. (Rarely used, not too suggested, lol
but again very traditional)
GERMAN-
Veils are usually fingertip length, and very seldom worn over the face when a bride walks down the aisle. Some brides (especially Catholic) wear veils that are the same length as their gowns. Some brides take their veils off during the reception, but NEVER before the first dance with their husband and their father. A veil is not a must. Some brides wear only a flowery headband with ribbons hanging down the sides or the back of their head, some prefer both the headband and the veil. Tiara's, little crowns and hats are also a often seen addition. Most brides carry a little draw string purse down the aisle, and also wear gloves. A bride stays in her wedding dress all day, not only a few hours as they do in America. Most receptions last until the early morning hours, and most brides will not change into a different outfit, but wear their gown the whole time. It is also customary for the bride to get dressed at home (most choose their parents home), and then drive to church already dressed in their gown. Most have a beautician come to the house to fix their hair, veil and make up as well. The groom and Groomsmen usually wear a black suit.
bridesmaids, groomsmen or flower girls etc. are seldom to be seen at a German wedding. It is not customary. Also, usually the bride and groom enter the church together and walk down the aisle together. The reason for this is that in Germany it is not legal to marry "only" in a church ceremony. The couple has to be married by the justice of peace, or as in Germany called "Standesbeamte" first. This usually takes place a few days before the actual church ceremony. So when they marry in church they are actually already married by law. For this ceremony the couple, the closest family members and friends get together in the court house, and then the couple will be married by the "Standesbeamte." Usually afterwards is a dinner. For this type of wedding brides mostly either wear a 2-piece outfit (skirt and jacket) or an informal dress. Some choose white, especially if they don't have a church wedding to follow. Courthouse Weddings last about 30 minutes, church Ceremonies can last up to 1 1/2 hours and more. There is a lot of singing, praying, and a sermon as well.
the first dance is danced by the bride and the groom, it is traditionally a waltz. The next dance is only for bride with her father and groom with mother, while bride's mother dances with groom's father.
Junggesellenabschied - a few days before the wedding the groom and his male friends go to a pub or sometimes other places to drink and have fun.
Polterabend - this is an informal (informal dress and food) party at the evening before the wedding where plates and dishes are smashed (the broken pieces are thought to bring good luck to the bride). The bride and groom have to clean up everything.
Flowers - besides the flowers for the bride and in church, the hood of the wedding car is decorated with lots of flowers.
Veil Dance - this is a popular game for a wedding evening. Every woman or man who wants to dance with the groom or bride, has to pay for it.(this is extrememly popular)
White Ribbon - the bride carries lengths of white ribbon with her bouquet, and after the church ceremony is over and the guests are leaving the church, she hands each driver a ribbon that they tie to the radio antenna.
Wedding Evening - at the wedding evening a lot of games are played, speeches are held (the first normally from the father of the bride), sometimes a wedding newspaper is handed out. Songs are sung, and so on.
Reply:Irish and German? I reccomend getting lots and lots of beer.
Reply:have you decided on rings yet? ApplesofGold jewelry has fantastic Celtic/Irish wedding rings, and then there's the German Posie Rings, too.
I don't know if the Hand-Binding is Irish or Scottish, it may just be Celtic--but it would be a neat gesture!!
but since I'm Irish, and he's (groom) German, our family is helping out a ton in the ceremony, reception and honeymoon (which will be in Germany where we will celebrate Oktoberfest.
Any tips will be appreciated, thank you all so much!!!!
Getting married in October, need tips on Irish and German Wedding traditions?!?!?
I have organized, or at least helped w/ many Irish, and German weddings, but none incorporated together yet, I like that, original. Here are some tips for both traditions that you might be able to use. Good luck and Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
IRISH-
Bunratty Meade,
Lucky horseshoe. Irish brides used to carry a real horseshoe for good luck. (Turned up so the luck won't run out).
Irish Dancers. Consider hiring a group of Irish dancers to hand out your programs before the ceremony. Dressed in their full regalia, it would add a wonderful touch of pageantry and color. They could also dance at the reception later.
Music. There's so much wonderful Irish music available, you'll have no problems in finding appropriate selections for both the ceremony and the reception.
The Irish Wedding Song.
Flowers. In the old days, many Irish brides wore a wreath of wildflowers in their hair; they also carried them in bouquets.
Portents and omens:
A bride who can sing well is expected to sing at the wedding.
A fine day meant good luck, especially if the sun shone on the bride. If you're a Roman Catholic, one way to make certain that it won't rain is to put a statue of the Infant of Prague outside the church before your ceremony. But if you were/are protestant, it is good luck if it rains on your wedding day, even if it's pouring, just for a moment or just a drizzle.
It was unlucky to marry on a Saturday.
Those who married in harvest would spend all their lives gathering
A man should always be the first to wish joy to the bride, never a woman
It was lucky to hear a cuckoo on the wedding morning, or to see three magpies
To meet a funeral on the road meant bad luck and if there was a funeral procession planned for that day, the wedding party always took a different road
The wedding party should always take the longest road home from the church
It was bad luck if a glass or cup were broken on the wedding day
A bride and groom should never wash their hands in the same sink at the same time—it's courting disaster if they do
It was said to be lucky if you married during a 'growing moon and a flowing tide'
When leaving the church, someone must throw an old shoe over the bride's head so she will have good luck (not so popular, but very traditional)
If the bride's mother-in-law breaks a piece of wedding cake on the bride's head as she enters the house after the ceremony, they will be friends for life. (Rarely used, not too suggested, lol
but again very traditional)
GERMAN-
Veils are usually fingertip length, and very seldom worn over the face when a bride walks down the aisle. Some brides (especially Catholic) wear veils that are the same length as their gowns. Some brides take their veils off during the reception, but NEVER before the first dance with their husband and their father. A veil is not a must. Some brides wear only a flowery headband with ribbons hanging down the sides or the back of their head, some prefer both the headband and the veil. Tiara's, little crowns and hats are also a often seen addition. Most brides carry a little draw string purse down the aisle, and also wear gloves. A bride stays in her wedding dress all day, not only a few hours as they do in America. Most receptions last until the early morning hours, and most brides will not change into a different outfit, but wear their gown the whole time. It is also customary for the bride to get dressed at home (most choose their parents home), and then drive to church already dressed in their gown. Most have a beautician come to the house to fix their hair, veil and make up as well. The groom and Groomsmen usually wear a black suit.
bridesmaids, groomsmen or flower girls etc. are seldom to be seen at a German wedding. It is not customary. Also, usually the bride and groom enter the church together and walk down the aisle together. The reason for this is that in Germany it is not legal to marry "only" in a church ceremony. The couple has to be married by the justice of peace, or as in Germany called "Standesbeamte" first. This usually takes place a few days before the actual church ceremony. So when they marry in church they are actually already married by law. For this ceremony the couple, the closest family members and friends get together in the court house, and then the couple will be married by the "Standesbeamte." Usually afterwards is a dinner. For this type of wedding brides mostly either wear a 2-piece outfit (skirt and jacket) or an informal dress. Some choose white, especially if they don't have a church wedding to follow. Courthouse Weddings last about 30 minutes, church Ceremonies can last up to 1 1/2 hours and more. There is a lot of singing, praying, and a sermon as well.
the first dance is danced by the bride and the groom, it is traditionally a waltz. The next dance is only for bride with her father and groom with mother, while bride's mother dances with groom's father.
Junggesellenabschied - a few days before the wedding the groom and his male friends go to a pub or sometimes other places to drink and have fun.
Polterabend - this is an informal (informal dress and food) party at the evening before the wedding where plates and dishes are smashed (the broken pieces are thought to bring good luck to the bride). The bride and groom have to clean up everything.
Flowers - besides the flowers for the bride and in church, the hood of the wedding car is decorated with lots of flowers.
Veil Dance - this is a popular game for a wedding evening. Every woman or man who wants to dance with the groom or bride, has to pay for it.(this is extrememly popular)
White Ribbon - the bride carries lengths of white ribbon with her bouquet, and after the church ceremony is over and the guests are leaving the church, she hands each driver a ribbon that they tie to the radio antenna.
Wedding Evening - at the wedding evening a lot of games are played, speeches are held (the first normally from the father of the bride), sometimes a wedding newspaper is handed out. Songs are sung, and so on.
Reply:Irish and German? I reccomend getting lots and lots of beer.
Reply:have you decided on rings yet? ApplesofGold jewelry has fantastic Celtic/Irish wedding rings, and then there's the German Posie Rings, too.
I don't know if the Hand-Binding is Irish or Scottish, it may just be Celtic--but it would be a neat gesture!!
Planning my own wedding?
Ok I am in Barrie On Canada and I don't know where to start. I know we are getting married on jan 19th 2009 and we talked the priest at a local catholic chruch and he said he will do it but I dont know where to start.......like flowers, invitations, reception stuff, traditions etc,....my maid of honour has cancer so shes in and out of the hospital and cant help much and my mom works alot sooo kind of doing this alone.
Planning my own wedding?
Okay, so I know it seems like a lot but it is a matter of just thinking it through. Start with the big things. For example, you will want to get the stuff that books up quickly. This would include the wedding site, ceremony site, videographer, photographer, caterers, hair/makeup and florist. In regards to the caterer, hair/makeup, florist, videographer and photographer, don't worry so much about getting specific centerpieces or menus picked out. Find vendors whose style and previous work you like; you can worry about the exact details as they come along, you just want to start getting people booked.
Next, you should probable move on to the attire. Tuxes or suits aren't a big deal yet, but you should start working on getting the wedding dress and bridesmaids ordered. This is just a start, but here's a website with more details.
http://www.todays-weddings.com/planning/...
Another good thought maybe getting a wedding planner; they are used to working with a types of budgets and situations and could make things a lot easier.
Good luck!
Reply:congrats and i hope your maid of honor will be ok
i would use this it looks very detailed
http://www.northcoastjournal.com/wedding...
Reply:CONGRATULATIONS!!!
You've really taken the first big step, you've set the date and you have the priest arranged. You can now start planning all of the fun stuff! I know it really can seem overwhelming at first, but if you relax, stay organised and plan carefully it shouldn't be too stressful.
First, you need to know what your budget is - that will define every other decision you make for your wedding. Once that's decided, you can play with everything else.
DRESS:
You need to organise your dress (but I bet you've already got some idea of what you want), you need to be aware that some companies have a 6 month lead time for ordering, so you'll need to get on that as soon as possible so you have time for fittings and alterations. Please remember to read the contracts when you're buying your dress, don't let them bully you into signing without reading it and find out everything that is included...and more importantly what ISN'T included.
RECEPTION
You need to look at reception venues and decide what fits your budget, your theme (usually a colour) and your personal style. Do they offer catering? If your budget is tight will they let you self cater? Can you supply your own alcohol?
INVITATIONS
Send either invitations or 'Save The Date' cards out as early as possible so that people know to mark it in their calendars.
These days, the print at home (or on the sly at work lol) invitations are so good they give some printing companies a run for their money. Stores like http://www.save-on-crafts.com are great, not only for invitations but for inspiration on reception decor and money saving tips.
FLORISTRY
Churches usually have flowers delivered so you may not need, or want, to decorate that venue. Your bouquet colours will likely depend on your dress and your theme - approach your local florist and ask about their wedding packages. Ask the church who does their flowers - it's often not a florist but a paritioner who loves flowers, you may be able to save some real money by finding local ladies flower arranging groups too.
CAKE
These usually require booking well in advance - ask for recommendations from friends or family that have been married, never sign on a baker without tasting their cake first!
There are some wonderful wedding websites that provide a wealth of information about planning your wedding and I would advise buying a wedding planning diary as soon as possible to keep track of everything.
Check out some of the following sites for more information:
http://www.theknot.com
http://www.cheap-wedding-success.co.uk ( a British site, but if you're on a budget there's LOADS of information on small, inexpensive but not 'cheap' alternatives).
http://www.bridesdiary.com.au/ (An Australian site with some great tips)
www.canadianbride.com (Great tips again for Canucks)
And of course...HERE. There's loads of Brides, Mothers of Brides, Grooms, Former Brides and even a random Wedding Planner, Cake Decorator and Florist or two on here. We're all happy to help with advice.
Good luck; and remember, it's a wedding...enjoy it, have fun!
Reply:The following websites are going to help you plan your wedding. Congratulations!
www.theknot.com
www.brides.com
Congratulations!
Reply:Good for you for asking for help. My daughter just planned her wedding in 3 months. Not any reason except she wanted to get married. She was a wonder woman at looking things up and asking lots of questions. The best person to help us was our Photographer. she was god sent and suggested so many things we did not think about. There are lots of books and web sites that will help guide you through the whole process. If money permits there are wedding planners but heck, make it you own and do what YOU want. I was told by many that my daughters wedding was one of the most beautiful weddings they attended. The ceremony, dinner and dance was all in the same hotel but in different rooms. The out of town people loved that they did not have to leave to go anywhere. We were lucky enough to have a "decorating rehersal." Our Photographer was there to get to know the important people and help guide us through it all.
My suggestion is to start with the hall or banquet center then work on the rest from there. Whatever you do don't stress yourself out. The important thing is that you will be married and that was the highlight of the whole day for my daughter.
Watch Bridezilla and see what NOT to do.
Good luck and Congrats to you all.
Reply:1. Is budget. Get an idea of how much you want to spend on the ceremony (dress, tuxes, flowers, decor, paying the people, etc), reception (rentals, decor, etc), invites, etc. Start with deciding what things you want to rent so you can get on the rental list ahead of time so you don't miss out on cool things you want to rent for your wedding (punch bowl/fountain, chocolate fountain, isle runners, columns, candelabras, etc). Also start with looking for a dress, even though it seems far in advance, it can take up to 6 months for them to get your dress ordered and all alterations made. It took 4 months for my dress order and alteration. If you want to have the dress of your dreams you need to start in advance. Next, make sure you don't need to do premarital counseling and get that going ahead of time if you do. Start making the invite list and gather addresses. The invites need to be decided upon in advance b/c these also take a few months to get sometimes. Then begin thinking of extras after this such as bouqet types, gifts for guests, etc. Do as much early as possible to prevent being rejected by a place b/c they already have everything rented out for weddings or can't get your dress or invites in time or already are making cakes for a different wedding, etc. Try to decide who will play the piano or organ or sing, etc.
Reply:Congrats on the engagement! I would start with setting the ceremony and reception sites. Then visit www.theknot.com... this website saved my life during my wedding planning. It has check lists and time lines. But don't be overwhelmed by all the items on the lists, you can eliminate them as needed or as completed.
Have fun planning and don't get too hung up on little things as many brides can often do... also... if someone offers to help, as your help sounds limited... graciously accept and let others help you if you can. Just remember what you want and don't let others talk you out of the wedding you would like.
coach fur boots
Planning my own wedding?
Okay, so I know it seems like a lot but it is a matter of just thinking it through. Start with the big things. For example, you will want to get the stuff that books up quickly. This would include the wedding site, ceremony site, videographer, photographer, caterers, hair/makeup and florist. In regards to the caterer, hair/makeup, florist, videographer and photographer, don't worry so much about getting specific centerpieces or menus picked out. Find vendors whose style and previous work you like; you can worry about the exact details as they come along, you just want to start getting people booked.
Next, you should probable move on to the attire. Tuxes or suits aren't a big deal yet, but you should start working on getting the wedding dress and bridesmaids ordered. This is just a start, but here's a website with more details.
http://www.todays-weddings.com/planning/...
Another good thought maybe getting a wedding planner; they are used to working with a types of budgets and situations and could make things a lot easier.
Good luck!
Reply:congrats and i hope your maid of honor will be ok
i would use this it looks very detailed
http://www.northcoastjournal.com/wedding...
Reply:CONGRATULATIONS!!!
You've really taken the first big step, you've set the date and you have the priest arranged. You can now start planning all of the fun stuff! I know it really can seem overwhelming at first, but if you relax, stay organised and plan carefully it shouldn't be too stressful.
First, you need to know what your budget is - that will define every other decision you make for your wedding. Once that's decided, you can play with everything else.
DRESS:
You need to organise your dress (but I bet you've already got some idea of what you want), you need to be aware that some companies have a 6 month lead time for ordering, so you'll need to get on that as soon as possible so you have time for fittings and alterations. Please remember to read the contracts when you're buying your dress, don't let them bully you into signing without reading it and find out everything that is included...and more importantly what ISN'T included.
RECEPTION
You need to look at reception venues and decide what fits your budget, your theme (usually a colour) and your personal style. Do they offer catering? If your budget is tight will they let you self cater? Can you supply your own alcohol?
INVITATIONS
Send either invitations or 'Save The Date' cards out as early as possible so that people know to mark it in their calendars.
These days, the print at home (or on the sly at work lol) invitations are so good they give some printing companies a run for their money. Stores like http://www.save-on-crafts.com are great, not only for invitations but for inspiration on reception decor and money saving tips.
FLORISTRY
Churches usually have flowers delivered so you may not need, or want, to decorate that venue. Your bouquet colours will likely depend on your dress and your theme - approach your local florist and ask about their wedding packages. Ask the church who does their flowers - it's often not a florist but a paritioner who loves flowers, you may be able to save some real money by finding local ladies flower arranging groups too.
CAKE
These usually require booking well in advance - ask for recommendations from friends or family that have been married, never sign on a baker without tasting their cake first!
There are some wonderful wedding websites that provide a wealth of information about planning your wedding and I would advise buying a wedding planning diary as soon as possible to keep track of everything.
Check out some of the following sites for more information:
http://www.theknot.com
http://www.cheap-wedding-success.co.uk ( a British site, but if you're on a budget there's LOADS of information on small, inexpensive but not 'cheap' alternatives).
http://www.bridesdiary.com.au/ (An Australian site with some great tips)
www.canadianbride.com (Great tips again for Canucks)
And of course...HERE. There's loads of Brides, Mothers of Brides, Grooms, Former Brides and even a random Wedding Planner, Cake Decorator and Florist or two on here. We're all happy to help with advice.
Good luck; and remember, it's a wedding...enjoy it, have fun!
Reply:The following websites are going to help you plan your wedding. Congratulations!
www.theknot.com
www.brides.com
Congratulations!
Reply:Good for you for asking for help. My daughter just planned her wedding in 3 months. Not any reason except she wanted to get married. She was a wonder woman at looking things up and asking lots of questions. The best person to help us was our Photographer. she was god sent and suggested so many things we did not think about. There are lots of books and web sites that will help guide you through the whole process. If money permits there are wedding planners but heck, make it you own and do what YOU want. I was told by many that my daughters wedding was one of the most beautiful weddings they attended. The ceremony, dinner and dance was all in the same hotel but in different rooms. The out of town people loved that they did not have to leave to go anywhere. We were lucky enough to have a "decorating rehersal." Our Photographer was there to get to know the important people and help guide us through it all.
My suggestion is to start with the hall or banquet center then work on the rest from there. Whatever you do don't stress yourself out. The important thing is that you will be married and that was the highlight of the whole day for my daughter.
Watch Bridezilla and see what NOT to do.
Good luck and Congrats to you all.
Reply:1. Is budget. Get an idea of how much you want to spend on the ceremony (dress, tuxes, flowers, decor, paying the people, etc), reception (rentals, decor, etc), invites, etc. Start with deciding what things you want to rent so you can get on the rental list ahead of time so you don't miss out on cool things you want to rent for your wedding (punch bowl/fountain, chocolate fountain, isle runners, columns, candelabras, etc). Also start with looking for a dress, even though it seems far in advance, it can take up to 6 months for them to get your dress ordered and all alterations made. It took 4 months for my dress order and alteration. If you want to have the dress of your dreams you need to start in advance. Next, make sure you don't need to do premarital counseling and get that going ahead of time if you do. Start making the invite list and gather addresses. The invites need to be decided upon in advance b/c these also take a few months to get sometimes. Then begin thinking of extras after this such as bouqet types, gifts for guests, etc. Do as much early as possible to prevent being rejected by a place b/c they already have everything rented out for weddings or can't get your dress or invites in time or already are making cakes for a different wedding, etc. Try to decide who will play the piano or organ or sing, etc.
Reply:Congrats on the engagement! I would start with setting the ceremony and reception sites. Then visit www.theknot.com... this website saved my life during my wedding planning. It has check lists and time lines. But don't be overwhelmed by all the items on the lists, you can eliminate them as needed or as completed.
Have fun planning and don't get too hung up on little things as many brides can often do... also... if someone offers to help, as your help sounds limited... graciously accept and let others help you if you can. Just remember what you want and don't let others talk you out of the wedding you would like.
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I am helping with a friends wedding?
Does anyone have any unusual ideas for favors etc to be put on the tables at the reception?
We already have sweets, bubbles and flowers.
I am helping with a friends wedding?
I absolutely loved a website called Orientaltrading.com!!!! They were absolutely phenomenal with ideas to purchase. My hubby and I did fortune cookies as favors. They are made just for the wedding occasion! The website has tons of stuff to give you ideas and for wedding decorations also! Plus it is fairly cheap on a lot of things which is great for the buget.
Reply:why not try something unique to the couple. ie if he is a machanic get some nuts and bolts and put the person s name on them with a pretty ribbon. alternativley go and buy some pebbles and put the couples names on them, or try lotto scratch cards
Reply:quick quiz about the happy couple
on the confetti website aswell as others you can get trivia boxes good for getting guests to chat if not all well known to each other
depending on your style glow stuff there is so much ie straws whistles bracelets wands
fortune fish
if you have a set seating plan questions about the guests on each table another way to get them talking
this can be extended to the whole reception in the way of a competition
its very easy to get carried away with this sort of stuff with what you have already do you realy need any more
Reply:♥ I am signed up with www.weddingchannel.com and they are an excellent website. They have ALL the help you'll need finding the perfect everything to help your friend! ;-)
Reply:Little bells are always fun, and less messy than bubbles when the newlyweds leave. My brother and his fiance (wife) had beautifully gift-wrapped packs of playing cards on their table (they both live in Vegas and work in casinos). Think of something that will represent something unique about the couple. Also, ribbon running from one end of the table (if they are long) to the other helps keep the decor from looking crowded and luminarias provide great warm lighting without having to worry about some kid spilling wax everywhere. Good luck!
Reply:goldfish... I photographed a wedding and they had goldfish in bowls on each table with some gravel in the bottom. Didn't cost them much. They used the feeder gold fish, bowls were way under $1 each a bag of gravel went a long way. On top of each bowl floated a lit candle. It was very unique and gorgeous. At the end of the night, whoever wanted got to take one home.
Reply:I went to a wedding where all the female guests were given Paul Smith perfume! Really nice idea!
We already have sweets, bubbles and flowers.
I am helping with a friends wedding?
I absolutely loved a website called Orientaltrading.com!!!! They were absolutely phenomenal with ideas to purchase. My hubby and I did fortune cookies as favors. They are made just for the wedding occasion! The website has tons of stuff to give you ideas and for wedding decorations also! Plus it is fairly cheap on a lot of things which is great for the buget.
Reply:why not try something unique to the couple. ie if he is a machanic get some nuts and bolts and put the person s name on them with a pretty ribbon. alternativley go and buy some pebbles and put the couples names on them, or try lotto scratch cards
Reply:quick quiz about the happy couple
on the confetti website aswell as others you can get trivia boxes good for getting guests to chat if not all well known to each other
depending on your style glow stuff there is so much ie straws whistles bracelets wands
fortune fish
if you have a set seating plan questions about the guests on each table another way to get them talking
this can be extended to the whole reception in the way of a competition
its very easy to get carried away with this sort of stuff with what you have already do you realy need any more
Reply:♥ I am signed up with www.weddingchannel.com and they are an excellent website. They have ALL the help you'll need finding the perfect everything to help your friend! ;-)
Reply:Little bells are always fun, and less messy than bubbles when the newlyweds leave. My brother and his fiance (wife) had beautifully gift-wrapped packs of playing cards on their table (they both live in Vegas and work in casinos). Think of something that will represent something unique about the couple. Also, ribbon running from one end of the table (if they are long) to the other helps keep the decor from looking crowded and luminarias provide great warm lighting without having to worry about some kid spilling wax everywhere. Good luck!
Reply:goldfish... I photographed a wedding and they had goldfish in bowls on each table with some gravel in the bottom. Didn't cost them much. They used the feeder gold fish, bowls were way under $1 each a bag of gravel went a long way. On top of each bowl floated a lit candle. It was very unique and gorgeous. At the end of the night, whoever wanted got to take one home.
Reply:I went to a wedding where all the female guests were given Paul Smith perfume! Really nice idea!
Who sits at the head table at a wedding?
I have 4 bridemaids/ushers and a flower girl/ring bearer plus me and my future husband. That makes 12. Do the parents also sit at the table?
Also, during the entrance at the reception, I know they usually announce the grandparents but my grandmother is 90 and because she can't walk very much, she won't be walking down, I'd like to announce her in some way but not sure how to get the attention on her for a second. I feel bad because my fiancee's grandmother is going to walk and I want mine to get some recognition too.
Who sits at the head table at a wedding?
Typically, the head table is you and your husband and then the wedding party. The ushers do not usually sit at the head table, since most people want to keep the table even (same number of men and women). I have seen this done sometimes to include the flower girl and ring bearer too, but really there are no set rules. If they are especially young, you may want to seat them with their parents.
As far as parents go, most weddings have a main family table which will include parents, grandparents, and any special family members that are not in the wedding party. Usually, this table is right in front of the head table.
For your grand entrance, check with your reception site or DJ/band to see if they have special lighting that they can use to illuminate your seated grandmother during the role call. That way she is highlighted without having to make the walk. Or you can have her stand when they announce her.
Congrats!
Reply:Since it's your wedding, anyone you want at the head table would be the right choice. Traditionally, I believe it's the bridesmaids and groomsmen, although sometimes it's difficult to keep smaller children there without a parent. I've never seen the ushers and/or parents at the head table, but that's not to say it can't be done if that's what you want.
I'm assuming our grandmother will be in a wheelchair, so couldn't you have one of your ushers "escort" her? She would be announced like everyone else. If your grandfather is living, they could be announced just like normal, and he cold walk alongside her wheelchair. Don't worry-your grandmother will be beaming with pride!
Congratulations.
Reply:About the Grandmas
Have them both at their respective tables. Have the DJ announce them, they stand if you have a spotlight etc.
About the head table
Are you sure they still do that
In my area they do a "sweetheart" table for the two of you, and everyone else sits at what ever table you put them at. Kids next to their parents of course
Reply:I've never seen grandparents introduced. I liked the idea of the MC making special recognition of them before hand though. I dont feel it would be fair to have one walk in and one not, that just doesnt seem right to me and might make your grandmother feel akward.
At the head table it should be your wedding party minus the flower girl/ring bearers, no parents either. The parents are usually given each their own tables where you put the grandparents, and any other important family figures.
At the last wedding I was in, we had our spouses sitting at the head table as well, but that was because most of the bridesmaids and groomsmen were married to eachother, so there would only be 2 spouses sitting at the wedding party spouse table. So my husband and one of the groomsmen's wife sat with us. But it made it better because we all sat boy girl boy girl, instead of the normal girls on one side boys on the other.
Reply:At the head table...it is bride, groom, bridesmaids, and groomsmen. I didn't have my ushers/parents/flower girl sitting there. As for you Grandma take a moment after everyone has entered and have the D.J. announce her then when she is already seated...just give a little "shout out" to her. My Grandmother just recently turned 90, we are so lucky! Congrats!
Reply:i would suggest on the top table you have:
~ you and your husband
~ both sets of parents
~ best man or main man in his party, whoever would do the speech
~ it is not necessary to have the bridesmaids or ushers at the top table but they should be placed perhaps on the main table out of the rest, perhaps at the front in the middle?
~ dont need flower girl or ring bearer - put them with their parents
hmmm im not sure about your grandma.. perhaps you could have special photographs taken with your grandmother? that would be nice..
hope it helps, have a lovely wedding! x
Reply:Only the wedding party sits at the table with the bride and groom. every one else are sat at other tables. Oh yeah, No one sits at the head of the table. The bride and groom are seated in the middle next to each other. When your grandmother is announced, couldn't she already be seated and then just stand when she is mentioned?
Reply:Make a toast to your grandparents so they can all be recognized. Or have a point during your ceremony where you present a gift to each of the grandmothers.
"Head tables" are actually falling out of favor because they distance the wedding party from the rest of the guests and contribute to a feeling of "we are the wedding, you are the audience." Also it always upsets the wedding party when their significant others cannot fit at the head table, because they spend the reception away from their spouses or dates.
You might consider a different type of head table, like perhaps bride, groom, maid of honor and best man AND their dates. Other wedding party members can "host" their own tables among the guests.
No, the parents usually do not sit at the head table.
Reply:First of all YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT! It's YOUR wedding!! All the old rules are more of traditional guidelines these days instead of laws.
You can have anyone you want at the head table. I had just my husband and myself. Most people put the bridal party at the head table. The flower girl and ring bearer can sit with their parents.
The bride and grooms parents usually sit at a different table with their family members.
What you could do with your grandmother is either announce her and have her stand at her seat or remaing seated and have the person announcing everyone walk over to her. What I would suggest though, is to not announce either grandmother. The grandparents should be seated already when the formal entrance is starting. Usually the announcing stops with the parents of the bride and groom.
Reply:Bride@Groom
The Best man sits beside the groom on left side.
Maid of honor sits on right side of Bride
Ushers and bridesmaids make up the rest of the table.
Parents do not usually ( never yet seen it ) sit at the head table, nor do the flower girl(s).
Reply:We had the wedding party (just the bridesmaids and the grooms men) at our head table. The Junior attendants sat with their respective families, although my godchildren's family had their own reserved table.
At my sister-in-law's wedding, they had all the siblings at the head table, whether they stood up or not. I think this was just another one of her lame attempts to separate me and her brother, though. We sat and talked on our cell phones across the room all during dinner.
Reply:I think the 12 you mentioned is plenty for the head table. Let each set of parents "host" their own table.
As for grandma: Have her son wheel her down in a chair. If she won't do that, it's her choice to be left out.
Reply:For the head table: adult wedding party members generally sit there - children and parents if there is room. Parents are often seated right in front og the head table instead. For your grandma - instead of having them introduced walking in, have the MC introduce the grandparents in his welcoming speech by pointing them out and welcoming them especially.
Also, during the entrance at the reception, I know they usually announce the grandparents but my grandmother is 90 and because she can't walk very much, she won't be walking down, I'd like to announce her in some way but not sure how to get the attention on her for a second. I feel bad because my fiancee's grandmother is going to walk and I want mine to get some recognition too.
Who sits at the head table at a wedding?
Typically, the head table is you and your husband and then the wedding party. The ushers do not usually sit at the head table, since most people want to keep the table even (same number of men and women). I have seen this done sometimes to include the flower girl and ring bearer too, but really there are no set rules. If they are especially young, you may want to seat them with their parents.
As far as parents go, most weddings have a main family table which will include parents, grandparents, and any special family members that are not in the wedding party. Usually, this table is right in front of the head table.
For your grand entrance, check with your reception site or DJ/band to see if they have special lighting that they can use to illuminate your seated grandmother during the role call. That way she is highlighted without having to make the walk. Or you can have her stand when they announce her.
Congrats!
Reply:Since it's your wedding, anyone you want at the head table would be the right choice. Traditionally, I believe it's the bridesmaids and groomsmen, although sometimes it's difficult to keep smaller children there without a parent. I've never seen the ushers and/or parents at the head table, but that's not to say it can't be done if that's what you want.
I'm assuming our grandmother will be in a wheelchair, so couldn't you have one of your ushers "escort" her? She would be announced like everyone else. If your grandfather is living, they could be announced just like normal, and he cold walk alongside her wheelchair. Don't worry-your grandmother will be beaming with pride!
Congratulations.
Reply:About the Grandmas
Have them both at their respective tables. Have the DJ announce them, they stand if you have a spotlight etc.
About the head table
Are you sure they still do that
In my area they do a "sweetheart" table for the two of you, and everyone else sits at what ever table you put them at. Kids next to their parents of course
Reply:I've never seen grandparents introduced. I liked the idea of the MC making special recognition of them before hand though. I dont feel it would be fair to have one walk in and one not, that just doesnt seem right to me and might make your grandmother feel akward.
At the head table it should be your wedding party minus the flower girl/ring bearers, no parents either. The parents are usually given each their own tables where you put the grandparents, and any other important family figures.
At the last wedding I was in, we had our spouses sitting at the head table as well, but that was because most of the bridesmaids and groomsmen were married to eachother, so there would only be 2 spouses sitting at the wedding party spouse table. So my husband and one of the groomsmen's wife sat with us. But it made it better because we all sat boy girl boy girl, instead of the normal girls on one side boys on the other.
Reply:At the head table...it is bride, groom, bridesmaids, and groomsmen. I didn't have my ushers/parents/flower girl sitting there. As for you Grandma take a moment after everyone has entered and have the D.J. announce her then when she is already seated...just give a little "shout out" to her. My Grandmother just recently turned 90, we are so lucky! Congrats!
Reply:i would suggest on the top table you have:
~ you and your husband
~ both sets of parents
~ best man or main man in his party, whoever would do the speech
~ it is not necessary to have the bridesmaids or ushers at the top table but they should be placed perhaps on the main table out of the rest, perhaps at the front in the middle?
~ dont need flower girl or ring bearer - put them with their parents
hmmm im not sure about your grandma.. perhaps you could have special photographs taken with your grandmother? that would be nice..
hope it helps, have a lovely wedding! x
Reply:Only the wedding party sits at the table with the bride and groom. every one else are sat at other tables. Oh yeah, No one sits at the head of the table. The bride and groom are seated in the middle next to each other. When your grandmother is announced, couldn't she already be seated and then just stand when she is mentioned?
Reply:Make a toast to your grandparents so they can all be recognized. Or have a point during your ceremony where you present a gift to each of the grandmothers.
"Head tables" are actually falling out of favor because they distance the wedding party from the rest of the guests and contribute to a feeling of "we are the wedding, you are the audience." Also it always upsets the wedding party when their significant others cannot fit at the head table, because they spend the reception away from their spouses or dates.
You might consider a different type of head table, like perhaps bride, groom, maid of honor and best man AND their dates. Other wedding party members can "host" their own tables among the guests.
No, the parents usually do not sit at the head table.
Reply:First of all YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT! It's YOUR wedding!! All the old rules are more of traditional guidelines these days instead of laws.
You can have anyone you want at the head table. I had just my husband and myself. Most people put the bridal party at the head table. The flower girl and ring bearer can sit with their parents.
The bride and grooms parents usually sit at a different table with their family members.
What you could do with your grandmother is either announce her and have her stand at her seat or remaing seated and have the person announcing everyone walk over to her. What I would suggest though, is to not announce either grandmother. The grandparents should be seated already when the formal entrance is starting. Usually the announcing stops with the parents of the bride and groom.
Reply:Bride@Groom
The Best man sits beside the groom on left side.
Maid of honor sits on right side of Bride
Ushers and bridesmaids make up the rest of the table.
Parents do not usually ( never yet seen it ) sit at the head table, nor do the flower girl(s).
Reply:We had the wedding party (just the bridesmaids and the grooms men) at our head table. The Junior attendants sat with their respective families, although my godchildren's family had their own reserved table.
At my sister-in-law's wedding, they had all the siblings at the head table, whether they stood up or not. I think this was just another one of her lame attempts to separate me and her brother, though. We sat and talked on our cell phones across the room all during dinner.
Reply:I think the 12 you mentioned is plenty for the head table. Let each set of parents "host" their own table.
As for grandma: Have her son wheel her down in a chair. If she won't do that, it's her choice to be left out.
Reply:For the head table: adult wedding party members generally sit there - children and parents if there is room. Parents are often seated right in front og the head table instead. For your grandma - instead of having them introduced walking in, have the MC introduce the grandparents in his welcoming speech by pointing them out and welcoming them especially.
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